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Former High School Bully Apologizes After Seeing Classmate's Viral Gay Marriage Proposal

We were all blown away by Lucas Bane and David Devora's epic viral marriage proposal/street party, but today it's the aftermath that has us reaching for the tissues!

As their video blasted its way across the interwebs, it also made its way in front of someone who's probably best described as a former high school bully of Lucas's. 

So what did he think?

Here's the Facebook interaction between the two all these years later:

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Wow. This says a lot--not just about how people can change, but also about forgiveness. 

We want to get beers with all of these guys!!

Thanks for sharing, gentlemen!

 

(H/T: The Gaily Grind)

 

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I really dislike hypocritical Christians who can quote pieces of the bible for their own gain. It's makes them sound illiterate, and Malicious. You really believe God will favor someone who attacks sin with more sin??? That doesn't even make sense. Dylan, you're obviously bored, lonely, and need attention, but there are better ways than attracting negative attention to yourself. My advice: Grow the fuck up, and stop looking at everything in black and white. Maybe then you'll attract positive friends, and a better.... Happier existence. Possibly you're having a hard time excepting who you really are ;) good luck. 

as a true Christian...one who believes in the Bible and the teachings of Christ, i, along with the majority of real, educated Christians, have lived my life following 3 simple rules found in the Bible - christian or not - these are the basis for living and sharing this life we are fortunate enough to have: 1. love thy neighbor as thy brother. 2. God is love. 3. judge not lest ye be judged. i apologize for the dylans of this world who practice their hatred and hide behind their unsupported and frankly, wrong, belief that God requires, or even suggests that we hate anyone different than ourselves. it is a true shame that someone would use the supposed "word of God' to further their idealogies of hatred, bigotry and repression. i pray nightly for these people that they will wake up one morning to the true reality - that we are ALL God's children. I love you all, male or female, gay or straight, black or white, jewish or muslim, lovers or haters!!! THAT is what my God taught me to do. oh....and FYI....NOWHERE IN THE BIBLE IS THE WORD HATE EVER MENTIONED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dylan, why are you even reading articles on this very homo web site anyway?  You one of those gays who hates himself so much he has to project it on others?  That's where I'd put my money.Bet you loved the "Hottest Men of the Olympics" piece.  

I have nothing to add to the story here... but I'd like to say that this article is oddly presented, perhaps poorly.  The facebook posts might have been screen grabs, but to conceal identities perhaps more could have been done.  Let's look at this now... We know the guy's name is Lucas Bane.  The facebook posts block out his last name... but the article mentions his last name.  So he is searchable, and boom... his photo is right there so we know who to look for.  Then the former bully's name starts with a B, and though it is blocked out there are time stamps.  If Bane's facebook is open publicly then anyone can search for who the guy is, and look over the timestamps of various dates to find out who he is.  So... what good has the censoring done here?  Maybe an online editor might like to take note here, eh?

Leviticus 18:22
"Do not practice homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman. It is a detestable sin." amen

The bible is gross and full of "detestable" things.  If I listened to my Bible unquestionably I would have killed people, stoned women, and promoted slavery.  I think letting your fellow human live and love has he or she sees fit is far more godly than some of the horrid things in the bible, and constantly cursing those around you who are gay, or who oppose what you believe.  If God exists, he probably put everything you need to know in your heart.  My heart says to love people as they are, for who they are, and that is all.  If I'm wrong, and that lands me in hell, then I will forever burn knowing I'm better than the almighty.

Such a sad name Dylan http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_Harris_and_Dylan_Klebold I cant believe no one noticed

Hey dylan you said that gay people make the choice to be gay.... just out of curiousity when did you decide to be straight?

Well i can see that people have NOT read the bible...id rather him be gay than be a rapist and child molesting priest who rapes children and preachesbur beloved bible..oh please the bible was creates humdreds of years by men to promote power and by the way ur lively oppasals...of the last supper live alone happily ever after.( no women all men...hmmm i wonder if they are gay too)...bible states love thy neighbour...(that means no matter what...lgbt disables.)

Dylan....

the bible says a lot.... Yes it says that a man should not lay with another man, but it also states that we are all the children of god.... He is our creator and if he saw it to be so wrong then he wouldn't have created hay men and women.... It also states in the bible that we all should love and be loved..... It does not state we need to be loved by the opposite sex... I praise the lord that u can find solitude some day and come to terms..... FYI most anti gay activist are usually secretly gay.... So do u have a secret to tell..

