"My Straight Friend (Accidentally?) Sent Me A Dick Pic"

Has a straight friend ever "accidentally" sent you a dick pic?? That's the circumstance this DL gent on Reddit who says he's "Asking for advice here to save a great friendship with my hetero bro who doesn't know I'm DL."

Here's what he has to say:

I met Joe over a year ago through a mutual Xbox friend. Since then we grew close over gaming sessions (it happens!) and eventually exchanged phone #s, Facebook, IG, Snap etc. We often talk about things outside of video games, like life issues and are supportive of each other. There has also been many times when we would watch Netflix together over Xbox Live and just basically built a bond.

Joe's a few years younger than me, has dated several girls in the past, currently dates a model and honestly, looks like a model himself. In our circle of friends, we make a lot of gay jokes (who doesn't on Xbox Live?) and we're all very comfortable with one another. There was a time where 4 of us were Skyping and when the others stepped away, Joe flashed his ass, dick and balls to me. We laughed, all harmless fun and games. However, after building a bond with Joe and being attracted to men, somewhere over time I fell for him.

During those Netflix sessions he'd always say he's going to visit Florida again and we could share a hotel bed together, sex stuff etc, basically, I just always take it as him joking. I've seen him and I've seen his girl, so it's hard to take him seriously when he says gay things.

Fast forward to yesterday, Christmas. We both had to work. At the beginning of my shift, I sent out a Merry Christmas selfie to all of my friends. Joe was one of the only ones to reply with a Merry Christmas selfie. Fast forward to that night. I'm off work. Playing some Xbox with my other bros and I get a Snapchat picture from Joe. I was excited, I always love seeing his sexy face and I exclaim to my friends "Joe snapped me! I bet it's a dick pic". We all laughed at my joke. So imagine how far my jaw drops when I open the Snap and it is a dick pic from Joe??

Between us gaybros, it was perfect. Neatly combed pubes and a nice uncut tan cock (He's white/black). Those were the longest 6 seconds of my life. Joe is a good friend of mine and since this incident I've been torn between "He meant to send it. He was drunk. Or. He knows I like him" and "It was a mistake, the pic was meant for girl. Don't screenshot it".

My response to him was a selfie with the sticker over my eyes. He opened it but didn't reply. This was at 4 AM.

My current dilemma is, speaking to him about this incident without ruining our friendship. Joe is someone that I am comfortable coming out to but I would hate to approach him the wrong way about this. As bad as I wanted to talk to someone else for advice, I didn't bring this up to any of our friends. We're all close and honestly there's no way these guys don't at the very least assume that I'm gay, so I'd hate to wrongly out someone else (if he sent it by mistake or obviously intended to keep it between us).

I silently lurk this community and its awesome how supportive you are of one another. I would love some advice from those more experienced in these situations.

P.S: I slept for about 4 hours last night and had trouble getting that much. I've been struggling with this and I've never been in a situation that I didn't know how to handle.

What do you think? Any advice? Do accidents like this happen? Or is his friend trying to make a move?

