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Gay Dads Hold Their Newborn Son For The First Time

Prepare to feel all of the feelings! Photographer Lindsay Foster captured these beautiful images of fathers B.J. Barone and Frankie Nelson holding their newborn son, Milo for the first time!

The proud dads are shirtless because skin-to-skin contact is good for newborns.

Lindsay tells Buzzfeed:

“I had the opportunity to photograph this amazing birth on June 27th for a surrogate and two expecting and anxious daddies. Hours were spent with them in the hospital room while the surrogate mom was laboring and I got to know them quite well,” says Lindsay. “They are two compassionate people who felt all the emotions that every new parent feels. They asked all appropriate questions of the birthing mom and the midwife and educated themselves as best as they could for their son’s arrival. I am so proud of these two dads.”

B.J. and Frankie released the following statement via Lindsay's Facebook page:

“Thank you to everyone out there who has taken the time to like, comment and share our picture! This was truly an incredible moment in our lives that will be captured forever by the lovely Lindsay Foster Photography. We are so lucky that we have a beautiful, healthy baby boy! All comments posted are respected, although we may not agree with the negative ones, the positive ones far outweigh the negative. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. This is a moment of pure love and acceptance. Milo is surrounded by unconditional love and he will grow up knowing many different types of families and accept everyone, (intolerant people included). Milo was born during World Pride. This picture represents everything Pride is about. Love has no colour nor gender nor sexual preference. Love is unconditional. Thank you again from the bottom of our hearts! xxoo”

We love it!! Congratulations, B.J. and Frankie--and thanks for sharing your photos with the world!

 

(H/T: BuzzFeed/ The Gaily Grind)

Comments

I have nothing but the deepest support for you new dads! You shared one of the most personal photos with us all and that means a lot.

Most people who say hateful things do so because they get alarmed when you feel emotions from seeing such an emotional photograph so they lash out.

The comments on this page range from the deranged to the uninformed. I am happy you guys did what was best for the baby having the warm skin-to-skin contact! I never knew of that BUT I am no expert but it seems to be a great birthing secret I learned! So happy for you both.

I just wish people would put more loving and good energy into the world...but people nowadays are the masters of hateful rhetoric. These same people are the ones who complain the world is a horrible place but never take responsibility for the vile energy they inject into everyday life. Everyone claims to be an expert on family, the bible and other people's lives....where is the humility?

Ladies and GOOD men..........lets not feed into this stupidity. We know that these men will be better parents to this beautiful baby than half of society is these days.

Addendum to my previous comment. I wouldn't have a problem with a photographer coming in to take pictures of the beginning of their child's life, but then to sell the photos to numerous news outlets = exploitation. 

It does look creepy & unnatural. In my opinion, this was exploitation. 

I am gay , I agree with gay marriage but am sorry I really find this pictures disgusting , gross and doesn't speak well of the mind of those 2 new gay parents .Even if your shirt it is off ,and you don't let carry even one second on the surrogate mathers arms , you never ever cant replace natural birht moment . To me look creepy and seem to me that you show how desperate you want copy a woman, what it is ur fear , the child will love u anyways , he doesn't need smell ur sweat old male body , he need a soft skin a female tocuh at leas for some hour.

I am now senior and to this day the most important and beautiful day in my life was the day 17 years ago when our son was born.  We were also lucky to be there when our birth mother delivered him.  We held his head while he was being born and cut his cord.  My gay lover and I raised our son and are prouder of him that anything else in the world.   Blessing on you two for you are now a family of three. Take lots of pictures and movies because the children grow up too fast.   Joe Easton

You're right, they're not sexy pics. Nor are they sexy guys. What was Instibct thinking, doing a photo expose on them? I'll send you some eye candy pics of myself, and at least make your readers drool!

Thanks,

Tony

Are these pictures supposed to be sexy? Because they are not!

You're clearly an absolute moron because that's one of the dumbest questions I have ever read!! They get to hold their child for the first time, it's a beautiful thing.

Well said!

congratulations, love knows no gender, for as long as you two love each other, then nothing else matters.

