Transgender Man Shatters Stereotypes With 'Then And Now' Photo

One transgender man is shattering stereotypes with a powerful social media post.

Musician Jaimie Wilson posted the image below, last week.

In sharing his transformation, he hopes to encourage people not to judge others on their outward appearance.

He writes:

‘DONT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER,’ he says. ‘I am posting this picture to show that not everyone has to show “signs” to be transgender.

‘You don’t have to pass a test to prove you’re trans… and you sure as hell don’t need ANYONES approval but your own.

‘This life is about finding yourself and becoming YOU.

‘No one’s journey is the same…so stop comparing yourself to others.

‘When I came out people refused to believe I was a man because of how “Feminine” I presented for 18 years.

‘So why am I posting this comparison? Because I want people to see it doesn’t matter what some LOOKS like…if someone has the guts to tell you “I’m transgender” “I’m gay” “I’m bisexual” anything like that PLEASE BELIEVE them and be there for them because stereotypes need to be broken.’

On Facebook, Jamie explains that the left photograph was taken in March 2015, and the right in March 2017.

‘Coming out as transgender was the best and worst day of my life thus far.

‘I miss having my family in my life…I miss my parents being proud of me…but you know what I don’t miss? I don’t miss the nights I laid alone battling with my feelings…I don’t miss waiting for everyone to leave the house so I could put on masculine clothes and tuck my long hair under a hat…I don’t miss hiding.

‘When you look at me I’m not the strongest, the tallest, or the most handsome man…but you know what I AM? I’m finally ME and god does it feel so good.’

Nearly 20,000 people have commented on Jamie's Facebook post. 

H/T: Gay Star News

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When can we go on a date?

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Hot!! Look at those nipples..I'm in love..!!

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You are sexy as! 

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Does anyone know of any support groups for "kids" of transgendered people ? My ex wife doesn't want our kids to refer to him as mom or in any way connect with his 'former self' which he considers dead. my daughter, 19, has been very accepting of all the changes that have occurred during her life, but is having trouble with....basically not having a mother anymore. The behavior and interaction supplied by said parent is about the same but somehow the relationship status is upsetting to her. Thanks. 

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Look up your local PFLAG group, Parents, Friends and Family of GLBT folks. You and your daughter are not alone, you will find others who will help you on the path. Your ex can go, too.

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Contact the Los Angeles LGBT Center, www.lalgbtcenter.org. There is a Friday Trans discussion group that once a month opens it up to family members. They can refer you elsewhere if you don't live in LA. Best thing to do is call the Village Box Office at 323-860-7300 and let them know what you are looking for. They will connect you with the people who run the Trans services. Wishing your family all the best!

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Send her to one-on-one therapy!

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You look great and all the best !  I am amazed there seems to be no scaring from having your breasts removed and the only tell tail sign ( not that I am judging can be the ass ..We didn't get to see that bare of not .. Right on and bless you.. I am family 63  and marched for gay rights in 1972.. Take care..SPANKER Daddy Tyler  ( SFCA ) 

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I would date him now and I would date her before. Either way BEAUTIFUL personality. Handsome man!

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I'd fuck him either way.  He is (she was) hot.

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Good article, very informative. 

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You are so beautiful. 

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Beautiful story!  CONGRATS! 

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Be who you feel you should be. Enjoy your life.

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I am still trying to wrap my brain around some of my questions and still be compassionate with people making the changes they need to make for themselves. the only people I personally know who have transitioned do not identify as transgender. They actually identify and live as the gender they have transitioned to. If this is the case with people who have completed the transition why is there so much focus on the identity of being trans? I understand for those in transition, but once complete, why would the need for trans-identification be necessary to everyone. Why not just be a man or a woman instead of always living somewhere in between? Most of my gay friends like me have the same question but are afraid to ask or have a voice that is not hyper-politically correct. Just asking questions oftentimes in this age get you bashed, verbally lashed, or labeled a "__phobe" of some sort.

