Neil Patrick Harris Talks Fatherhood
Neil Patrick Harris is making the promotional rounds for Smurfs 2 and he's giving us some insight into how life's changed now that he's a parent to (almost) three-year-old twins, Harper and Gideon!
Harris is in the midst of figuring out fatherhood. “For the better part of 20 years, I was a solo practitioner,” he says. “Then I got David, and that changed my dynamic. I had to be very conscious of another person, but we were still able to jump into a car and go to Vegas or spend three weeks in Italy. Although we were a unit, we were still very free.
“When you have kids, everything anchors to their wants and needs, so you get less sleep and have to be more aware all the time. You have to be adaptable because they constantly keep changing. They’ll do something that blows your mind and then they’ll spit all their food out on the carpet.
“The first year with them was complicated,” he admits. “They were twins, and they were crying a lot. Thank God for David. He is so good at differentiating cries.”
Harris pulls out his cellphone and shows off pictures Burtka just took of the twins playing in the sand.
“David is so drawn to parenthood, just in his core, that I suddenly felt I was a perimeter guy,” Harris says. “I was the man who put the cribs together and took the trash out. I tried to balance the equation.”
As time passed, Harris grew into his new role. “The older they get, the more I love being a dad. Now that they’re talking, I’m really loving the camp counselor end of parenting. I think that’s where my strengths lie.
“I’m all about reasoning. If they fall and are OK but crying, David will be the hugger, and I’ll be the ‘Show me where it hurts; let’s talk about it’ one. I come from a family of lawyers, so explanation is crucial.”
Harris seems in a particularly introspective phase. Is it because he recently turned 40? “No,” he says. “If I were still single and still struggling career-wise, I think 40 would have had a bigger impact. I’ve been too busy to process it.”
It sounds like NPH is getting the hang of it--with the help of his fiance David Burtka, of course!
We think you're wearing fatherhood well, Neil!
What do you think, Instincters? Is NPH one of your favorite daddies??