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This kind of incident has happened to me as well execpt my friend knows Im gay and knows how I feel about him, he has a wife and 2 daughters. My straight best friend of almost 5 years has just recently sent me 3 pics of his dic. He not only sent me the pics but also asked me to blow him and asked me if he could f*** me in my a**. Now this isnt the first time, the first time he asked me if I wanted to touch him, I denied him. A few months later he asked again and asked me to kiss him. Well now lets jump to the reason why I am writing this post. This time he text me that he wants me and how he wants this and that. This time it goes on for atleast 3 hours. He sent me the pics, asked me to send him a pic of mine and also an a** pic. I keep holding off and saying no because of certain reasons. Well he keeps asking me to come over, so after so long I just give in and go over. I go over and he tells me to go to the back door. I do and he answers wearing nothing but a tshirt. I get all sorts of feelings as I walk inside. He closes the door, grabs my hand, starts rubbing it all over his dic and he slowly reaches into my pants and starts playing with mine. I freak out and call him out and tell him I know hes not thinking straight. He tells me, well I guess you wasted a trip then. I go home, feeling unsure about what just happened. I was so confused that I couldnt sleep. So later on that same day I ask him if we could talk. So we meet and talk, I call him out and ask about why are you acting like this. He gets all confused and asks me what do you mean. So I proceed to tell him, show him the pics and also show him the descriptive texts that he sent me. He has no idea what happened so I ask him, tell me that Im right that I hope it was just because you were drunk and that none of this is true. He looks me in the eye and says I dont know,I love you as a bro and havent had any thought of you like this and I dont know why I would when Im drunk,and whats worse is I dont remember any of this and I dont remember you even comming over. Hes cool about the messages though because he sent them from his own phone and with the pics he said, well now you have a pic to help you out sometimes. I told him again as Ive told him before that if he is ever curious that he could come to me, well, I was meaning sober but anyway. So by the end of our conversation he tells me, lets just take this a day at a time, and work through this as buds and try and figure this all out because I dont really know if these feelings, thoughts and actions are something thats been hiding within me. So my best friend is a sober straight- drunk bicurious guy, who doesnt remember doing gay things. When he drinks, most of the time hes cool and funny but every once in a while when he gets really drunk he wants me but by morning he doesnt remember anything after a certain time. Hes not denying anything and we are as close as we have ever been and our friendship is still as strong as it has been. This is new to both of us because as I said in the begining, he knows that Im gay, that Ive never had sex, that Ive never been kissed and that Ive never been with a guy or a girl so this is a jurny that him and I will explore together as best buds.

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I don't think the conversation you need to have with him has much to do with the pic.  Sounds like you developed feelings for him long before the pic came along.  My advice...be honest with him about how you feel.  Easy for my to type I know...but life's about choices.  You can choose to have that conversation or bury it and be miserable ;-)  Good luck!       

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talk to him but

it sounds like you want this a lot, see if you can divest your self a bit.  Just keep that in mind, if you talk to him, it is all about Joe. 

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WOW! Hey guys! A guy from my Reddit post told me that I was posted on this site so I had to come check it out. Thanks so much for your advice! "Joe" and I spent last night playing Xbox and watching Netflix together. Turns out I was worried for nothing. Yesterday afternoon I spoke to him on the phone and he asked "Did you like your Christmas present?" I told him (as someone in my Reddit post advised me) that it was the best package I'd gotten lol. Thanks for all of your advice, I'm not overthinking the dick pic thing anymore. I'll continue to show interest and see where it goes from there. I'm planning on visiting his state soon (hopefully Feb or March) so we'll see what happens. If all else fails we can still play video games together lol. Thanks guys (I read all of your comments).

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I've had straight buddies send me dick pics as well... I always joke back that I'm bigger, send them fake huge cock pics from the Internet and have fun with it. You never know, , he might be wanting to have a little fun when he visits you in Florida. As Richard London tells you here, let him know you liked it, send one back of yourself, if you're inclined to do so, tell him how you are now REALLY looking forward to sharing that bed with him. Definitely don't let it go, as you will always wonder...

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Tell him you loved the picture and ask him about how the Florida trip plans are coming. BE YOURSELF. 

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Send one back and see what happens it he comes back with a joking manner then you know what's up and it he asks for more than you also know what's up either way it's a win-win if you ask me.  

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if you dont pursue it, youll always wonder what 'could have been'.  give yourself some peace of mind.  who knows, since hes flashed you before, it was likelt intentional.

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You've been friends for a while, and said that he's flashed you in the past, so this might just be his way of seeing if your interested in him and if there is a reason to visit you in Florida. I'd talk to him about it. Might just be easier than you think.

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I would just play it off as he sent it accidentally. If one of my straight friends had done that I would have assumed just as much and wouldn't have thought it was a big deal at all. If similar things happen in the future, then start thinking if he's actually doing it on purpose.

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