Sam Smith: "There's A Lot Of Bullying, Body Dysmorphia & Homophobia In The Gay Community"

A new interview with the Sun reveals the issues within the gay community that Grammy-slayer Sam Smith hopes to help change. 

“A bunch of boys from a rival school would shout insults at me as I walked from my home to the train station,” he told the Sun. “I remember walking to the station getting ‘f—-t’ shouted at me all the time. It was the most mortifying thing. Not so much for me. I knew these people were stupid, uneducated twats.”

“When I moved to London I got punched in the neck walking back from work. It was definitely homophobic,” he said. “I was on the phone speaking quite loudly and had pink headphones on, so it was pretty clear I was gay.”

Unfortunately, the bullying didn't end when Sam found the gay community.

“When I was 17 I decided to go gay clubbing in Soho in London. I remember walking in and this gay guy turned to his mate and said something really nasty about me,” Sam said. “My whole world just crashed and I had a really lonely feeling. I knew then it was going to take a lot longer to be accepted. There’s a lot of homophobia and bullying in the gay community. There’s also a lot of body dysmorphia in the gay community, which means if you’re not toned and skinny it can be awful.”

Do Sam's comments resonate with any of you? 

 

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sam is so fucking fat and dawg ugly that noody will truly pay attention to what he has to say. I didnt even read the article

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And you have just proven his point.

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Yeah, that's pretty much how it happens.

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I mean this is pretty basic psychology. Almost every gay guy was at the very least incredibly marginalized for being gay growing up and more often than not outright ostracized. Even a lot of guys in the closet had self-loathing issues to deal with. For most, these issues have gotten better but have not in any sense gone away completely in adulthood. So when we find other gay guys that we get along with, like all people, we look for that "other" to make fun of and make ourselves feel better.

The only thing I can say is that sometimes I feel like we address this as though it is a gay issue. And it's not. Straight people do the exact same thing though perhaps with slightly altered reasoning. But the basic principle of putting others down to bolster ourselves in our own minds is pretty universal across gender and biological sex. 

If anything, ridicule from other members of the gay community shows that even if sexual orientation were not an issue, other things will be made fun of: what we wear, if we exhibit stereotypically feminine qualities, how much money we make, what our interests are, etc.

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I know exactly what he's saying.  It hasn't changed.

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Yes, my first contact with the Gay community was in Fargo ND back in 1982. It was a clique and this really nasty guy was rude to me often. The other guys seemed to think he was just great. I felt alone in the midst of the community. I am gay so it's the community I feel closest to. However , I. Not active in the community. It's kind of clique in minneapolis too.

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Well said.

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