More Guys Are Ditching Grindr To Join Book Clubs
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Are gay book clubs emerging as the new social space to meet a potential mate?
It would appear so, if you were to listen to one man.
Jason Chen grew tired of the Grindr routine, so he helped to create a space in which gay men could meet in real life.
In a piece for The Cut, he writes:
“We send endless emails trying to get together, spend much of our time gossiping, and have rosé-fueled debates about whether Elena Ferrante could possibly be a man, or where the narrator of The Idiot falls on the spectrum, or if A Little Life qualifies more as torture or interiors porn.”
Chen says the key difference between his club, and the standard issue reading group is...
“Some of our members will probably have sex with each other."
Erik, a 30-year-old member of the book club, explains the benefits of meeting men in such a setting:
“Let’s say you’re at a bar, you’re meeting people and just going by looks.
"But at book club, your intelligence and intellect are on display. It’s a different kind of mating dance.”
“I think because you’re talking about fictional characters, book clubs can reveal character traits about people that are otherwise hidden.”
Meanwhile, 25-year-old Garrett shares his thoughts on the group's appeal:
“It’s very late at night when we have these meetings, and you’re in a room with these high-powered 20- and 30-something-year-olds. We’re in these offices with their incredible views. It’s easy to get swept up.”
And if you're reading this, and think the whole thing sounds pretentious?
"If you’re not into the idea of overeducated people who have expendable income and time to grouse about made-up stories, I wouldn’t suggest my book club," says Chen.
"But dating’s elitist, as much as we use palatable euphemisms like “common interests” and “compatibility.” For certain gay men who want to commune with others like themselves — literary, critical-thinking, bitchily articulate — it’s an incredibly efficient screening service."
Head to The Cut for more...