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Dan Savage, creator of the It Gets Better Project, is answering some of your questions regarding sex and relationships over at The Huffington Post.
Long distance relationships? Lesbians watching straight porn? Racism versus racial "preference" in the gay dating world? Herpes?!
No subject's off-limits!
More after the jump.
Here are two Q&A's that we enjoyed:
I'm a masculine, white gay guy who only likes other white masculine guys. I get called out on this sometimes -- but I can't help who I like. Does this make me an asshole or racist? Not necessarily. You're entitled to your preferences -- but I hope your preferences are yours. I hope you've given your taste in men some thought and you can honestly say that these are your preferences, Masculine Man, and not just gay beauty ideals and/or masculinity standards that the culture stuffed down your throat and up your ass. And if they're your preferences, well, you're entitled to them. But you're not entitled to be an asshole about them. There's no need to put "Whites dudes only -- just my preference!" in your Dudes Nude profile, for instance; no need to put "No flamers, no fems -- if I wanted to be with a woman, I'd be with a woman!" in your OK Cupid profile. Don't insult people and then try to hide behind, "Just my preferences, bro." You can like what you like and be considerate at the same time.
Long-distance relationships, yay or nay? How do you make one work? Remember the "don't ask/don't tell" policy? It prevented openly gay people from serving in the military -- and it's history. Obama signed the repeal of DADT into law last year. Since we don't need it anymore -- since the Marines don't need it anymore -- I think people in long-distance relationships should steal it. Adopt a DADT policy -- no asking, no telling -- during your time apart and then, once you get back together and a year or two has passed and you're sure you're going to stay together, get good and drunk and swap stories about the cheap and meaningless DFMOs you both enjoyed when you were long distance.
Check out more of Dan Savage's advice here and check out his new TV show Savage U, where he provides sex and relationship advice to college students across the country over on MTV!
What do you think of Dan's advice, Instincters? Got any of your own?
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