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Lesbian Pens Open Letter To Billionaire Father Who Wants To Buy Her A Husband

Updated Thursday 8:40 a.m. PST

In response to his daughter Gigi's open letter requesting that he accept that she's a lesbian, Hong Kong billionaire Cecil Chao has taken his $135 million offer off of the table. 

That means any male suitors with grand delusions of turning fair Gigi are going to have to have to find their meal ticket elsewhere!

From CNN:

"If Gigi's said that this is what she chooses, then it's all over," Cecil Chao said Thursday an interview with CNN's Monita Rajpal. He said the huge sum he had offered to potential suitors "stays in my pocket."

But the 77-year-old tycoon, who has three children but has never married, is unable to embrace his daughter's love life.

"I can't say I am happy with her choice," he said. "If this is her choice then it's for her."

And he said he wouldn't be welcoming Eav, 46, into his family, despite his daughter's plea.

"I have no intention of mixing my life with her life," Cecil Chao said. "But if this is what she wants, then I respect her choice."


In the interview Thursday, Cecil Chao repeatedly said that the big financial offer to any man who could win his daughter's hand in marriage was finished.

"I hope you or the other press are not going to talk about it anymore," he told Rajpal.

But he also suggested that he wasn't letting go of the idea entirely, saying that the offer was over "for the time being."

When asked what he meant by that, he said, "Until she changes her mind."

Oh, Cecil. We won't talk about it if you won't talk about it, but we don't think Gigi will be changing her mind.  

Perhaps down the line he'll have a true change of heart.


Original Post

Last week we reported that billionaire Cecil Chao was offering $135 million to the man who could turn Gigi, his lesbian daughter, straight and marry her. 

Gigi, who is married to a woman, has now penned an open letter to her father, which was published in the South China Morning Post.

Gigi writes:

Dear Daddy,

I thought the timing was right for us to have a candid conversation.

You are one of the most mentally astute, energetic yet well mannered and hard-working people this humble earth has ever known.

Your confidence, quick wit, and charisma brightens any room you enter.

I love you very much, and I think I can speak for my brothers also, that we have the utmost respect for you as a father and role model in business.

I am sorry that people have been saying insensitive things about you lately. The truth is, they don’t understand that I will always forgive you for thinking the way you do, because I know you think you are acting in my best interests. And we both don’t care if anybody else understands.

As your daughter, I would want nothing more than to make you happy. But in terms of relationships, your expectations of me and the reality of who I am, are not coherent.

I am responsible for some of this misplaced expectation, because I must have misled you to hope there were other options for me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-lived, relationships. I found myself temporarily happy, buoyed by the freshness, the attention, the interest, of someone physically stronger than myself.

But it was always short-lived, as I quickly lost patience, and felt an indescribable discomfort in their presence. It usually made me frustrated, and I would yearn for my freedom again. I’ve broken a few hearts, hearts of good, honest and loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to be so.

But with Sean, a woman, somehow it was different. I am comfortable and satisfied with my life and completely at ease with her. I know it’s difficult for you to understand how I could feel romantically attracted to a woman; I suppose I can’t really explain it either. It just happens, peacefully and gently, and after so many years, we still love each other very much.

My regret is that you have no idea how happy I am with my life, and there are aspects of my life that you don’t share. I suppose we don’t need each other’s approval for our romantic relationships, and I am sure your relationships are really fantastic too.

However, I do love my partner Sean, who does a good job of looking after me, ensuring I am fed, bathed and warm enough every day, and generally cheering me up to be a happy, jolly girl. She is a large part of my life, and I am a better person because of her.

Now, I’m not asking you to be best of friends; however, it would mean the world to me if you could just not be so terrified of her, and treat her like a normal, dignified human being.

I understand it is difficult for you to understand, let alone accept this truth.

I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who I am, what is important in my life, who I love and how best to live life, as an expression of all these questions. I am proud of my life, and I would not choose to live it any other way (except also figuring out how to be gentler on the planet).

I’m sorry to mislead you to think I was only in a lesbian relationship because there was a shortage of good, suitable men in Hong Kong.

There are plenty of good men, they are just not for me.

Wishing you happiness.

Patiently yours,

Your daughter, Gigi.

"Patient" is a good word to describe Gigi.

What do you think of her message to her father, Instincters? Think she'll get through to him?


(H/T: Queerty)




To Hamayan,

Thanks for your eloquent and "culturally competent" response to Gigi's letter to her father.

I feel her expression to her father shows a highest reverence of life and the human family.

Best wishes to my Sister Gigi,

Priscilla Carbone Carr

Quincy, Massachusetts,
United States of America (U.S.A.).


I find her seemingly lone voice in the struggle of personal acceptance refreshing. Increasingly in our contemporary environment, as Americans, we forget that a large part of the struggle for acceptance falls on the shoulders of those from varied cultural backgrounds. Ms. Chao's letter serves to remind me that the often "take me or leave me" mantra cannot apply to those of us with indelible family obligations and relationships. Indeed, her letter treats the deeply complicated issue of negotiating cultural background and individual identity.


Face it . . . not even 135 million to the 135 millionth power could remotely turn any lesbian or any gay man str8, or a white person into a black one.

The father has no clue about human sexuality.

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