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Brother Reacts To His Big Brother Coming Out Via Text

Reddit user Thecly posted the text exchange that he shared with his brother after inadvertently coming out of the closet.

Thecly writes:

To give you some background I gave him my reddit username cause he wanted to see a discussion I was in. Anyways, I forgot that I have posted to gaybros with it. This convo is what followed. It seems he’s cool with it. Just like I hoped he would be.

Edit: Im 24 and he is 21.

His little brother later wrote on Reddit:

“He’s a pretty nice guy and I love him to death, ain’t nothin gonna change that. ;)”

We think these sort of "no big deal" coming out interactions are occurring more and more regularly, especially among siblings. We'd hope for nothing less between brothers! Great to see! 

 

(H/T: The Gaily Grind)

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How I came out was pretty boring and hilarious if I were to judge it. One day morning while me and my sister and my younger brother who's just a year younger than I am were cleaning the salas, we were caught off guard when my sister ask if we were gays. I was like WHAT!? haha but I told her the most honest and gayest answer. I said "Wanna see the gorgeous pic of my man?" And we just laughed. She said there's nothin to be worry bout being gay for as long as we have a good life plan and a stabled job. My other didn't come out yet but I know for the fact he is too.. Haha some of my friends knew so much bout me! :) just sharing..lol.. Im a filipino by the way..does that make sense at all? Haha lol

How I came out was pretty boring and hilarious if I were to judge it. One day morning while me and my sister and my younger brother who's just a year younger than I am, we were caught off guard when my sister ask if we were gays. I was like WHAT!? haha but I told herr the most honest and gayest answer. I sad "Wanna see the gorgeous pic of my man?" And we just laughed. She said there's nothin to be worry bout being gay for as long as we have a good life plan and a stabled job. My other didn't come out yet but I know for the fact he is too.. Haha some of my friends knew so much bout me! :) just sharing..lol

I'm the luckiest gay man alive, every single member of my family ( brothers, sister's nieces, nephews and grand nieces, nephews) know I'm HIV+ and gay and love and support me in every way. And I love them for loving me unconditional .

Really nice story, my dad was Army, he found out i was gay when i was 26, this was back in '95. He hasn't spoken to me since.

My Dad is a 20 year Marine, 6'2" 285 pounds. I grew up in a very strict house. He is a mans man. He lives in Vegas and I live in California. One day I was driving and talking to him on my cell (back when it was legal), since he had access to my bank account he was lecturing me on my spending habits. He says to me "You spent $75 at Hamburger Mary's? Don't think that I don't know how to use Google. Now Michael I don't know why you where there but you're my son and I love you unconditionally." I almost crashed when he said that. Growing up I had never doubted my fathers love, but for some reason I was so surprised that he was ok with me being gay. He hasn't said a negative thing about it. My dad is my hero. BTW, this happened 7 years ago when I was 42.

I came out to my sister on a car ride to my nephew's funeral (18 our drive) and I was a bit nervous to do it myself.  Her reaction was, "Hey, that's cool. If I hadn't found my current husband, I probably would have become a lesbian!" After that we spent the whole trip picking out the cute truck drivers.  It seems we both have similar taste.  My parents however, were not as easy. I only told my mom and her reaction was to ask me not to tell my father or the rest of the family.  I kept my promise (she's dead now) however, I never hid it either. I'm pretty sure my dad knew but never said anything, nor did he treat me any differently. As for the rest of my relatives, the ones that I have always liked know and don't care, and those I don't like, I don't give a damn about their reactions. It IS my life after all! As my favorite quote (that I came up with) states, A family is not made just by having related blood.  Family also comes as a result of the heartfelt thoughts and deeds of friends.” Therefore, I have a VERY large family!