How about we all have this convo on another site and let Lucas and David have there time to shine!!! As for you Dylan you are all talk on this site and think you are better than everyone! Well your not you are actually below us taking the b-a-t out of basement ! Let's see how you show up in real life! My email is phillstang@gmail.com lets met up and we will see what kind of man you really are !!!!!

Dylan is getting what he wants. Ignore the flamers girls. If he didnt get a rise out of ya, he woudlnt bother.

I'm an anti gay activist. I hate homosexuals with a passion. I'm going to expose you filthy animals on every forum till the world knows about your reality. Go to hell faggots. Amen

My, My! What language for a so-called follower of Christ. I have a strong feeling that You only "Hate Homosexuals with a passion" because You don't know any personally...and I do NOT mean "Sexually"...I mean as a "Friend".- You've obviously been misled by all the phony stuff going around  about gay people being deviants and child molesters; but IF You do Your research, You will see that Child Molesters AND Rapists are Heterosexual!! - NOT Homosexual.- and I have a very strong feeling that You are NOT as much of a "Christian" as You claim (Especially with the way You speak); So, My suggestion is for You to clean Your own house BEFORE You start cleaning someone else's. One last thing since You seem to like to quote The Bible:    Have You ever read the passage where Jesus said to the crowd;   "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." 

Wow, i will see you in hell buddy!!!  I have a drag queen escort you to your eternal prison in HELL..... 

1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

death to homosexuals. amen

Did you know that the bible was written by men like you?

ok, high and mighty -  why the hell are you on a gay site?

 Your god, Yahweh, would be diagnosed as a psychopath by todays medical standards.   Religion poisons everything. Thank gawd I'm an atheist.

Grow up it's the 21st century dude bible is old as shit got be more open to things we all now you are a pathetic old moron living in a basement who can't get anyone so you wanna try crushing over people's happiness because u have none and before u say anything I'm married with 2 kids and there godfather is gay and my best friend and has been since I was 5 and it's 2 girls by the way 

So, what boy turned your advances down at a young age. You've got to have a real reason for spouting this crap other than GOD.

Hi Dylan,

It is completely understandable that you use those scriptures to condemn men who sleep with other men and women who sleep with other women -- it's just one of those things that seems to be clearly stated in the Bible.

Another thing that is clearly stated in the Bible is we were all created by God and God can use anyone regardless of their past, present, or future. Moses murdered a man and look how God used him. David slept with another man's wife (Bathsheba) and had her husband killed so that he would never find out (2 Samuel 11 and look how God redeemed him. Saul killed countless Christians before becoming a Christian himself.  The point is that our light requires us to love our neighbors as ourselves.  I don't think you would like for anyone to say, "Death to Dylan."

As a Christian (which means Christ-Like), I do want to urge you to let your light shine in such a way that your beliefs do not offend one of these little ones. Please take a look at Matthew 18:6-7.

I love you. Jesus loves you, and God loves.  Everyone on this message board is enveloped in love.  Please love your neighbor as yourself. As a Christian and fellow human, I apologize to everyone who is hurt, angered, and offended by Dylan's comments.  Please send light, love, peace and your prayers to him.

Narrow minded bible thumping prick!

You're the perfect example of a christian asshole.  Please go and have a fatal csa accident.  The idea that some vile asshole like yourself is somehow ordained by god - god would spit in your ugly face,   Please  die and leave the world a better place.  Jesus says you should kill yourself and the rest of us agree.  Please feel free to kill yourself, don't bother asking for help, no one cares.  Good riddance die soon.

Remembe, r Jesus wants you to kill yourself.  At least you'd stop getting a stiffie every time t you think male penises.  Don't disappoint Jesus.

you're the perfect example of a filthy homosexual. god will make your asshole wider when you die of aids faggot. all of you are going to burn in the lake of fire. you chose to become faggots cuz you couldnt find a girl. get a sex doll hahahahahahah. its better than taking gay dicks up the butt. filthy homos ahhahahaha

Dylan you and people like you are the reason for wars in this world. Discrimination, racism, homophobia are the only reasons for hate and wars which idiots like you try and prove are wrong to be different. For all the proud and happy lgbt out there , more power to you, the world needs you and people who can speak up for you. If my children were to come home one day saying that they are lgbt let me be the first to say. IWILL SUPPORT MY CHILDREN NEVER DISOWN THEM, for all you bible preachers i have read every single page line and word to find not only does it NOT state that ut is a sin but god love all his children that means gay, transgender bisexual ALL people.....it only states man and wife shiuld lay together to procreate...which thats an obvious to naturally produce....gays are not the ones having ingnorant children and/or abandaning them. Think of that for a moment.

