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Former Dallas Cowboy Is Concerned Over Michael Sam Patting Players On The Butt

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We're not quite sure how to explain the fascination with how Michael Sam will relate to his future NFL teammates in the shower

Apparently it's a big concern for some players--even those that are retired and won't be anywhere near Sam are clutching their pearls over what it will mean if Sam glances in their direction or pats a player on the butt on the field. (And Heaven forbid somebody drop the soap in his presence.)
Retired former Dallas Cowboy Greg Ellis tells ESPN that he, personally, would have been uncomfortable with an openly gay teammate. 
He says:
“I would. I would. People who’ve never been in an NFL shower room, not just locker room, it’s a open room. We don’t have private curtains. It’s just an open-form shower, so everybody sees each in the nude. Well if you’re looking at men as if you’re looking at women or vice versa, how are those guys to receive that? I don’t know. I don’t know how they will receive that. But I do know it would be a situation where I would go to the coach and try to work something out to say, ‘Obviously this is going to be a problem. What can we do? The kid can help us play, can help us win football games. We need him on the team. But this situation right here, we need to do something.’"
We doubt Michael Sam is planning to look at any of his teammates in the way "you look at women" and we think he'll be able to keep his inner "lustful cockmonster" in check. 
As for what Sam has to do to be welcomed by his potential team, Ellis has this advice:
“If he can make it through that first initial wave. If he can get out there — he doesn’t need to say anything. He needs go in there, close his mouth and play football to let the guys know that, ‘Hey if you guys give me a chance to welcome me into this fraternity of this football team, I can contribute and help us win football games.’ That’s going to be his best approach in my opinion."
But then Ellis makes it weird(er)...
"Because the little things you have to look at. If he pats somebody on the butt — I hope ESPN don’t get mad and never have me back — but if he pats somebody on the butt, how is that to be received? If he does that how is that to be received? If he said, ‘Come on baby’? I called guys baby all the time on the football field, but when you have taken a stand and went and go public and say that, ‘I am gay,’ how is that going to be received? I’ve seen guys, I had guys on the Dallas Cowboys football team — I won’t mention names — who did not want you to pat them on their butt. So God forbid if you pat one of those guys on the butt it’s going to be a major problem.”
At this point, Ellis's primary bone of contention (besides Sam being gay, in general) is that Sam chose to come out before he came into the NFL and established himself as a player that could contribute to the team.
He says:
"I don’t care how we look at this, it’s going to affect the football team. And one of the biggest reasons why it’s going to affect the football team, he’s not a proven player. Teams and guys have a lot of tendency to accept a lot of things if they feel like, ‘Nobody done like him, but nobody can do what he can do.’ If it’s your quarterback and he’s playing like Peyton Manning you’re going to have find a way to say, ‘We’re going to overlook that because we’re trying to win football games.’ But when you’re coming in as an unproven rookie, you won’t have that card to pull because you’re unproven. He has to be careful. He has to come in, close his mouth. It should’ve never came out. I know half the people will say, ‘Why not?’ Because it hurts his opportunity to be welcome into a football club.”
We're pretty sure it only hurts his opportunity to be welcomed by ignorant players. We think they'll figure out how to deal and Michael Sam will prove himself. 
What's your take, Instincters?


Michael is so far ahead of this has been. What is his name again?

Well I know I would, I guess I would still be professional but I would look at their genital areas whether intentionally or unintentionally. As some of us would be ok to shower with straight females some of us wouldn't be too happy doing it just thinking maybe one of them would look at my private areas even to just look them out. But what we are saying is that I could shower with them and ALL of them would be professionals and not look at me as as a man. That is silly because they all are different, one of then might. So I hope this gets better in time as some more players come out, if they don't we might be forever the odd ones out there. 

Ignorant players... Hmm I guess there aren't that many, so I guess he shouldn't be concerned. On other matters if they are worried about gays looking at other fellow players it wouldn't work to have an adjacent shower for gay players? I know I may be saying something that seems wrong, something that would sound discriminatory, but the truth is that maybe we do check them out while we are there (I said maybe, Sam could have sand in his veins and not do that). 