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This is a fair question. The answer though is actually part of the journey he mentioned. Simply identifying as strictly the new gender to some down plays the entire life we lived before we got here. The lonely nights, losing family, the struggle of transitioning isn't easy. It'd be like Eminem never talking about where he came from. He's proud of the work he put it to get there and he should be. We have years of lives that shape who we become before transitioning fully and during. So identifying as transgender is important to remember where we started. It's part of who we are.

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And to piggy back on this, I am a Woman but I'm also transgender. They are both parts of myself. I will always be a woman but I will also always be transgender. Though my identity as a woman will always match a cis woman's identity my experience will always be different. No matter how much I may look or act the same as a cis woman I will always get hate from a large population who will never look at me as anything but a man if they know I'm transgender. Also, I will never have a period and I can never stop taking hormones my entire life. My transition will never "end" and my experiences are completely unrelatable to cisgender women even though our identities are not. Also, transitioning takes a lot of courage and usually a lot of support. Letting others know we are trans can help them in their transition as well as us in ours. A sense of community for a very hard process if you will. I really hope this helps! 

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To piggy back on that as well!!!

I am a man who is also transgender. Just because I live my life now as a man, and I am now read as a man, doesn't take away from the fact I am also trans.

Transitioning was one of the hardest and yet the best decisions I've ever made. I've lost nearly my entire family, all of my friends, a professional singing career, as well as many other things. And to stop saying I'm trans just because I pass as male now? Would completely invalidate the journey I've made to get where I am. I'm proud of being transgender. But otherwise, I'm no different than any other man.

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And to piggy back on the piggy back...

Is this what we call a cluster?  :>)  Many of us straight people want to understand what the drive is in the other communities that makes them have to shout out their (should be) private desires.  

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You want to understand the drive? It's the same as yours. Yes, all those straight prom pix, dating shows, dancing shows, weddings ... beauty contests and more. And you begrudge LGBTQ kids like mine from wanting to show off their love? Trans folks from showing their journey from the depths of despair sometimes?  Right.

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Just because someone is Trans doesn't make them gay, just so you're aware. If they identify as a male they don't necessarily fall in love or want to be with another man. So you're outward ignorance of the situation is apparent. They can be just as "straight" as you and me. Their sexual preferance has no baring on their identity.

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Thanks Shane and Chrys. Your answers help. :)

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I'm a little confused was it a man turned into a woman or a woman turned into a man?  "no rude comments please I'm just asking a question because I'm unsure" 

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Woman to man.

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The male pictures are the after pictures. The picture on the right at the top is how he looks now.

There are some articles online that can explain some of the terminology to you, "a woman turned into a man," would offend some people, but I understand you're just trying to share an honest question and learn more. Best wishes.

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Not being rude just trying to help...I understand you might be unsure but I'm gonna give you a tip for when you ask another question like this...he is not an "it" but to answer your question he was born a female

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I don't think they meant "it" in that manner.  More like was it that a man turned... At least that's what I understood. 

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You're beautiful, either way. Be who you are and be proud. 

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" He" is beautiful and brave.  Brave to be himself. No one person should judge another,that's the problem with this world . Let people be for goodness sakes,to shame others is a reflection of yourself and quite frankly ugly. No matter what form we take,male,female we all have hearts,feelings and souls....we are all human.

Like they say "If you don't have anything nice to say ,don't say anything at all". 

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I get your message, but why are you writing " he" instead of he? As if he isn't a real man?

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Thanks for stepping up and breaking stereotypes. Peace and Conetenment to you as tou make your way through life.

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Courage and Beauty. Great role model for those who need it.  Don't stop. Ever!

