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Church Prevents Grandson From Singing At Grandma's Funeral After He Attends Gay Pride Parade


Is this what it means to show Christ's love?

Leadership at the St. Mary of the Assumption Catholic Church in Decatur, Indiana informed Connor Hakes, the grandson of a deceased parishioner, that he cannot sing at his grandmother's funeral. Their reasoning is that Connor attended a gay pride rally and would potentially bring "scandal" to the church. 

Hakes writes on Facebook:

I can no longer sing at my Grandma's funeral, because I attended a gay pride rally and a picture was posted publicly (years ago). The priest's reasoning is by attending such event, I am opposing the Catholic Church's fundamental marriage belief. Both my Grandma and Grandpa would be disgusted by their parish. Their compassion and empathy was abundant, no matter who you were. They saw beyond race, religion, sexuality, and social class. They loved everyone. That is what is means to be a Christian. That is what it means to be Catholic.

He's attached photos of the letter from the church.

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I have contacted Connor, the young man, to inform him of the irony that this church, the very one he was raised in and the one from which he received this letter, was where one of the worst pedophile priests of the late 20th century American Catholic church was assigned for several years back in the 1960s.  I know this because I grew up in that parish and was one of the priest's victims.  How ironic that all these years later, half a century actually, the current pastor of this church should pass such judgment in this case.  They don't want to accept responsibility for what was done decades ago by their very own priest, but they won't hesitate to lay unnecessary suffering and grief on a young man who only wanted to sing at his grandmother's funeral.  I have urged Connor to consider leaving the Roman Catholic Church.  After a lifetime of trying to make life in the church work for me, that's what I did.  I'm only sorry that I spent so many years trying.

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How "christian" and "charitable" of the "church". When and how did they escape the very virtuous words and deeds of Christ and choose to make the Bible a weapon, rather than a guide? "christianity": You're doing it all wrong.

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Given the number of Catholic priests sexually assaulting very little boys (& girls) who have been protected by their Church I feel they really DO need to wind their necks in?

This is so very shameful...

Sing - either in private or as a joyful collective - for your Grandmother at the same time as her funeral..  Take joy in ignoring these bigots.

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If his grandmother would be "disgusted by her parish", I would seek to have her service held anywhere other than this hateful church. How sad, in 2016, such bigotry, hatred, prejudice, intolerance, and simply uneducated ignorance exists.

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My first thought was that the family should immediately arrange to have the funeral in another location.  Screw the church.

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