I think Greg Ellis might do well to check his gay side, it's hidden right behind his false pride. The fact that he views his gestures of ass slapping, hug piles, and baby naming as good male comradely unless expressed by a gay man is lame. And are not most contact sports a little homo erotic and closeted to begin with? I know my coach just loved hanging out with the boys.  And as the song goes, 'don't call me baby', baby. Ellis might better spend his time addressing the real difficulty many of his colleagues have, in their straight lives, of abusing their wives. 

News flash for the straight men. Not every gay man want to have sex with you nor find you attractive. Get over yourselves snd your own petty insecurities about your own sexuality. Your just not that special.

Who cares what the FORMER NFL player says, His teammates in College had no problems, they played football. 

It's ironic that Greg Ellis doesn't even give the notion that Sam would be uninterested in the others on the team and in the locker room. It's funny how those who are homophobic attempt to validity their case by demonizing what they do not understand. It is a completely overblown stereotype that gay men see blood red and go crazy over any swinging dick in a locker room, without having any essence of professionalism, poise, and restraint. It's offensive and creates an unrealistic image of sexual orientation in general. To be honest, it is those who have identified as "straight" who give the most advances to the other males in the shower or while in the locker room. The comradery associated with sports teams has always showcased and highlighted the bond between men, and it generally includes many acts that are deemed "homosexual" by today's standards. It is ironic that Greg Ellis doesn't seem to point out these actions, such as the patting on the butt from a "straight" teammate. It is ironic that only when someone who has been brave enough to admit their sexuality does this become a problem. The double-standard and stigma behind Greg Ellis' "concern" is appalling. It serves to act as a means of panic that quite simply, "The gays are taking over!" What Ellis fails to make note of is the fact that gay and lesbian athletes have been members of the games for centuries. This is not a new development, it is simply one that is now gaining media attention because the nation has no one else to bully. What is truly concerning is that Ellis, a black man, is so quick to place judgement on someone that he knows nothing about, and yet seems to forget that once not long ago, he would have been discriminated against for simply existing as a man, who happens to be a talented and skilled athlete, and black. It's curious that Greg Ellis has such an issue with a confirmed homosexual being in the locker room, while those who haven't whispered a peep have been silent for decades. The real concern here is Ellis' concern to bring in a situation that he hasn't been culturally prepared for. And just as the first stone was overturned in Little Rock, AK, the first step has been taken towards a team that is accepting of all members, race, creed, gender, and orientation. Unfortunately for Ellis, in this circumstance, is very much the white man on the opposite side of the street with the picket sign. I do hope that in future years he transitions toward the right side of history.

You would think that a sports player who is black would understand the need for a member of a minority group to step forward and break those barriers. I'm sure that many white players had what they consider "valid concerns" when Jackie Robinson wanted to play baseball with them and they felt that it would draw too much attention to the integration instead of the game, which is what they all came to see. However, it does not seem the fault of  Robinson, as it is not the fault of Sam, since it is not they who placed the prejudices into the status quo in the first place. Their will be media attention and their will be scrutiny on Sam and the team he plays for, no avoiding it, so grit your teeth and push through and in 10 years when all sports leagues are integrated with straight and gay players alike we will look back and think how childish we were for making this an issue... and probably make a movie about it.

Madonna was invited to perform. ..
Dude. ..dont invite the queen if your afraid of gay dudes on the field or in the locker room

first thing I would do is walk into the locker room and walk around handing everyone a present. Inside the present would be a card saying if you are concerned about dropping the soap in the shower I got you this present, se you in the shower ;) . The present would be soap on a rope

I'm sorry but as a gay man. I don't any frigid gay men. He is a hot young man I'm sure he will have lustful thoughts it is nature. He's also right out of college. The question should be not if he's gonna look cause of course he will it should be can he handle himself professionally? I'm sure that he will.

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