Former Ex-Gay Activist: 'I Wouldn't Date An Ex-Gay, I Don't Trust That They're Ex-Gay'
Former Family Research Council "ex-gay" activist Yvette Schneider is sounding the alarm on her former ex-gay compatriots, particularly as it relates to whether they could actually successfully change their sexual orientation.
Schneider tells GLAAD's Jeremy Hooper:
"Many people I knew suspected all along that change—true change where all same-sex attractions disappear or become rare and incidental, and heterosexual attractions take their place—never happened. I can say I’ve never met an 'ex-gay' man I thought was not still attracted to men and would not go back to gay relationships under the right circumstances. One of my colleagues tried to fix me up with an 'ex-gay' man when I was still single. I said, 'No way. I have no interest in dating an ex-gay man. I don’t trust that they’re actually ex-gay.' My colleague said, 'The Bible says people can change—‘and such were some of you’—so you have to believe it’s true. It’s incredibly defamatory of you to believe otherwise.' The particular 'ex-gay' man who was to be my date was caught having sex with a man about a year later."
Schneider worked as part of the ex-gay movement for fourteen years.
For those that are interested, Hooper also questioned Schneider regarding how she would describe her own sexual orientation now that she's removed from the ex-gay movement; she says:
I’ve always been drawn to intense emotional connections. I look for something about a person that excites me and makes me want to spend time with them and know more about them. Part of that, of course, is physical attraction. If the person happens to be a woman or a man is inconsequential to me. For most of my life I’ve been more attracted to women than to men, but my attractions also depend on personal qualities, not gender. Fifteen years ago when I met the man I would eventually marry, we had an instant connection. Anyone who knows us can see we’re soul mates. Could I have had an equally strong bond with a woman? Of course.
Check out the full interview here.