if your son comes to you and tells you that he likes it up the butt you should get a gun and shoot him in the head. thats what the  ible tells us to do and thats what these filthy homosexuals deserve. amen

Well, apparently you'll be burning just as well for judging and condemning others. You have no right to tell people that they are going to hell, Jesus Christ is the ultimate judge and the one who will let us know who is going where.  Jesus said, Love one another for love is of God. He who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. Your message is full of hate and that just tells me that you do not know the same God that I do. The God I know loves everyone in this world, regardless if they love Him. It's people like you who give Christians like me a bad connotation. You bring shame upon our community and I pray for God to forgive your narrow-minded, bigoted remarks.You're an awful human being and you do not deserve the gift of quoting scripture. 

stop being rude

I think the post is awsome to see how someone changes over years. It is nice to see how some assholes turn into mature adults its too bad now everyone is mature enough to let 2 people who love eachother alone. If my son or daughter ends up lgbt at least the will know that they can come to me and be proud of who they are and no one will mess with this mama....and for those who are posting stupidity it shows that u have no life no love and no job on your hands which is why u are angry.

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Ultimately this is a great story being shared, encouraging other great stories by so many, that are being attacked by one...just remember everyone, just because he is only one person with a bad attitude and poor choices in words...(Dylan Whatever his true name is) isn't a complete waste of a human being, we can always learn from his mistakes, and so many already have...

Best wishes to all those with great life stories to tell.

Romans 1:27 - And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. amen,,,,

Hey, fatass, wrap your bible in barbed wire and shove it up your ass and bleed to death.  No one cares.  Your "girl" would celebrate your demise and so would everyone else.  Good riddance, fuckhead.

hey old fart queer. wrap your dildo in barbed wire and take it up the butt so that your gay butt bleeds to death. i'm sure you already have hiv by taking all those gay dicks up the butt. all you faggots must die to make this world clean. your dad must have molested you as a kid and that made you a fag. shame on you homo hahahahahahhahah

JonathAn he chose the name Dylan lentils to send this message under if you recall who that was then that alone says everything about the individual writing the horrible messages above. Be better than him and ignore his juvenile and clearly disturbed posts. Your reply is just what he is looking for. He is obviously bored and has too much time on his hands which explains his attempt to get a rise out of anyone he can. Cheers!

All you faggots should be put to death according to the bible. Amen

 Too bad after your dad fucked you he didn't shoot you in the head. If you have a gun - USE IT ON YOURSELF.    No one cares about you and that's quite obvious.  I presume you're 800 pounds and hide behind gloryholes so no one has to see how repulsive you are.

too bad your mom gave birth to a queer. she should have stabbed you in the heart the day you were born. one less faggot in the world. ahhahahahahahahh

dont feed the troll guys. simple as that

Don't mean to get into other people's business, but say you, 'Dylan', have kids, and say your son or daughter comes out as gay or their kids comes out, will you disown or still want to "get a gun and shoot them in the head" (your words) for being gay?

I get that this is your opinion, but if that's what you really think maybe you should be careful what you say, It may just come back to kick you in the ass. Though I don't know of any bible that says anything about guns or committing any acts of murder.. I don't know what kind of bible you were reading.

Just some food for thought.

First, that is an awesome story. It proves people can rise above petty ignorance and fear. Bravo. 

To 'Dylan' 

Me thinks you doth protest too much. For someone so against it, you sure spend a lot of time focused on gay sex. Does the idea a of two men together keep you up at night? Do you fret and worry constantly over the idea? I bet you do. Statistically, those who protest the most against gays are often gay themselves or recognize a kernel of same-sex attraction. When you come to terms with yourself, we'll still be here. If you're lucky some of the people you've most likely wronged in your life will be as forgiving as the guy in the story above. 

Leviticus 20:13
"If a man practices homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman, both men have committed a detestable act. They must both be put to death, for they are guilty of a capital offense."  amen

@Dylan.  I take it then that you don't wear clothes of two different threads and that when you sin you make a blood sacrifice as that same book of the bible people like you quote ad nauseum demands.

Or how about this.  Leviticus 19:17-18 'You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason fairly with your neighbour, lest you incur sin because of him.  You shall not take vengence or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbour as yourself: I am the lord'

How about you actually read the rest of that bible and pay attention to what it says instead of spouting off the few quotes that agree with your small minded view of the world.

