Check Your Ageism, Mature Men Make Better Lovers

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A male sex worker in Chicago wants to clear up some common misconceptions that people have with regard to hooking up with older men.

“As a sex worker, most people assume that the majority of my clients are unattractive,” Clark Rogers writes in an article for Unicorn Booty. “This is untrue: most of my clients are rather handsome actually, they just seek sexual services based on convenience, not desperation. People also assume that most of my clients older men — and yes, they are.”

But Rogers quite enjoys his older clientele. He says older men “have a better understanding of their desires and are able to articulate them clearly.” 

“It’s no surprise that our sexual culture completely excludes older gay men,” he continues, recalling a recent ageism workshop he attended at a national conference on LGBTQ equality. “One of the men in my group mentioned how gay media often presents young guys as affluent as a way to further glamorize youth. Another noted that images of beauty idols haven’t changed since he was a young man.

“While the consumers have aged, the models have remained the young,” he writes. “Thus, our very concept of beauty has stagnated, pushing older generations out of the sexual imagination.”

Rogers also references a 2013 survey that found 63 percent of gay men over 60 were living alone with no partner.

“When we refuse to talk to our elders or allow them into sexualized spaces,” Rogers says, “it only increases their isolation, and our own.”

Indeed, Rogers would like this to change.

“It is up to us to set aside our highly sexualized culture and create a bridge to our older counterparts,” he writes. “They need us and, if nothing else, communing with them will help lay a framework for when we too become seniors.

“If we could find a way for senior gay men to share their experiences with our community–histories that are not being shared in a sex-focused culture–we won’t lose the most valuable thing we can get from each other: a stronger sense of our own identity, one that will last for generations.”

H/T: QueertyUnicorn Booty

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Isn't the guy in the last pic married to a us embassy dorm to a foreign country. I saw a documentary about his husband being gay in government..and both are sexy as hell.

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I find older men hot and I have "some age" myself. I also find men with some girth (no pun) attractive. No wonder the world pictures gays as ripped, slim and chiseled individuals when (what seems like) every time you turn on your laptop, those photos appear. This is not saying statuesque men are not great! But variety is wonderful and should be shown more.  

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This article states the truth, ABSOLUTELY! However, the choice to use a mature model with washboard abs does not truthfully represent the gay community over 50.

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Not to mention that the top pic (the guy with his arms over his head) could be only 30 years-old with premature grey--like Anderson Cooper.  To suggest otherwise is misleading.  It's not that "older men can't have great bodies", it's that "that great body is not an older man" with the first pic.

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I was thinking the same thing!

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