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Ellen Page Comes Out As Gay: 'I Am Tired Of Lying By Omission'

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Oscar nominated actress Ellen Page has officially come out as gay.

The Hollywood Reporter writes:

The star of the upcoming X-Men: Days of Future Past made the announcement in a moving and deeply personal speech delivered at Time to THRIVE, a conference to promote the welfare of LGBT youth held at Bally's Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas, Nevada.

"I’m here today because I am gay," Page, 26, told the audience  "And because  maybe I can make a difference. To help others have an easier and more hopeful time. Regardless, for me, I feel a personal obligation and a social responsibility."

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"It’s weird because here I am, an actress, representing -- at least in some sense -- an industry that places crushing standards on all of us," Page said. "Not just young people, but everyone. Standards of beauty. Of a good life. Of success. Standards that, I hate to admit, have affected me."

"You have ideas planted in your head, thoughts you never had before, that tell you how you have to act, how you have to dress and who you have to be. I have been trying to push back, to be authentic, to follow my heart, but it can be hard," she admitted.

You can read Ellen's full remarks here courtesy of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC).

This may be our favorite part:

I also do it selfishly, because I am tired of hiding and I am tired of lying by omission. I suffered for years because I was scared to be out. My spirit suffered, my mental health suffered and my relationships suffered. And I’m standing here today, with all of you, on the other side of all that 
pain. I am young, yes, but what I have learned is that love, the beauty of it, the joy of it and yes, even the pain of it, is the most incredible gift to give and to receive as a human being. And we deserve to experience love fully, equally, without shame and without compromise.

Congratulations, Ellen!! We're proud of your decision to live your truth openly!

Comments

Honestly, i'm very very proud of Page for coming out as a lesbian. And like Joan said, presumptions aren't always accurate. I really don't understand why being gay is such a big problem though. There's almost everything else to be worried about and we're worried about people being gay? I really wonder when everyone is going to come to the realization that there is nothing wrong with being gay . It's just love, love has no limits. You don't make a big deal out of seeing a male and a female walking hand in hand but all of a sudden when it's a female with another female or a male with another male walking hand in hand, it's a huge problem. Everyone deserves to be happy, some are happy with a male and some are happy with a woman, just let them be happy.

Trolls on both sides.  Interesting!

Reasons people still need to come out...

Because people like "A straight film fan" think being openly gay is being a spokesman for "A lifestyle"

Now as a heterosexual person myself, I guess I get where the Film fan is coming from, he's obviously worried that now Ellen Page is openly Gay she won't be getting the decent film roles, she'll find herself typecast and she'll have to struggle with the bigotry that is practically everywhere when it comes to the decision makers of Hollywood...

The problem is "A straight film fan" you, sorry to be the one to drop the truth on you, but as long as you feel the need to take this strange stand point, the longer you'll come across as homophobic and the longer other people have to deal with prejudice.

So in conclusion, "A straight film fan" does not represent my "Lifestyle" any more than Ellen Page represents her "lifestyle" oh and it's not lifestyle, it's sexuality.

Aaaaaaaand Troll.

Good for Ellen. Can we get back to enjoying her as an actor now? Or will you folks prop her up as a 'cause celebre'? Then, how will it be different for her as an openly lesbian actor than it was for her as a closeted lesbian actor? When those outside the industry saw her as a pregnant teen, it didn't seem to hurt her popularity. The point is that if she was pressured to 'appear' straight, yes, good for her for coming out. But every gay columnist online is touting her 'bravery'. Balderdash!! People will like an actor, or not. Now she has put herself out there as a spokesperson for a lifestyle.

Maybe the next big straight young person will, upon becoming the darling of tinseltown, hold a press conference and let the whole world know "I just brought y'all together to kill the rumors before they start. Don't pair me with Jason Horseholder or Wild Willie Redenfer, because our persuasion is not the same. I am here to announce, before the pressure builds, that, YES! I  AM A HETEROSEXUAL MALE!!! Can we go back to enjoying making and viewing the films?. Thank you. Now, I'll take any questions?.......{stunned silence}.....No? Well, thanks for coming, and don't forget to come out to my films, Jason's films, and Wild Willie's films. Thanks y'all!!

