Whether it was coming from Shakespeare or Shakira, love has always been described as a natural occurrence. Happening beyond our control, you meet a guy, get swept off your feet and start feeling all hot and bothered before you know what hit you. But what happens when you’ve got that fire but he’s more mellow in the water? Dr. Craig Martin, author of the new book Elemental Love Style: Find Compatibility and Create a Lasting Relationship, says making it work is all about understanding your (and his) love style. So, are you fire, air, water or Earth? Find out by taking the short quiz Dr. Craig created for Instinct below and be on your way to relationship bliss!

I see myself primarily as:

A: Creative, passionate, assertive

B: Talkative, energetic, independent

C: Emotional, imaginative, intuitive

D: Practical, dependable, realistic

Where my money is concerned, I:

A; Spend it effortlessly

B: Lose track of it

C: Fluctuate between worry and hope

D: Save it diligently

When under stress, I can be:

A: Aggressive and abrupt

B: Dismissive and flighty

C: Hypersensitive and moody

D: Rigid and stubborn

“Funny” to me is:

A: Sharp and rapid

B: Slapstick and witty

C: Dry and sarcastic

D: Your basic potty humor

If I were a book, I would be:

A: Action/adventure

B: Comedy

C: Romance/drama

D: How-to/do-it-yourself

Feelings for me are:

A: Explosive and large

B: Light and easy

C: Deep and intense

D: Grounded and metered

If I were a game, I would be:

A: Charades

B: Trivial Pursuit

C: Clue

D: Monopoly

I like my job to offer me:

A: A place to shine

B: Interaction with others

C: Emotional fulfillment

D: A good reputation

If life is about give and take, I’m most likely to give a _____, and take a _____.

A: Big idea/bow

B: Party/Get Out of Jail Free card

C: Sympathetic ear/hug

D: Helpful solution/promotion

I often look for a romantic partner who offers:

A: Admiration

B: Intelligence

C: Comfort

D: Security

Good sex is:

A: Hot, hot, hot

B: Cyber

C: All-consuming

D: Kicking back and enjoying the attention

If I were an artist, I would be:

A: An actor or rock star

B: An author or comedian

C: A poet or painter

D: A sculptor or architect

At the bar, I am:

A: Posing and thinking conquest

B: Chatting people up and working the room

C: Looking dreamy and drinking too much

D: Feeling quiet and butch

Results:

Tally up each of your letters (A, B, C, D) and the letter with the highest number corresponds to your style below:

A=Fire

B= Air

C=Water

D=Earth

So, now that you know which element you are, what does it all mean?!?! Well, head over to the Web Exclusives page (the yellow button on the home page) for Dr. Craig’s personal assessment and recommendations on your results.