UPDATE: New Video Reveals That Anderson Cooper Probably Didn't Break Up With Ben Maisani
Written by Instinct Staff |
Thursday, 16 August 2012
Updated Monday, 1:30 p.m. EST
Unfortunately for Anderson Cooper, gays finally have their own real life celebrity love triangle/relationship drama unfolding in front of paparazzi cameras to obsess over.
Fortunately for those of us either rooting for love or rooting for the mainstream attention paid to the LGBT tradition of "open relationshipos," a new video taken in Croatia shows Anderson and Ben together on vacation.
Apologies to those of you hoping that Anderson (or Ben) had returned to the marketplace.
Because this comes from the Pulitzer Prize not-winning National Enquirer, we're taking this with extra grains of salt rimming our third morningtime margarita: Anderson Cooper has allegedly sent boyfriend Ben packing after the Internet caught on fire from kissgate!
The National Enquirer reports that Anderson Cooper has asked Benjamin Maisani to move out of their New York home following Ben's game of lip-lock with another player:
ANDERSON COOPER has kicked his two-timing boyfriend out of their Manhattan apartment and called off their engagement after seeing photos of the chiseled cheater kissing another man in a New York City park.
“Anderson was furious when he saw those photos,” a source told The ENQUIRER. “They caught him completely off-guard.
“Ben runs with a really fast crowd in New York, and Anderson always knew that his boyfriend was exposed to hot young gay men at his bar. But he also believed he could trust Ben to remain faithful to him.”
“Anderson’s shattered,” the source added. “He felt secure enough with Ben that he took the bold step of coming out as gay this year. He was confident that their relationship was strong. Now he knows that they are finished forever. Anderson’s a strong man, and he’ll put on a brave face, but the truth is he’s absolutely devastated.”
Aside from the fact that we don't know when these photos of Maisani were taken (or if they're even real), we don't have the faintest clue about the terms of his relationship with Cooper. There's a very good chance that for Maisani, like many gay men in long-term, healthy, committed relationships, a make-out session in the park is not only acceptable but just another typical Saturday-afternoon activity.
It can be hard for some people -- both straight and queer -- to fathom that a non-monogamous relationship could not only function satisfactorily but be an ideal arrangement. But in the queer community, which has fewer hangups and restrictions on sex and less rigid parameters on with whom and how we love and lust, open relationships have long provided the stability of partnership with the excitement of being able to meet and sleep with other people.
So instead of assuming that Maisani was cheating on Cooper, as almost all the media outlets have done, why not assume that Cooper knew exactly where his boyfriend was and had simply said, "Have fun with Bob. I'll see you later tonight. Oh, and can you pick up some more milk? We're almost out"?
The reality of the situation will likely always evade us (Anderson's known for keeping his privacy) but can (and should) the story be used as a teachable moment for mainstream America?