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Sexual Attraction in the Gay Community: Preference vs. Prejudice

 

The pink elephant in the gay community for many years has been the very blurred lines of what constitutes as preference vs. flat out racist behavior when it comes to a man's sexual attraction to another man.  It's been dissected to a certain degree, whether in a Facebook post or just general chit chat between friends, but its something that is still happening on the daily both in real life and on apps designed for dating and sex.

A recent thread on Reddit posed this question regarding a very different version of the chicken vs. the egg, except this time its about preference vs. prejudice.  Here is how the thread started:

 

Obviously what this man has had to go through is ridiculous and completely wrong, especially the Grindr profiles where a photo can get you blocked but a blank profile can become super popular just because you are white.  

Others chimed in with similar experiences, and what they have endured in the process of dating and hooking up.

Does this Reddit conversation boil down to "what are the boundary lines between preference and prejudice?"  Can you actually say things like "I prefer so and so," and mean that as a preference, or are there racist undertones to it that are easily caught whether how its written on your profile or when you discuss it openly at a bar with friends?  At what point does it truly mean a preference, and when does someone hop over that line on the prejudice train?  

How would you respond to this Reddit post?  What are your thoughts? 

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Please, define "gay community" and then think if you can  apply all sorts of generalisations to a whole type of people around the world with diverse ethnic background, different cultural background, different life experiences, different realities, different personalities, different interests and group them into a homogeneous box you call "gay community" where individuality doesn't exist and everybody acts like ants, all doing saying and think the exact same thing.

"Community" is an incorrect word to use which leads an idea that all gay men are like this and like that.

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I would respond I am open to all races and have dated men from many different races while I may prefer white guys physically I never reject anyone based on color because I can find something attractive in most people and judge people for who they are.  

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