Well luckily alot of you have support from your family on coming out,ive had to move 3 states from SC. Where i grew up in a one minded town to Florida. My family has nothing to do w/ me, my closest cousin just had a baby and the only reason i found out about it was throu a mutual friend of my cousins bc one by one my family deletes me from their life and now facebook. i think tht is soooo petty to act like tht. im happy w/ who i am. Before i said I was gay.... well my cousin outted me from myspace at 18 now im 25 she saw a "gay" post and next thing i know i get calls from each family member crying and saying how i have ruined the family name and we are all a joke now! I havent even been able to make a trip home in 6 years. i was the "good one" in our family... the one tht was spoiled and given whatever but when i came out, i cant even get a smile from them or to talk on the phone bc of the awkward silences. I thought the more time goes by they will adjust but its only become worse. I hear tht my family tries to lie to family friends why i never come home but its bc They are ashamed. Oh well their loss.....

I am sorry to hear what happened to you. Not to try to judge but have you try to show them no matter what they do you still love them unconditionally and still think them nothing less than a family as before coming out? I had the same issue with that when coming out biting showed them how I always love them no matter what they do or think of me. It was a long process but it did slowly showed result and now out relationship as family is even better. 

Or not.  No one HAS to do anything in this situation.  We have our "biological" families and we have our "logical" families - I have next to no contact with certain family members because their presence is a toxin in my life I can do without.  There are SIX BILLION people on this planet to choose to make part of our logical families, and it's our biological family members' loss if they choose not to be a part of it.  Lastly, as Dan Savage has pointed out on numerous occasions - In 20-30 years, who do you suppose they are going to turn to when they need THEIR diapers changed?  

I'm old. My dad found a copy of either Instinct or Genre when we were cleaning out the back of my car one day. He never mentioned seeing it and we've still never talked about. That was probably 10 years 10 years ago.

My brother found out when he was 13. He found some pictures of me and my then boyfriend (we were 16) kissing. When I arrived home from school he looked shocked and told me "I found something in your room, it's in your bed". He told me that he was ok, but that I should be careful with my stuff. We are now 22 and 25 respectively, he used to get along with a former boyfriend, and always gives me his opinion about the guys I date. 

Is nobody else disturbed by the fact this kid has 652 unread messages?!?! My OCD is FREAKING OUT..... 

LOL  love it I completely missed the 652 unread msg

This happened with my dad. He was taking my friend to a therapy group and I was going as mutual support. My friend outed me right in front of my dad. While we were in the group my dad texts my friend something like "Be careful. I don't think __ is out of tue close yet!!" Coming from a Hispanic family this is the last thing I expected. Since then, he's had dinner with my boyfriend, taken me to a lgbt events, and never said anything negative or "shocked" at all. :)

Too bad you didn't post a picture of the gay bro. I wonder if he's hot

This is just awesome! I came out 10 years ago when I was 18. My brother didn't believe me and thought it was a phase. My Mom sobbed like I had just died, but my  then there's my Dad who replied with: "Oh, I've known since you were 15. Found gay porn on my computer....so, have you had sex with a guy yet?" My Mom and brother are cool with it now, and I haven't very little discrimination since. The world really is changing. 

When I told my brother he said "who don't know.' Mom and Dad want a gay son so better u than me. We just laughed it off and went on our way. Being gay is not a big deal anymore. My parents just wanted me to be happy. Before I found the person that I love my Dad always was trying to set me up with some hot guy and I told him u have better gaydar than me. Lol lol

My brother cried and said he loved me anyway. Things are changing, yes they're good change.

None of my talk bubbles are 2 colored blue like that middle one is and the edge isn't even aligned correctly.

Ummm the responses have been edited via photoshop. Check out the talk bubbles and colors.

You must not have an iPhone! The difference in colors represents where the message was on the screen when the screenshot occurred. Darker blue refers to a lower position on the screen! ^.^

I called my sister to ask her to help with a question. After she answered it and we hung up I called her back 30 seconds later and said, "You know I'm gay, right?"

To which she replied, "Oh, yea, I know."

"Oh ok, cool. Just checking."

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