I've been closeted and I've been married and didn't start to live until after I came out. Anything I lost after coming out, was not actually worth having in the first place. I would urge this actor to do the right thing by his girlfriend and do the right thing for you fans If your career is altered by this (it won't be ruined) you will ultimately be happier in your roles and your life. Be a symbol for other closeted people. Be someone they can look up to and respect. Don't be selfish to simply cling to a career. Your leading man status won't last forever (think Richard Chamberlain), so why not be happy and comfortable in your own skin now? Why wait. Please come out.
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