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Can I just be superficial for a moment and say, DAMN! You are so hot I can't stand it!  After watching Romeos (awesome movie) and actively educating myself to some extent on trans issues, I am more fascinated with the whole concept of gender than ever. Sexuality, of course, is a part of that. And it's interesting to me that some F2M folks are men attracted to men and some F2M folks are men attracted to to. I know firsthand the challenges of growing up as a gay man. When you're not born into the right body, or you're not born into the right body AND are gay, the complexity just skyrockets. I consider people victoriously living their lives as the people they were meant to be real heroes/heroines. Amazing people. Very inspirational. Congratulations on your own journey and the hope you offer to others.

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Damn he is one hot man 

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Of course it doesn't really matter what you call yourself or what you feel yourself to be.  If your DNA is male, then you are a man.  You may be a man who wants to be a woman, and is willing to deprive himself of sexual pleasure by castrating himself, but what he becomes is a castrated male, not a woman.  Similarly for people with a female DNA.  You can want to be a male, and feel yourself to be a male, but you can never be a male.  You can never feel the way a male feels, since you will never have functioning male genitalia.  Sex is so very powerful and one's male or female body has evolved genetically in the species to maximize sexual pleasure either through female or through male genitalia, and, one might also say, a male or female brain. There are always exceptions in genetics, but generally sexual differentiation holds true for mammalian species.  That's not true for all animal species, of course.  Females can turn into males and vice-versa, but that doesn't not happen biologically for the species homo sapiens.

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Tom Anderson, your comment shows your ignorance. I don't mean that in an unkind way.

"You can never feel the way a male feels, since you will never have functioning male genitalia"  - Do you really think the penis makes the man?  Is sex all there is to being a man?

I believe that people who think the limited way that you seem to in this context simply do not understand. It is human to fear what we don't understand. It is intelligent to educate ourselves into understanding and away from fear.

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"Do you really think the penis makes the man?  Is sex all there is to being a man?

Actually, that is a good start. How else do you begin to define 'male'? I do not understand your logic. Please elaborate. 

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PboPep,

You really don't understand what that statement meant...you're seriously asking for elaboration??

It's pretty simple to understand what they meant. By reading your other comments on here you seem very intelligent (seriously not being sarcastic) to bad you're heads up your ass with some of the comments your defending! Just sayin..lol

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Tom, your opinion is not relevant, necessary, sought after, or informed.

One might wonder why you even bothered - perhaps a misplaced sense of self-importance or just a poor upbringing.

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Amen!! Well said ;)

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And who gave you the privilege of deciding who gets to offer an opinion?  Your ideological commitment to unscientific and unwarranted views hardly qualifies you to have a thought on the subject, much less decide the appropriateness of other people's opinions.

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Kindly STFU unless and until you know what you're talking about. Kthx.

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Evidently, Ted, you believe you can bully people into submission.  I am not such a man.  If you have something intelligent to say, by means, say it.  But if you don't, as is clear, probably best just to shut up and give people the impression you are not quite so stupid as you appear when you open your mouth.

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Fuck, your hypocrisy here makes me want to vomit all over you.  Here you are bullying transgendered people, and in your mind you're the one being bullied?

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I bully no one.  But I can see if you are heavily invested in your own emotional state, it must seem that way to you; but I assure you, I only state simple common sense.  Nobody--nobody--gets to force other people to their way of thinking.  And when that way of thinking violates ordinary scientific facts, then that thinking should get called out for what it is.  A human being does not get to decide sex, except in utero.  To the extent to which gender is a social construction, where is the "social"?  "Social" means people, and how you present yourself certainly provides biological and cultural markers for your sex.  If you are a man who likes to dress up as a woman, that is is just fine with me.  But dressing as a woman, even if the "dress" includes surgical alternation, as in the case of Bruce Jenner, such changes do not change a person's sexual identity. 

