They do make one valid point though: do you want your wedding cake executed by anyone not interested in your welfare. Our wedding cake was created by a friend, and not only was it beautiful, it was delicious.
If they want to stand behind a smoke screen of the alcohol themed cake (for a wedding? really?) being something they didn't want to do, then it makes them feel better.
But, if I were shopping around for a wedding cake baker and they didn't seem like they were interested or invested in my wedding, I would move on regardless of why they weren't interested. Straight couples probably do the same thing.
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