@Dylan (not your real name):  You are aware that the Old Testament also calls for the death penalty for those who pick up sticks on the Sabbath and for girls who aren't virgins on their wedding nights, right?   I'm betting not.   By the way, your using the name of a mass murder for your screen name seems appropriate ...

I hope Dylan is prewsent at the next mass shooting and ends up directly in front of a fatal bullet.  We only WISH you were dead, but you'll get there soon enough.  Christians cunt.  Go fuck yourself and hope you end up DEAD.

You re-worded this to fit your needs,  bigot.

Jesus tells us to love everyone, even your enemies.  God loves all because we all came from him. 

Go fuck your mother

That's real Jesus like of you biggot

The guy should fuck his mother,  After all, she slept with 180 men and couldn't figure out who Dylans' father was.  As Dylan says "My Mom the crack whore, she loved my sorry pathetic ass".

awwww your dad likes it up the ass too . all you homosexuals came out of your mom's butt thats why all of you like it up the butt. and jonathan the fag's mom was an anal queen. she took 1000 dicks up her ass and then jonathan came out hahahahahahha. filthy queer. son of an anal queen. hahahahahah

No one would ever guess you were older than 7 years old  What a sad excuse for an asshole and troll.  KILL YOURSELF.  No one cares.  btw-  find a video arcade where you can finally get the dick you're obviously obsessing over.

and everyone knows that you're A 70 YEAR OLD FAGGOT FART LOOKING FOR GAY DICKS ONLINE. i'm sure you couldnt even get a guy in real life.  hahahahahahahhahaha. go marry your dildo. hahhahahaha

Sorry, but i am not going to cheer this story.  There is no description of what the bully did.  If he wants to take responsibility for what he did and clear the record, then he needs to own up specifically to what it is he did.  Saying that he was a "bit of an a-hole" is meaningless.  

He knows what he did and the person who was bullied remembers ad well. 're hashing and reliving the details publicly isn't what matters. Or in my opinion it shouldn't be.

They both already know what happened. Their past is between them. Don't put down the importance of this story simply out of your unsatisfied curiosity about what happened over a decade ago

i think "b" has become a faggot too and likes it in the butt. another case of aids soon. amen

What's clear is that Dylan Klebold is a homosexual and doesn't want to be.

More thqan clear.  I read his comments and thinK, HUNGRY BOTTOM.  Maybe if you pray to jesus enough Dylan, he'll send you some hot sweaty man-sex.

I think you're a moron, Dylan. You put Humanity to shame. We always need more firewood in the deep south...no need to thank me, your spot was reserved long before your birth. I look forward to you shoveling coal for me, and as a reward you may swim in my burning lake of sulfur.

Sincerely, L.

What a disguting asshole you are.  I hope you contract AIDS, you POS.

U must be a closet case to say something this stupid 

I think you just admitted it's possible you're also gay. I pray that you grow to be a happy, successful, and well adjusted gay man some day. Oh and healthy... Amen. 

no surprise that this kind of comment comes from someone who takes their name from a killer in columbine. 

VERY F**KING COOL!!!  My whole blood family hasn't even evolved to the point that this young man has! Their loss. You two young men are n inspiration.

Same thing happened to me when this letter showed up in my FB inbox...

Conversation started October 5, 2011

            
10/5, 3:55am


 Hi Matt. 
I've been trying to write this message for a few years now, since I joined Facebook and you accepted me as your friend. 
I'm finally writing tonight because of another story in the news of a bullied kid killing himself. 
When we were about 12 maybe, we were playing at my house and I put you in a trashcan.  I doubt that you've forgotten. 
Some time later, you came to my door and informed me that we were no longer friends. That act was so honest and courageous.  I think I realized that you were bigger than me, even at that time.  I certainly did in retrospect. 
I guess I thought you were gay, because you were feminine, but I don't think that's why I did that. I really think it was about size and fear. I was, and still am to a large extent, afraid of men.  It was years later that I learned that my grandfather had played "games" with me, Kim, and my cousins.  And though I played football and stuff, was terrified of the associated violence. I think I trusted you enough to know that you wouldn't fight me, and I had a size advantage, so I bullied you. 
I want you to know that I regret my actions very much and to this day remember that huge kid on my porch informing me that I'd lost a friend. I wish I'd had him all along. 
Scott