Actually I don't like to use the term "gender" outside of grammar topics, because cultural and social factors play so much a part of gender.  But that's the rub:  one person does not decide his gender, because gender is a social construction.  Everyone gets to have an opinion and nobody gets to legislate those opinions.  If you castrate yourself in hopes of becoming a gender female, more power to you, but you are not a woman.  The more "gender" becomes detached from biology, the more subjective, the more arbitrary and meaningless the term becomes:  that's what "social construction" means in this context.

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Tom, Would it be better then to describe a more civil tone in "gender identification" for the more scientifically correct vs the politically correct because obviously we don't want to offend anyone. A good rule  to treat the patient and not the disease is a mark of a great doctor is what I've been told. 

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Copied from a post elsewhere:

"I just saw a transphobic post that was like, "In a sexual species, females have two X chromosomes and males have an X and a Y, I'm not a bigot it‘s just science." I‘m a science teacher, so I commented this. 

First of all, in a sexual species, you can have females be XX and males be X (insects), you can have females be ZW and males be 22 (birds), you can have females be females because they developed in a warm environment and males be males because they developed in a cool environment (reptiles), you can have females be females because they lost a penis sword fighting contest (some flatworms), you can have males be males because they were born female, but changed sexes because the only male in their group died (parrotfish and clownfish), you can have males look and act like females because they are trying to get close enough to actual females to mate with them (cuttlefish, bluegills, others), or you can be one of thousands of sexes (slime mold, some mushrooms.) Oh, did you mean humans? Oh ok then. You can be male because you were born female, but you have 5-alphareductase deficiency and so you grew a penis at age 12. You can be female because you have an X and a Y chromosome but you are insensitive to androgens, and so you have a female body. You can be female because you have an X and a Y chromosome but your Y is missing the SRY gene, and so you have a female body. You can be male because you have two X chromosomes, but one of your X's HAS an SRY gene, and so you have a male body. You can be male because you have two X chromosomesbut also a Y. You can be female because you have only one X chromosome at all. And you can be male because you have two X chromosomes, but your heart and brain are male. And vice effing versa. Don't use science to justify your bigotry. The world is way too weird for that shit."

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Fascinating science there, but it seems like you are attempting to either confuse or impress with your knowledge, rather than clarify for those of us not working in your area of expertise. Your post still does not explain some fundamental questions. All of those examples describing events happening in nature. Two things come to mind:

1 - If gender is so fluid in nature, why not just allow gender to be what it is, on the spectrum in human nature? Why go through all these surgeries and hormone treatments to play out a desired role, when in nature, it can happen spontaneously? If we stop the medical interventions, the assigned gender goes back to what it was. 

2 - If gender is so fluid, how do we actually define what is 'male' or 'female' with trans people (not not-binary queers)? For example, M2Fs very often select highly 'feminized' presentation, dress and mannerisms. Same with F2M. They love the facial hair and adopt stereotypically masculine behaviours and appearances to fit it. It's curious to me, that we question gender as a construct, and yet, we simply reconstruct the gender we are questioning. 

I'd like someone with a solid background in science (not sociology or gender studies) to explain this in lay terms with clearly cited research. So far, it seems highly politicized and alarmist to the point where all questions are shut down and all inquiry is silenced. Anyone?

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Also, biologists are finding it increasingly more difficult to define biological sex in a perfect male / female dichotomy and are starting to look at it as more of a spectrum:

http://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943

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Also, biologists are finding it increasingly difficult to define what it means to be biologically male or female.  

They'realso starting to consider it a spectrum.  --> http://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943

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There are many systems in this world that we can be simultaneously critical of while also being subject to and contribute towards.  There's nothing groundbreaking about that.  We can be critical of the strict policing of gender roles and gender expression in society while still choosing to express our own gender in a traditionally conformist way (or by blending them).  

We are talking about how people act, think and define themselves.  Sociologists, anthropologists and psychologists are probably better equipped to speak on the topic.  If you think you're going to find a your answers from people who are experts in how a cell functions, good luck with that.