I hope all the columnists will support the next actor who comes out as straight as strongly as they have supported Ellen!!

This response is, at best, an example of "understanding without empathy". 

As a straight person, I have little to add to the fight for gay rights except support and EMPATHY, It, unfortunately, still remains necessary for people to "come out", and for that to be newsworthy (when famous) and noteworthy. Prejudice against gays and lesbians is REAL. The solution? Maybe in part it is having these beloved celebrities be authentic so that the fearful realize, "hey, they aren't that different from me!" And the haters, well, they'll eventually be out-numbered, I hope. Until then, it remains BRAVE to "come out", no matter who you are. 

In the meantime, maybe rather than acting blasé and unaffected - and worse: sarcastic - those straight, gay-supportive (or -tolerant) folks out there, like you, Straight Film Fan, need to engage in empathy for this struggle. 

Or maybe I just shouldn't feed the trolls?

Comments like this demonstrate a total lack of awareness regarding the level of prejudice that still exists toward gays and lesbians. Yes, it will be wonderful when we get to the point where people don't have to "come out" any more. But we are not there yet.  

Also, the idea of anybody coming out as "straight" is ludicrous. Straight is the default presumption. Straight is the majority. Straight isn't denied equal protection under the Constitution. Straight isn't persecuted, assaulted, or made ugly jokes about. Straight actors don't have to worry about the public accepting them in a straight romantic role, even thought straight actors are often called upon to play gay characters with no problems in perceptions. 

Yes, she is brave for coming out. Even if thethe majority of the rurpiiiiffffpublic had no problem with seeing a lesbian in a straight role, the people who control the purse strings are still too often unwilling to invest in a film that does so. 

I feel that your eagerness the diminish the importance of Ms. Page's openness reflects a hidden prejudice, a feeling that is reinforced by such statements as, "... the next actor who comes out as straight ..." and,  "YES! I  AM A HETEROSEXUAL MALE!!!" You reveal your real motivation, and your jealousy, in your statement, " ... and don't forget to come out to my films, Jason's films, and Wild Willie's films." Tell you what - you make a good film if you want attention. Your diatribe here isn't the way to do it.

Comments like this demonstrate a total lack of awareness regarding the level of prejudice that still exists toward gays and lesbians. Yes, it will be wonderful when we get to the point where people don't have to "come out" any more. But we are not there yet.  

Also, the idea of anybody coming out as "straight" is ludicrous. Straight is the default presumption. Straight is the majority. Straight isn't denied equal protection under the Constitution. Straight isn't persecuted, assaulted, or made ugly jokes about. Straight actors don't have to worry about the public accepting them in a straight romantic role, even thought straight actors are often called upon to play gay characters with no problems in perceptions. 

Yes, she is brave for coming out. Even if thethe majority of the rurpiiiiffffpublic had no problem with seeing a lesbian in a straight role, the people who control the purse strings are still too often unwilling to invest in a film that does so. 

I feel that your eagerness the diminish the importance of Ms. Page's openness reflects a hidden prejudice, a feeling that is reinforced by such statements as, "... the next actor who comes out as straight ..." and,  "YES! I  AM A HETEROSEXUAL MALE!!!" You reveal your real motivation, and your jealousy, in your statement, " ... and don't forget to come out to my films, Jason's films, and Wild Willie's films." Tell you what - you make a good film if you want attention. Your diatribe here isn't the way to do it.

Dear Straight Film Fan - news flash...no one has to come out a straight. That is the presumption; the default setting. All things being equal, if someone says "doctor," the immediate image is a white straight male.  That is why people come out, to remind everyone that presumptions are not always accurate.  There are other colors, other sexes, and other orientations.  Deal with it, please, so that "coming out" will no longer be necessary.

It strikes me as funny that you think its so simple to come out. When you yourself never had to fight within yourself not to show that you were straight. To some straight people it's a lifestyle yet when you talk about straight people its just their life...maybe when you can come to the table with some more humility people will take you serious. Until then don't bash on people being supportive of someone who has been oppressed for who they love. If you're truly a friend to the community be that.

This is exactly how I have always felt about this sort of thing! 

Life is too short to be unhappy no one should he ashamed of who they are,whether your gay, straight, big or small. Everyone deserves to be happy no matter who you are.

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