Updated Tuesday, 3:30 p.m.
Cynthia Nixon has expanded on her "I chose a gay lifestyle" comment by claiming it was delivered from a place of biphobia. The situation gets stickier, after the jump.
In a follow-up to Monday's New York Times story, The Daily Beast's Kevin Sessums asks Nixon to clarify her controversial comments.
I’m a bit confused. Were you a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship? Or are you now a heterosexual in a lesbian relationship? That quote seemed like you were fudging a bit.
It’s so not fudging. It’s so not. I think for gay people who feel 100 percent gay, it doesn’t make any sense. And for straight people who feel 100 percent straight, it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.
But it is the “B” in LGBT.
I know. But we get no respect.
You just said “we,” so you must self-identify as one.
I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt.
I understand for political reasons why some people want to kind of squelch this idea that being gay might be a choice, because a lot of the rights we want are posited on the supposition that why are you denying me my rights any more than if I were created a different color? But I don’t feel the need to cede the definition of what a gay person is to the bigots. They don’t get to define who I am.
Does her resistance to use the "B" portion of the acronym clarify her statements for you, Instincters?
Sex and the City alumnus Cynthia Nixon raised a lot of threaded eyebrows on Monday after telling the New York Times that she chose a homosexual lifestyle for herself.
"I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.
"As you can tell, I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
Cynthia, who will join her wife Christine to celebrate her son's first birthday in a few weeks, elevates an interesting point: what ramifications might arrive if it was revealed that homosexuality stems as much from human decision as it does from genetic coding? Is it possible Cynthia's argument might benefit the lesbian portion of the LGBT yet harm the gay male community? Discuss!