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Daniel Radcliffe Discusses The 'Painful' Mechanics Of Gay Sex In 'Kill Your Darlings'

Much has been made of the apparent authenticity of Daniel Radcliffe's gay sex scene in his Allen Ginsberg biopic Kill Your Darlings and Radcliffe has been a champ about answering the seemingly endless stream of questions about it. (At this point we feel like we've seen the scene already and honestly, once the movie comes out what will the poor boy have to talk about?!)

In his latest interview with Flaunt Magazine, Radcliffe speaks about the specificity of sex between men, saying:

I don’t think there’s any difference between how one falls in love. People express love differently, person to person, but it’s not gender or sexuality related. The only difference it made was obviously the actual sex scene, of course… I was talked through it by the director. He would be telling me what I would be feeling in each take. Basically, gay sex, especially for the first time, is really f**king painful. And [Krokidas] said that he had never seen that portrayed accurately on film before. He wanted it to look like an authentic loss of virginity.

Hmm...we won't delve too deeply into the assertion that "authenticity" equals "pain" when it comes to gay sex and losing one's virginity. That really depends on variety of factors and everyone's different. Our dear Daniel won't know until he tries! 

Still, we'd love for you to weigh in on Daniel's comments and the insight provided to him by his Kill Your Darlings director John Krokidas.

And seriously, someone hurry up and show us this scene.

Kill Your Darlings hits theaters in limited release later this week! 


(H/T: Towleroad)


LeNair Xavier's picture

I hope Instinct is not making a big deal of this for the wrong reason. For Daniel's comment doesn't show a lack of understanding about just gay sex. They show a misunderstanding about sex in general.
For virginal sex is often painful for the person getting penetrated, be they male or female. Maybe Daniel Radcliffe had no knowledge that it works that way. So at the most, this could mean that Daniel wouldn't properly take care of even a female virgin.

My first time started out painfully. Once I realized I had control of my body, it quickly developed from pain to pleasure. Still, the first time, for most I would guess, is uncomfortable at best. 

Big deal. Women say it's painful for them the first time, and they're the proscribed vehicles, according to the Religious Right.

My first time was bottoming for my ex, who was much older than me. It hurt a little, at first, but it got better. Since my first time, I have tried many things, and experience wise, I'm versatile, although, now, I prefer to top. If anal sex is performed properly, there should be minimal pain.

I can tell you that my first time was excruciatingly painful, and made me loath the act for many many years. It could be that I was insufficiently prepared, and my first experience was when I was 16, so was my partner, and foreplay was incidental at best. It could also be due to the fact that he was hung like the proverbial horse. It's still not my favorite thing to do, but if someone is gentle, I am more than willing to give it whirl.

es verdad....muy cierto  !!!!!!

Krokidas is a little on the self loathing side.  So this doesn't surprise me.  

I'm really disappointed in John Krokidas' statement!  I know for myself, loosing my virginity involved absolutely no pain whatsoever. I had a very loving top that took the time to prepare me for the act, and it was the most wonderful thing I had ever experienced.  Other less talented / intuitive tops have caused a modicum of pain.  But I've also heard from straight women that intercourse is painful if there is insufficient preparations / foreplay. 

So Mr. Krokidas:  Sex is Sex.  If you are physically prepared for the act, it doesn't matter who's receiving.

Not painful when done gently, lovingly, and willingly!

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