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That is a disappointing response, but I am not surprised. You completely avoided even attempting to answer some perfectly valid questions. I can only assume you can't use science to back up anything you said above. Belief does not trump science, no matter how many anthropologists tell you otherwise. 

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My reply above was aimed at addressing part of your question #2 - the desire for SOME trans people to live out traditional or stereotypical representations of masculinity and femininity in light of the fact that they are socially and culturally constructed.  We as humans conform to gender norms for survival, acceptance and belonging - trans and cisgender people have this in common. The greater any of us veer away from these norms, the more we run the risk of reduced access to social privileges and safety.

In order to accomplish this "fitting in", some (not all) transgender people utilize medical interventions (your question #1) to more closely resemble the biological sex that society (and even we as individuals) expects someone to look like as a given gender.  We use medical interventions for a host of things that are not strictly essential for survival - in this case many might argue that fostering one's ability to most comfortably live out their gender identity, to allow them to more fully function and thrive in society, rather than continuing to live in their own personal hell and increasing their risk of suicide, is about survival.

I love science; the various fields of study are wonderful things.  I continued to be amazed at their advancements and what we as a species are accomplishing, but these fields are evolving - they don't have all the answers.  We can't biologically nail down what the human psyche or consciousness is precisely, or how it fully operates.  We don't have a perfect biological or sociological or psychological explanation as to why some people have purely opposite sex, purely same-sex or mixed-sex attractions.  Does that mean these things don't exist?  Do you want to try telling the world that homosexuals don't exist?  Does that we can't let a person count themselves as heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual?  That we can't gather data and statistics about the predominance of these identities?

Gender and biological sex are not one in the same, and yet they are closely linked.  We as cultures and societies have organized gender roles and expectations around genitalia and body structures (which is part of why some trans people look to alter these to match the gender they identify with).  But the expectations and roles are not biologically prescribed in and of themselves - concepts of masculinity and femininity vary across different times, geographies and cultures.  Historically, and for simplicity sake, we have categorized biological sex and gender as the same thing.  And whether we choose to tease them apart will ultimately depend on the purpose of analysis.  If we're trying to look at the demand for social or recreational programs for instance, then data could be collected along gender lines.  If we're looking at particular diseases or physiological processes, then it might make sense to look at the DNA level (ie. chromosomal biological sex)........... or it might make sense to look at the hormonal levels (which might lump transmen with cis-men and transwomen with cis-women).  If we're looking at HIV transmission risk rates and reduction strategies, then we need to look at more than just the traditional male / female divide - we need the additional transman and transwoman categories.

Right now the biological community can't even concretely define what we mean by biologically male and biologically female.  I can't provide the link directly (whenever I try the comment doesn't post), but look up "Sex Redefined" by Claire Ainsworth on nature.com.  It speaks to this directly, and points out that the biological and medical fields might need to possibly consider more biological sex categories, to treat biological sex more like a spectrum or to slice and categorize it across multiple planes.

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being defined by DNA as male or female is different than self identifying as male or female. Also, genitalia is totally separate from the brain. physical pleasure stimulated by one sex or the other, by stimulating one organ or another, by one circumstance or another has absolutely nothing to do with gender (in general or gender identity specifically).

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If genitalia is "totally separate from the brain" how would you account for the fact that the overwhelming number of human beings with penises and testicles see themselves as male? Genitalia's relation to brain is not arbitrary, yet that is what you, in essence, are claiming.

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"Being define by DNA as male or female is different than self-identifying as male or female." That statement is certainly true, but only in the trivial sense that an individual entertain beliefs about himself, the truth of which can not be determined independently.  You may speak to Jesus, or otherwise have deep personal relationships with deities.  Your making such a claim is not the same as proving the claim true.  As to self-identification or to deities, the results must always be subjective, and therefore, controvertible.  By all means, spend your life believing yourself to be one sex, while your DNA proves you are another.  Your DNA is what must count in the objective, real world that others inhabit, although, it is true, if you are very good at disguise, you may succeed is passing yourself as something you are not. People lie all the time.  If you can live with yourself, then go for it.  But please don't expect other people to accept you as one sex when they can plainly determine that you are another.

