Designer Tom Ford: Sleeping With Men Doesn't Make You Gay

Luxury fashion designer Tom Ford has been known to speak frankly, and off the cuff.

In an interview with GQ last year, the out gay couturier said all men should be sexually penetrated, at least once.

"It’s such a vulnerable position to be in, and it’s such a passive position to be in. And there’s such an invasion, in a way, that even if it’s consensual, it’s just very personal."

And now, Ford is speaking about our cultural progression toward sexual fluidity. 

In a new interview with The Telegraph, the 56-year-old speaks to how that fluidity is mirrored in his new Spring 2018 collection. 

Speaking of his two new fragrances, "Fucking Fabulous" and "Noir Anthracite," Ford explained that he “hates” when things are described as "masculine." 

“If you love something and it smells great, why shouldn’t you wear it? Why can’t a man wear a beautiful peony-based fragrance?” 

Ford observes that our society and culture are moving away from stereotypes, and archetypal labels, and for that, he couldn't be happier.

“What’s great about this new generation is that they’re growing up in a culture where anything goes.

“If you’re a guy who paints his nails, that doesn’t mean anything. 

“You’re a man sleeping with a man? So what, that doesn’t mean you’re gay. 

“I think that men have always been just as vain and cared just as much (about their appearance) as women, but our culture perhaps didn’t support it."

Ford, who in addition to designing for his own line, has worked as a film director, screenwriter, and film producer, recently with Nocturnal Animals, and previously with A Single Man, said he hopes we can learn from the past, to see the benefit of rejecting the restrictiveness of masculinity.

“Let’s look at the 18th century; those guys would go around with little red heels, lace, face powder, beauty marks. 

“There have been moments in time where men expressed their vanity and didn’t worry about whether that compromised their masculinity.” 

 

 

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While this story is kind of a meh, this guy makes great eau de parfum,fashion, etc.  One of my favorite movies, A Single Man.  I aspire to wear one of his tuxedos.  His a don of the gay mafia, lol!

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Crawl back in you hole Johnny! 

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I completely concur Mdc.

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And then some people are simply jealous (period)

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Is that directed towards me? I don't want to make any assumptions. But I do get annoyed when people don't have a real response to someone, so, they just dismiss whatever they said. 

If it is directed towards me, I'm not the jealous type. And I don't aspire to be rich, to design clothing, to peddle overly expensive clothes and products, to direct a couple middling movies or to look like a wax doll. So, there's no reason to be jealous. And Ford has always come off as another shallow, megalomaniac, hetero-worshiping homo/dominant man in some variation of entertainment who is less interested in helping the "cause" than in promoting himself. There are tons of them.    

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This isn't some new discovery. Anyone who knows anything about sexuality already knows this.  

Tom Ford is a Botox-ed up narcissist who married his former sugar daddy, needs to give up on movie directing and who honestly seems like another hetero-worshiping gay/gay-leaning man. An "anything goes" society is not "progress". It's debauchery and narcissism. And it's funny how he didn't flip that and say sleeping with women doesn't make you hetero. He is right to a degree. Orientation does not equate to sexual behavior. However, while "fluidity" has some legitimacy for some people it also lets people off the hook from being honest about and investigating the dimensions of their sexual attractions and instincts and the motivations behind why they have the type of sex they have, why they have sex with the people they do and have relationships with the people they do. It's why merely sayng who you have sex with and what you "like" isn't an honest and thorugh descroptiion of someone's orientation.  

Furthermore, too many of these rich gay/gay-leaning men spend too much time trying to disassociate themselves from the words "homo" and" gay", spend too much time praising and trying to lift up hetero and hetero-leaning men and too much time trying to be subversive and decadent. 

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Pretty much everything you say is not based in fact and is very subjective. You're certainly entitled to your opinion, but please present it as such.  In my opinion, you just come across as bitter with a lot envy. You're totally entitled to ignore me and anyone else, but your tone reflects something going on. Mr. Ford, by most standards, is incredibly successful and rather happy.

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You're entitled to your opinion, but please be clear to present it as such. Not much of what you stated is fact and, in my opinion, just comes across as bitter.

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