            
10/5, 6:45am


 Hey Scott,  
I'm not gay...what are you talking about?? : )
Honestly, I don't remember this at all, so don't beat yourself up over it.
 I am sure that I thought it was a size thing at the time as well, or I would remember this incident vividly...I was picked on a lot for my size which I knew at the time I could not change.  
I thought I could change the gay thing...    
Although from about 12-15 years old, I wanted to die.  I have been fully aware of being gay since I can remember...so I had to hide it... it got exhausting by my teens. 
As for suicide...I never would kill myself, but just to die and fade away would have been desirable so no one would have known I was gay.  However, since I was a champion gymnast,  4.0 student, good son, brother, and friend I was armed with many successes as a child further strengthening me.  I guess my family telling me not to take shit from anyone worked!  
I am sure this was hard for you to write...  It was certainly hard for me to read since you obviously have been thinking about this a lot, and are trying to work out your guilt.  
Your grandfather sounds like he was a dangerously confused man who may have caused a fatal chain reaction.  
Thank god the buck stopped here, and I somehow blocked it from memory.  I have no tainted memories of you at all.
 I do remember our friendship, which I cherished, mysteriously ended abruptly...now I know why.  
-m











            
10/5, 6:54am

 I just stalked your photo albums
 You know I used to live in Japan on the JET Program...
I use my Japanese still today in business.  My company rolls me out when Akio Toyoda and all the Toyota higher ups go anywhere in the world...I go with.  Kind of cool.











October 9, 2011

            
10/9, 6:02pm


 Hi Matt.   I'm relieved that you didn't remember. Now you know why our friendship ended at that time. I listen to Dan Savage, and every time he talks about bullying, I remember that incident. 
I knew through Facebook that you'd lived here. It's a great country, ne?  I'm happier here than I could be in the US. 
Next time you come, I'd love to meet you if you have time. 



no one cares about you faggot and your gay story. filthy homosexuals yuck

Why don't you follow the example of the REAL Dylan Kliebold and kill yourself?  You're a douchebag and a pig and suicide IS an option, jerk.  Kill yourself and do the world a favor.

why dont you go and marry your dildo faggot. filthy queer. all you faggots love it up the butt don't you. hhahhahahahahaah

What kind of woman married you?  An 800 pound crack whore?  You're such an asshole, seriously, KILL YOURSELF.  No one would miss you, you idiot.  Some fat slob drooling on his keyboard salivating about buttsex with men. No one wants you, either female or male.  What a stupid buffoon.  You think you're special because you're straight?  Please, no one would fuck you.  PIG.

You faggots started fucking each other in the butt because you were tired of being alone. None of you could get a girl in real life. Thats what homosexuality is all about.  And an asswipe like you couldn't even get a faggot in real life so you decided to marry your dildo hahahaha. Filthy homo

You got a girl???????????  REALLY?  Is she under 400 pounds and does she have a moustache?  I can't imagine any woman worth having would have anything to do with you.  All you'd have to do is open your mouth and the sane or desirable would flee.  Likely excuse themselves to the restroom and call a cab.

Hell, they'd Change their telephone number and enter a witness protection program to get away from your beer gut, missing teeth, flatulence and BO.  You might want to propose to a dildo, given your obsession with buttsex it might be long overdue. You appear to be VERY HUNGRY for some sweaty mansex.

yeah i got a girl . she's your mom. she is missing a few teeth and she's a crack whore. she became a drug addict the day she came to know that her son was a faggot and liked things up her asss. ahhahahahaahhah

I think this is a great article. I was bullied so many times. I was very shy, short and skinny and was a damn easy target. In primary school (all male) I was bullied by this guy who was the ring leader for this group. He was popular. He unfortunately doesnt know that I one of the guys I dated he fooled around with multiple times. I have kept that to myself. Small world huh...

The other one was in my co-ed secondary school. Puberty didnt hit me till I was  16. I was always the smallest and not the typical jock boy. A lot of the guys who poked fun at me ended up being gay. They used me as a scapegoat. One boy in particular was pretty awful. He since went to the US, got his doctorate, lived with his bf when our paths crossed again. He had no recollection of making my life a living hell. Selective memory. Sadly he committed suicide a few months after we reconnected. 

My educational life up to age 18 was something I would never want to relive...but you dont stay in school forever and people move on. I have forgiven, but I certainly have not forgotten.

When I was young I was beaten regularly by my mother. This led me to being very shy and nervous and as a result I was bullied at school. Years later I met the ringleader who spoke to me like we had been best friends. I couldn't help myself and told her how her and her friends had made my life a misery at school. All she said was " well we were just kids". No apology -nothing. She thought that it was Ok. I just walked away from her.  Not everyone changes for the better!

