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How All Parents Should Respond If Their Child Comes Out As Gay

Connor is a lucky kid.

But the letter shared to provides a template for other parents' reactions to their kids coming out of closets, which will hopefully make Connor's situation less "lucky" and more "typical."

Writes Connor's mom in a letter that's quickly going viral:

Dear Connor,

I am writing you this letter so you have something tangible, something to hold onto if you should ever need it, to always remind you that we love you.

I am pretty proud that we have the kind of relationship in which you felt comfortable coming out to me at 13 years old. I am hoping that we have created an environment in our house in which you know you are loved, you are safe, and that we will support you and fight for you.

Dad and I love you very much. You are growing into such an amazing young man. You are pure potential. We can’t wait to see where it takes you!


(h/t: The OutMost)


Loved that letter and all the positive comments. I'm 70 and in 35 yr relationship with beautiful guy. Mother accepted my homosexuality at 14 after I was outed by doctor after trying to suicide when praying failed to change my orientation. Despite our extreme religion teaching gays were an abomination she said I wasn't evil and changed her beliefs. Unfortunately she died in my early 20s. Dad only accepted it in his 90s, died at 100+. My sister and her large family still shun me.

We hope to be allowed to marry one day. Many straight friends and neigbours want to attend. A great politician in our State read my letter to parliament, in tears, as she tried to get marriage equality passed. Maybe one day we can. We both fight online at every opportunity against homophobia and other forms of bigotry and ignorance. Especially for kids who suffer so much. 

Fantastic letter and loved all the positive comments above. I'm 70+ in loving relationship with same beautiful guy for 35 yrs. My wonderful mother accepted my early teen outing by doctors, a result of suicide attempt at 14 when I found prayer doesn't change orientation. Despite extreme religious upbringing she said I wasn't evil and changed her ideas about homosexuality. Unfortunately she died in my early 20s. Father accepted my sexuality a few years before he died at 100. My older sister and her huge family have always shunned me. 

I wrote to fantastic local State politician who read my letter to parliament, in tears, as she tried to get a marriage equality bill passed. We still hope one day to celebrate our marriage with four generations of (mostly straight) friends and neighbours who want to share that day with us. We both will continue at every opportunity to fight homophobia and for equality everywhere.

It is an extreme blessing to see such beautiful words come from the parents.  In a world like today it still amazes me the issues and hate the LBGT community faces.  As I came out I got the whole you are going to hell, I cannot be around you, you are not a part of the family talk.  I just am extremely proud of his courage, his parents love for him, and hopefully the ever changing world

When I was a teenager my best friend became my boyfriend.  My parents were use to having him sleep over so it took a little time for them to realize that he was now living with me.  So after a few weeks my father asked me when I planed to tell him that Robert had moved in with me,  I answered well dad I love him and I'm telling you now.  I got the best reaction I could wish for when he said '' I guess it's going to be like if I had two sons ''

Some kids are really lucky; some parents, incredibly kind. I came out to my folks when I was 13. What couldn't be changed by my father's strap, was left to a Christian counselor, arranged by fundamentalist mother. I worked a part time job to pay for the sessions until I ran away I would have given anything to have been given this letter. 

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, Terry.

What I wouldn't have given to have received even a semblance of this. Sure, I wasn't ostracized or shunned and was 'accepted', but never openly. I'd like to believe that if my mother lived beyond my 15th year that maybe, just maybe things would have been different. 

Beautiful :)

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