Michael Duvet, I'm sure your comments don't mean anything to anyone either. And how can you claim to "love" all these people that you don't even know? SHEESH! Good Riddence!

omg.  I'm completely disgusted by all the assholes making sick comments on here.  A great big fat FUCK YOU goes out to all you hate makers.  

And to the happy parents, all the love goes out to you from people with intelligence.  Love the photo, love the emotion, love the joy, love you two for the amazing dads you're going to be.  Congrats.

And a quick p.s. to all you assholes:  none of your fucked up comments on my words mean a damned thing to anyone.  And Michael Dube is my real name.

OMG! Really? 

Did it get stretched out when giving birth, like a woman's woohaha? That must have hurt. Who would want to have sex with that fudge hole after it's been stretched out after giving birth?

Just STOP!

Do their assess really get stretched out? Eeewwww!!!

They should have put on shirts before the photographers got there. It's not like they have hot bodies to show off, while they exploit their newborn!

Oh please...do you ever think before you speak? It's clear that they do it because skin-to-skin contact is good for newborns! Or are you just a mean and attacking others because it make you feel better?

Excuse me, but whatever I comment on ANYWHERE on the internet I don't use my REAL name. Most "names" on here are fictitious anyway. And please don't  say that I'm "trolling" a gay publication. Instinct is one of the lowest grade magazines out there that trolls EVERYWHERE, gay & straight. Haven't you noticed his many women have commented on here? How do you think they found this article? It appears on Reddit, Facebook pages, etc. So check your facts before you speak out of your stretched out ass. 

Man on Man sex is unnatural. And two men having a baby is even more unnatural. 

The gays are trying to change everything that God created as beautiful and natural.

Sex between two males is not beautiful, it's animalistic. 

HAHA I laughed so hard at this. So when a man and women do these animalistic sex acts as well it is okay? *double standard*

That is your personal belief. It is not shared by others. And why people like you bother to troll publications like this, and then hide behind anonymity, is beyond me. If you truly believe in the words that you post from behind a computer screen, at least have the balls to identify yourself, and stand in your solidarity. Don't hide like the coward you truly are.

Why couldn't they have at least warn shirts for this photo shoot? Yuck!

You clearly ignored the part where it explains that they are shirtless, because skin-to-skin contact with an infant, is good for the child. Please learn to read.

Honestly, this is the most REPULSIVE and CORNY pic I have seen in a while.

These gross, old fatties with all their disgusting body hair could LITERALLY breastfeed this kid with those udders a hanging from their chest.

They will be teaching him to suck there cocks before long, while making his asshole bleed from penetration. Sad and declining world we live in.

You dare to post a comment like this, and then claim "Sad and declining world we live in."? your hypocrisy knows no limits, does it? And why do you feel your pathetic, bigoted, and hateful opinion even matters in the larger scheme of things? Because all you've done is judge people, and the judgment you've passed on others, will be passed on you on your Day of Judgment, as you stand before your maker.

Oh, and please learn how to spell correctly. It's "their" not "there."

Congrats guys !! Fatherhood is absolutely wonderful. I chose to become a Dad in 2001 and adopted my Son May 31, 2002. He was raised by 2 Dads up until 2/2013 when my partner decided he wanted out of a 20 year relationship and 11 years of Fatherhood with our adopted Son. My Son is in counciling because of the breakup and his therapist has praised the job that my EX and I have done rasing our Son. I also will add that my Son has a girlfriend, was not raised to be Gay like so manly idiots seem to think we gay parents do.

I'm certain you are ignoring the stupid hateful comments left by some. I'm betting some of these male thugs have been sperm donors and have never lefted a finger or spent a dime on raising a child. PEACE, LOVE & HAPPINESS to you both and your new born. Enjoy, they grow up so fast. HUGS from Michigan.

God whats that gonna look like!?! Probably have I foot with 6 toes that are webbed together and spend all it's time swimming in circles! At least he'll find work at a circus

Congratulations Dads!!! You are beginning the most wonderful and exciting time of your lives. My spouse and I raised two wonderful children, a boy and a girl. Neither of them "became" gay and now have a beautiful and happy grandson (oh yeah..my spouse and I are gay). I suspect that a good many of the dissenting posts here are either teenagers or those trying to get a response. The only way to combat that type and level of ignorance and bias is to simply ignore it and not comment. However, I also suspect that some can't help themselves and just want to stoke that fire. It's not about anyone but those two men and that baby.  I also predict that, that little boy will grow to be a incredible man. Those fathers are beaming and happy.  That's what it's all about.

