Nico Tortorella On Sexual Labels & That Time He Hooked Up w/ A Friend To Help Him Come Out
Younger star Nico Tortorella delves deep into the subject of sexuality (surprise: he didn't actually call himself "sexually fluid"), drug use (He's been sober for two years), and that time he hooked up with a friend to help him come out in an interview with Vulture. (We could all use a friend like Nico!)
For Tortorella, sexual acts or desires don’t necessarily line up with specific identities. Just because you have sex with a man, for example, it doesn’t make you gay. Tortorella realized he saw sexuality differently after his first sexual experience with another man in high school: One of his best friends was gay, but had a hard time accepting it. “This is going to sound fucked, but I knew that he was really struggling. And I was like, Look, if I hook up with him, maybe it will make things easier for him,” Tortorella remembers. “We hooked up. There was no assplay at all. It was just dick-to-mouth here. He was shaken up about it and I was like, ‘It’s fine. What happened last night doesn’t make you the person that you are. Why are you putting so much weight on it?’ And when that happened, I was like, Oh, I’m thinking about this differently than everyone else is thinking about it.”
So if Tortorella isn't fully endorsing the "sexually fluid" label, how does he identify himself sexually?
“The more I’m having these conversations, the more comfortable I am identifying as bisexual,” he says. “I’ve been so hesitant about using the word for so long, because it does have a negative connotation in our generation. People fought for so long for that ‘B’ in LGBT, and I refuse to be the person that’s going to throw that away because I think I have a more colorful word.”
Head over to Vulture for more, including how his past drug abuse led to a shake up with his former boss Ashton Kutcher.
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