A reddit user thinks something’s wrong with him because he’s got a crush on a male friend. User KittiesToTheMax posted on AskGayBros because he has feelings for his ‘foster brother’.
The two met after their parents dated. After that relationship failed, they kept in touch. His feelings changed from admiration to infatuation. The original poster said he realised after becoming jealous of the girls his ‘brother’ dated.
At the end of the post, the OP admits to feeling ‘perverted’ and ‘ashamed’. Plenty of users rushed to reassure him he had no reason to feel that way.
‘I know guys who I’ve been with where I’m the only one they care about and otherwise they didn’t do anything. My advice is just don’t label it, love who you love, don’t worry about the rest.’
A number of other users inverted the situation, and say they can imagine being straight for just one girl.
‘Yeah, this sounds really feasible. I can imagine myself having this relationship with a girl that I spent a lot of time around.
‘I don’t think this makes a person gay, I think this just reveals that we’re all a little flexible. You’re not necessarily even bi. It’s a spectrum. You’re just at 99 instead of 100.’
Other users knew of the same thing happening to themselves or others.
‘Well when I met my BF, I realized that I wanted him a lot. I had liked girls before and don’t recall ever being attracted by boys. We’ve been together for almost five years and I haven’t been attracted to anyone since, boys or girls. Sometimes I am iffy to identify myself as gay since I don’t feel attracted to guys except my bf,’ he continues.
Read the full post below:
‘I’m straight for the most part but I do have feeling for this one guy I know, he’s kind of like my foster brother in a way, or at least that’s how we met. My mom met his dad and we started to hang out, the relationship didn’t last long enough to mean anything but me and him stayed in contact even though our parents didn’t.
‘It didn’t become sexual until very recently, at first I just kinda looked up to him and wanted to be more like him. Then I wanted to be in his company because he made me feel cool and normal when I was around him. I started becoming quite jealous of the girls he showered affections on and at that point I realized what was going on.
‘I’m very much straight, I love girls, have sex with them often and there has never been any other guy that I’ve been into in any way. This guy is different for some reason.
I feel pretty perverted, ashamed of how I’m feeling.’ - gaystarnews.com
Has this happened to you?
Is there that special girl in your life that could be the it girl when there has only been guys before?
Do you think he is still Straight? Is he now Bi? Or is he a full blown Gay?