For those wondering where the homophobes are coming from, this article has been linked on reddit. Although I don't actively support gay marriage, I'm not bothered by it. Good luck to the fathers. 

These guys could literally breastfeed that baby wit those manboobs!

Totally DISGUSTING, fat, hairy mess these guys are with those cow udders a hanging from their repulsive bodies.

They will end up pimping this boy out in a few years like all the rest of the gays do to their male kids.

This child will have a better future than half the American kids. OMG, you idiots.... this kid has a a life now. Mom don't want, dad is who? Really, get over it.....not your life or kid and you don't pay. Do not comment unless you plan to get the kid or pay for the kids future...GOD BLESS..

Man that child has no hope. Feel bad for the poor fella. Growing up around fudge munchers and living on the Hershey highway. I myself think this is totally wrong but I will not lose sleep over it. Just feel bad for the lil fella. Kids got no chance. Happy 4th of July fudge packers 

That kid is way better off than any kid who would be raised by an ignorant, narrow-minded piece of fecal matter such as yourself.

Your an fucking idiot! Your mama should swallowed the load that created you! I'm guessing as ignorant as you sound that your daddy wore tighty whiteys. You know the kind with skid tracks in the back! Your baby picture was sold to the poster child for abortion campaign. Stupid breeder!

Hey Drew-

You are an ignorant ass

Your an ass, do you really believe what you say?

YOU ARE A FUCKING IDIOT!!!!  God forbid you have children and raise them in YOUR  ignorant prejudiced, stupid, uneducated  hateful world. I TOTALLY HOPE YOUR CHILDREN GROW TO HATE YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU STAND FOR. It'll serve you right.

if you don't have anything good to say ZIP ITTTTTT! you freak

You are one sick bastard.  I hope you'll never have kids...!  Hate and NO understanding.  Keep your sick, twisted thoughts in you own head.   I don't get how people can grow up being like you - just reading what you wrote DISGUSTS me.  Repulsive and that people like you can breed with no problem is a problem.  Pimping out their kids - what kind of a sick person are you. 

What a beautiful picture, Congratulations to you both, I hope parenthood brings lots of amazing memories with your baby boy, don't let the haters get to you... Each to their own, if no one has nothing nice to say well then don't say it... Simple 

fags, they'll end up molesting that poor baby

Your an Idiot..are you American? You must be muslin....

You're both idiots. You call someone a name for prejudice towards homosexuals, and then you show off your prejudice against another country? What the fuck makes your intolerance so much better? You can't even spell it right. Well, I guess that's not surprising with the lack of intelligence you've already so brilliantly displayed.

I'll bet you are the same anonymous asswipe that commented about their man boobs.

Why don't you take you small mined and probably small dick off of this website if it's soooooooo disscusting to you , you stupid FUCK.

No need to bring your personal experience into it. Your dad did what he did to you because he was just an asshole. 

He remains anonymous because he is a coward.

nice photographs.

Congratulations proud dadies...Ur baby looks adorable.

I'm a straight father of three daughters and you know what? I teared up a bit at this pic because it is AWESOME! Congratulations! And on my birthday as well lol too cool! Enjoy your new little one my friends, I can tell by the look in your eyes, in this pic, you guys will be great fathers!

Tys........your comment brought tears to my eyes. Your daughters have an amazing father as this new born little boy does too.

These idiots running their mouths with hatred and negative remarks are the punk ass thugs that are out making babies that they don't want, can't afford, or know how to raise.

I'm a gay male with an adopted teenage Son. He has never been molested, is straight, an A/B student and has a knock out gorgeous girlfriend. Go figure, a straight Son raised by a Gay Dad. I was born gay, my parents didn't raise me to be gay, and I didn't choose to be gay.

Congrats to these two Dads, you have an amazing journey ahead of yourselves, ENJOY !!

