UPDATE: New Video Reveals That Anderson Cooper Probably Didn't Break Up With Ben Maisani
Written by Instinct Staff |
Thursday, 16 August 2012
Updated Monday, 1:30 p.m. EST
Unfortunately for Anderson Cooper, gays finally have their own real life celebrity love triangle/relationship drama unfolding in front of paparazzi cameras to obsess over.
Equality!
Fortunately for those of us either rooting for love or rooting for the mainstream attention paid to the LGBT tradition of "open relationshipos," a new video taken in Croatia shows Anderson and Ben together on vacation.
Apologies to those of you hoping that Anderson (or Ben) had returned to the marketplace.
(Original post)
Because this comes from the Pulitzer Prize not-winning National Enquirer, we're taking this with extra grains of salt rimming our third morningtime margarita: Anderson Cooper has allegedly sent boyfriend Ben packing after the Internet caught on fire from kissgate!
The National Enquirer reports that Anderson Cooper has asked Benjamin Maisani to move out of their New York home following Ben's game of lip-lock with another player:
ANDERSON COOPER has kicked his two-timing boyfriend out of their Manhattan apartment and called off their engagement after seeing photos of the chiseled cheater kissing another man in a New York City park.
“Anderson was furious when he saw those photos,” a source told The ENQUIRER. “They caught him completely off-guard.
“Ben runs with a really fast crowd in New York, and Anderson always knew that his boyfriend was exposed to hot young gay men at his bar. But he also believed he could trust Ben to remain faithful to him.”
“Anderson’s shattered,” the source added. “He felt secure enough with Ben that he took the bold step of coming out as gay this year. He was confident that their relationship was strong. Now he knows that they are finished forever. Anderson’s a strong man, and he’ll put on a brave face, but the truth is he’s absolutely devastated.”
Aside from the fact that we don't know when these photos of Maisani were taken (or if they're even real), we don't have the faintest clue about the terms of his relationship with Cooper. There's a very good chance that for Maisani, like many gay men in long-term, healthy, committed relationships, a make-out session in the park is not only acceptable but just another typical Saturday-afternoon activity.
It can be hard for some people -- both straight and queer -- to fathom that a non-monogamous relationship could not only function satisfactorily but be an ideal arrangement. But in the queer community, which has fewer hangups and restrictions on sex and less rigid parameters on with whom and how we love and lust, open relationships have long provided the stability of partnership with the excitement of being able to meet and sleep with other people.
So instead of assuming that Maisani was cheating on Cooper, as almost all the media outlets have done, why not assume that Cooper knew exactly where his boyfriend was and had simply said, "Have fun with Bob. I'll see you later tonight. Oh, and can you pick up some more milk? We're almost out"?
The reality of the situation will likely always evade us (Anderson's known for keeping his privacy) but can (and should) the story be used as a teachable moment for mainstream America?
Oh, are we supposed to be taking cues for Noah Michelson again? Lame. Didn't he do enough damage at Out Mag.
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... written by vballTVG,
August 16, 2012
Let's assume that cooper didn't know that his boyfriend was cheater. People do get blinded by love and ignore all the signs cause they are in love and they trust n have Faith in each other as mongamous relationship. But I just hope cooper does not take him back.
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... written by BDR,
August 16, 2012
Anderson...I'm not a cheater...and I'm available!
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... written by Craig F,
August 16, 2012
Never quite understood why they call open-relationships RELATIONSHIPS anyways. They're such a joke, and I'm sure someone as highly intelligent as Anderson Cooper is full-aware of this.
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... written by Tai,
August 16, 2012
Wow. Judging by all the vitriol in the previous comments, I would say Noah's more forward-thinking and compassionate angle fell on deaf ears. Very unfortunate.
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... written by Uptonking,
August 16, 2012
You said "rimming" Ummm... who cares about this? I think there are probably more important things to concern ourselves about... like say... imagining the two of them finding themselves alone in the locker room after a hearty work out... all those mirrors going to waste. Anderson looks Ben. Ben looks at Anderson. And... sigh. Eh - the National Enquirer can entertain their fantasies about Anderson Cooper, and I, will entertain mine... oh, there goes the soap.
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... written by rugguer,
August 16, 2012
Keep your chin up anderson...at the end of the day you should be able to trust your love in all ways..
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... written by Phister,
August 16, 2012
I now understand why Anderson Cooper stayed in the closet for as long as he did. Coming-out has only made his personal life a open-book. I'll bet he's regretting his disclosure big-time!
The problem with Coming Out is that you can't go back in.
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... written by brian emmet,
August 16, 2012
rim this, bitch!
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... written by isa,
August 17, 2012
Of course this story is mostly incorrect as there's a video from Croatia showing Anderson Cooper standing by Ben on the yacht & also showing Kelly Ripa, Andy Cohen, Anderson Cooper & Ben walking on the docks. Obviously Ben was not kicked off any boat.
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... written by Lkeels,
August 20, 2012
Why do you all assume that Ben was cheating? Many gay men have open relationships or other arrangments...why should they be any different. For all you know, Anderson may find this hot. I know I do!
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... written by Jennifer Ogunfiditimi,
August 20, 2012
I was actually appalled to read some of the views expressed by the writer. Where did they get their facts regarding gays and lesbians?? There's a very good chance that for Maisani, like many gay men in long-term, healthy, committed relationships, a make-out session in the park is not only acceptable but just another typical Saturday-afternoon activity. Lesbians and gays have monogamous relationships probably a hell of alot more than straight couples and it's rather appalling that you actually write this garbage and demean our relationships but have the nerve to say Americans could learn from this...WHAT!!!!! AMERICA THIS IS FALSE...It is not acceptable even in the LGBT community to be a cheater...we like monogamy as well...smmfh
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... written by Aaron cyr,
August 20, 2012
]The statement written about gay / lesbian relationships is complete ignorance !!! Redicuouse !!! Before trying to make ur own opinion a fact , u need to stop and actually get facts don't just make shit up ! Thanks ....