Your mom should beat you more for bring a homo

Very sad you weren't aborted.  Even god would approve of your bloody fetus being throw into a toxic waste dump. It's not too late for a retroactive abortion.  One gun to the temple and pull the trigger.  Bang, one less asshole.  I recommend it, no one would miss you.

Awwww the faggot is butt hurt. Why do faggots get butt hurt so easily? Oh I forgot. Cuz they like taking everything up the butt. Hahahaha. Death to filthy queers. Amen

I guess you know a lot about "butt hurt", no wonder you're so jealous.

Whatever. Nancy boy.  No one obsesses that much about butt sex without gagging for it themselves,.  I know, it's hard to find a willing partner when you're 600 pounds and everyone has to roll you in flour to find the wet spot. (gag)

i know you're a lonely old fag looking for little boys online. girls didn't like you? right? old fart hahhahaha

Id really like to find this punk lol

ask your mom she'll give you my address ahhahahahhahaah

I was not so eloquent with my bully.  I was at a Dance with my BF and heard my name called out and the voice sent shills down my spine; I started to shake....  He tapped me on the shoulder as I was trying to get through the crowd of people to escape him beating me to pulp again.

he said, "I'm sorry I was......." he was trying to think of an appropriate word, to which I said, "A Fucking Asshole, Douche bag!!?" .... he looked at me and said, "yes"... "I guess I deserved that..."

"What do you want?" I asked, he proceeded to ask if I was seeing anyone and if I'd care to go for coffee or a beer sometime.... he even apologized.  I told him to fuck right off .... and NO he couldn't have my number as I was with someone and have been now for 20 years... but then would've been only 3....

So I guess I'm thankful he apologized but SHOCKED he is gay. i guess in retrospect, i guess maybe now not so shocked he's gay....  just more shocked he looked me up.

I don't know how I would react. I would maybe accept the apology. But, I couldn't let it pass without telling my bully, that he essentially ruined my life. He hurt and shamed me in ways that I didn't know would be so damaging. And, have such long term impact. And, ot in a good way. He took an already rough situation, and made it worse. Maybe, I'm still making it worse by holding on to it. But, it was truly awful to live through.
Good for these guys. Glad it's had this kind of outcome for them.

This is absolutely amazing!! I too was bullied in school my whole entire life. I have never been apologized to from anyone regarding it. But as I grew, I became someone more amazing then they will ever know. To all the bullies who have bullied me (you know who you are), I want you to know that in the end I win. Because I don't have to live with the guilt of ever treating any human or living thing in general like crap! I get to live with the fact that I survived it, and I am a far better person then you will ever be. The bully above is a great guy for making it clear that he is sorry, I love that. People can change, whether you are the bully or the bullied. Thank you for this post, it has clearly made an impact on me.

That was great I hope you two have a great life.... And why didn't my husband do something like that. I cried I loved it.... I would of said yes too... Love you and I wish you two the best. 

The act of asking forgiveness is so important to help heal the person you wronged. I can't stress enough how much it meant to me to have this friend step up and ask to be forgiven, not once, but twice.

I am close friends as an adult with a guy that wasn't very nice to me when we were kids. When we were in college he apologized to me...it was heartfelt and I had given him forgiveness before he asked for it. Then he apologized again, after he had his own children. I remember crying with him and telling him how much I love him and how the past is just that...the past. I love him...always will. He is a friend for life.

Jeff, I disagree quite strongly with your first paragraph.  Apologizing to someone you've wronged is important, then let it go. (Which is what "B"'s first email was.)  Asking that person to forgive you is just another demand on them, and selfish.  Almost another type of bullying.  Very passive/aggressive.  It does not help the wronged person at all!  (Though forgiveness will help them, having their former tormentor plead for it really won't.)

"B" never asked for forgiveness, showing how truly grown up he is.  In the first email he didn't ask for anything - no forgiveness, no response, no acknowledgement at all.  He just offered an apology and good wishes.  In the second he thanked Lucas for forgiving him, but that's all.  A class act.

So great! So amazing! Out world is a great place to live because there are people out there who are able to change and become a better human regardless of their past

Happy to see your video is having such a great effect on people.  The world is changing but there is still lots left to do but if we all have pride in ourselves the change will happen faster and faster.

Very touching, inspiring, educating... I realized people really change. Congrats for the both of you! Your steps are awesome!

I have to say that is very awsome 

I had the same thing from high school bully when he friended me on Facebook a few years ago. He aplogized for being such a jerk to me and wished me all the best in my life with my partner.

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