THIS IS SO DISGUSTING, THIS IS THE REASON WHY WE KNOW THAT NATURE NOR GOD MADE ANYONE GAY. IF NATURE MADE YOU GAY WHY HASN'T NATURE MADE A WAY FOR YOU TO REPRODUCE TOGETHER OF HAVE SEX WITHOUT THE USE ON YOUR EXCRETION HOLE?!! IF BEING GAY IS OK THEN WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE FORCED ON YOU BY BIRTH RATHER THAN IT JUST SIMPLY BEING A PREFERENCE? NO ONE IS BORN GAY....THAT POOR CHILD, THIS GOES AGAINST NATURE!!

God made me gay just like he made you stupid !!

this is what retarded Christians actually believe..

Against nature? Is that seriously your argument? I assume you don't reject things that truly aren't "natural." Like air travel, pasteurization, vaccination, dentistry, In vitro fertilisation, or the computer you used to compose your idiotic post. Being gay, however, is completely within the realm of nature. As are other men and women, straight or gay, who are incapable of having babies. 

And just so we are completely clear, you can't reproduce using your "excretion hole." Neither can straight people who have anal sex.  You fucking moron. 

Yeah. Typing in all caps really will make people want to read this.  
Grow up child. 

ALSO, IF A MAN AND A WOMAN GET MARRIED BUT CAN'T HAVE A CHILD THEY SHOULD NOT BE MARRIED ANYMORE BECAUSE THERE IS NO POINT OF MARRIAGE WITHOUT REPRODUCTION. ALSO, IF A MAN AND A WOMAN GET MARRIED AND ONE OF THEM DIES, THE OTHER PARENT SHOULD GIVE THE CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION BECAUSE A CHILD NEEDS A MOTHER AND A FATHER. ALSO, GLASSES ARE NOT NATURAL, SO DO NOT WEAR THEM. IF GOD WANTED YOUR VISION TO BE PERFECT HE WOULD HAVE GIVEN YOU PERFECT VISION. ALSO, MEDICAL SCIENCE IS NOT NATURAL, IF YOU GET SICK, IT IS BECAUSE GOD WANTS YOU TO DIE. ALSO, EVEN THOUGH ANIMALS ENGAGE IN HOMOSEXUAL ACTS, I DON'T LIKE IT BECAUSE IT GOES AGAINST THE RELIGION THAT MY PARENTS FORCED ON ME AS A CHILD, AND I REMEMBER EXACTLY WHEN I CHOSE TO BE STRAIGHT, BECAUSE SEXUALITY IS A CHOICE. THIS GOES AGAINST NATURE, LIKE THE INTERNET, PROCESSED FOODS, DEMOCRACY, TELEVISION, HAIR SALONS, DENTISTRY, AND MASS PRODUCED MEAT, BUT THOSE THINGS ARE OKAY BECAUSE I LIKE THEM.

I think u need a shrink!!! @yelling person!!!

Oh, okay. I see what's going on here. 

Oops i really didn't read this all the way through. lol Satire mibad. 

Daddy touched you, didn't he...?

Feel sorry for that kid, they will probably make him gay as fuck just like they are. You shouldn't be allowed to have kids if you suck dick. You want kids? Be normal and have sex with a woman. You can't have a kid with another dude so that's your choice stop ruining babies lives by adopting them. 

TAKE YOUR SMALL MINDEDNESS AND PROBABLY SMALL DICKand get he fuck off this site if it's so gross to you.

Dude, were you raised under power lines? 

Women suck dick too. And, for what it's worth, the good ones take it up the butt too. 

As a gay man, I've had plenty of sex with women. It was fun, but I prefer men. 

So if I'm following your rules, I get to have a baby. Yippee!

So all the gay people out there have gay parents? I suck dick, and I am a female, so I shouldn't have children? Adopting children is ruining lives? When did you choose to start having heterosexual feelings, instead of homosexual ones, may I ask?
 

As a woman, I can say that I suck soooo much dick. Should I not have kids? I'll bet these guys are going to be great parents! Look how much they love that baby.

I live in San Francisco surrounded by gay dudes and they don't bother me ever. You learned your hate from your family.

Shouldn't be allowed to have a kid if you suck dick, huh?  Good for you your mom decided to ignore that rule.  Ignorant cur.