The issue comes down to bullying other people--shunning, shaming, or otherwise degrading people who do not share your claim.  They have just as much right to their judgment as you do to yours.

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Ignorant... check your cisgendered privilege at the door. 

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Anyone who puts forth a variation of this command, "put your . . . at the door" is attempting to bully those with whom he disagrees.  It is a form of intellectual dishonesty:  instead of addressing the issue, he attacks the character of the person advancing an idea.  Although you may not realize its derivation, the claim goes back to Marx's notion that reason is nothing more than a form of class bias--despite the fact, I might add--that Marx's entire work was premised on the notion that rationality was possible and that intelligent, rational people would read it.

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Who cares what his physical genitalia are.  I spent the better part of my life feeling like I was a boy.  I kind of conceited to the fact that I am just a lesbian.  Sexuality, even in the "normal" sense of that word, is a plethora of existence; you really can't define it.  I like that; and I wish more people would just feel like that. 

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Well if you wanna play with God that is nobodies business, you would bethe only one receiving the consequences. I am not talking about salvation of not kind

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I have found that people that bring god into things are very closed minded, just because someone doesn't live the way that the Bible, church, or the way you live doesn't mean it's wrong. 

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He's fucking gorgeous and courageous. For all those with crude, cruel, and frankly boring comments: I feel sorry for you. You will never have the integrity and strength of this guy.

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What a handsome young man! I am proud of you for trying to help others to understand. 

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I call bullshit. This isn't Transgender. If this is Transgender, then I'm Transnigra.

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And what would YOU know about being transgender? Just because he has the balls to show who he really is, (quite literally;) doesn't give you the right to hate on him. I bet you wish you had 1/10000 of the confidence that this brave man has.

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No balls!

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somebodys angry because theyre ugly

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I've seen the proof. He does webcam shows and he has a vagina. 

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"he has a vagina".lmao do you see his nudes? you creep. and if he has a "vagina" then why do you call him he? fucking idiot

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He presents as a very hairy, handsome and kinda fey FTM. Not an authentic alpha male at all. My man-dar is not going off! Pretty and not truly manly. 

Since we know that he has a vagina and needs to be on hormones, we know it's not quite authentic, though. Like an extended performance on stage. The anxiety must be awful to always need to be 'on' and I don't wish that on anyone. But I supposed it's better than living as an authentic butch woman? I don't know.

Stop the hormones for a few months, and all that goes away but the vagina stays. The biology does not lie and all these SJW types in denial over that scientific fact are off their collective PC rockers. He is definitely cute, but I would never see him as 100% male, in particular for sex or a relationship. That's not transphobic either, it's just pro-cock. I didn't struggle for same sex rights since the 80's so I could go down on a vagina again. I would be completely turned off by that, no matter how hairy the chest. While this is not for me, I am sure lots of people out there would love to love this cute boy and all the power to them.

He's definitely a winner in the looks department but the plumbing is a deal breaker for me and for science. Be offended if you like, boys, but we know you're thinking the same thing. You're gay because you like cock. Politics should not interfere with desire.

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A mangina ... that's pretty hot

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 You sir are a gorgeous man!

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Beautiful. 

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Seeing is Believing. Don't fumble, It's some truth to what's said.  

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Beautiful on the outside and inside. ❤

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He gets nude on chaturbate almost daily. 

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Really?

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That I DO NOT want to see

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I checked... she's taking clit-wanking to a whole new place. Sorry, but sometimes a cock is necessary to tell the story. I know from anecdotale evidence her biggest fans are straight dudes. Go figure.

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Be your true self! Thank you for the courage.

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Does he like guys? 

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Nope likes women 

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