So many things to love here!   The emotions, the fact that they were captured by a caring photographer and the sentiments in the article.  Congratulations

Congratulations...what a beautiful, powerful moment.  New Dads...don't let the haters here into your circile of love....

I don't get it.  All these haters that are on a GAY website.  Does that not ring a little weird to you.  If you?  If you hate us gays why peruse a gay website?  Fucking closets.

It was on a social media link!! not because we are a bunch of closet gays.... not everyone is into the nastiness of pooper scooping another mans shit or getting skid marks on their penis!!

Straight men and women like anal too...?

First, I want to say congratulations to you both. This is an Amazing photo. Second I want to tell all the idiots who posted hateful comments to take a good hard look at that father's face. The love he feels is shining throughout his entire being. Every child should have that kind of love. This is not about them being a gay couple...who cares...this is about the love for that little boy. As a father myself , I remember the raw almost painful joy I felt holding my children for the first time, and I think this is beautiful.

Congratulations on the birth of your son. What a spectacular photo. Tears are literally streaming down my face. I am due to give birth to my second son (hopefully today!) I wish all three of you nothing but love and happiness. 

Gross, stop pretending you are normal, you are not.

THEN WHY ARE YOU TROLLING AND READING THIS IF YOU ARE SO GROSSED OUT BY IT YOU STUPID, IGNORANT PRICK!?

I will be the first to say that I am not normal. To see normal, walk through a Wal Mart. Normal is depressing. 

Homosexual behaviour occurs in nature. What's not normal is decided that who someone else loves is any of your business, and being hateful and spiteful. That doesn't happen in nature. What's wrong with you?

I don't think it's gross. Why are you spending so much time thinking about men's cocks if you think it's so gross?

If this is so gross to you, why are you looking and read it.  As for being normal, these men are more normal than you will ever be.

Ten minutes earlier...... http://i.imgur.com/S7MqELN.jpg

10/10 would look at again. congrats

YOU are seriously Deranged for that photo...

The derangement is in you, seriously.........jjust let people love each other

Love? this is a kind of madness....do pedophiles just love? No..we can agree that they are sick..so was that all all this nonseNSE. Until nature make a man to have a separate sex hole and give birth naturally  its not normal, good or ok. ITS MESSED UP.

Really? Some would say that the natural state of things is disorder.

Thank you for clarifying what is okay and what isn't. I will inform my female friends that they may not have anal sex. And they may certainly not have c-sections when they give birth. Because you don't think it's okay or natural to do that. Just so you know, in the 1800s the infant mortality rate was 30%. When it was an entirely "natural" process. 

Awww my heart is aching with joy for your beautiful family!!!! Just amazing, congratulations;-)

Congratulations on your precious baby boy! This was a beautiful and very touching story!♥♥ BesIdes all the ignorant comments people have nothing better to do
God Bless Your Family

congrats to the new and proud fathers! ... and to all of you that think this baby will turn gay because he has gay fathers...how do u explain a straight couple with a gay child??  smdh to u all! but its okay cause we can think all we want, im not mad, but if u dont like this, why did u click it? 

Congratulations you 2! Parenthood is incredible. Enjoy every second.

Don't pay any attention to the haters. Their parents were straight and they turned out hateful human beings. I take that as proof that being raised by heterosexual parents offers no guarantee whatsoever. 

Oh my god people! Religion doesnt matter here, by the ways dude...moobs?......really?.........id say my 7 year old son has a more adultway of thinking then you. All you people on here bashing on this beautiful moment need to grow up or shut the hell up. Let these two new wonderful daddies enjoy this precious moment. If any of you *haters* have kids.....god help them and god help our future society if they are like you.

Refreshing to see beauty in a chaotic world.

Don't pay any mind to the haters. You are beautiful, and I want to congratulate you both on your daughter's birth! Daughters are wonderful!

Son. Lol Sorry.

There is no such thing as homophobia.

Some people just don't like faggots.

Really sounds like you are a fag with a screen name of BALLSACK you stupid FUCK!

Your obsessed with gay men, the screen name say's it all. ;-)

Wrong, Mensa. That's what a phobia is. 

True!!! And they are called Bigoted Haters!!!

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