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Sherri Shepherd To Gays: I Don't Agree With Your Lifestyle, But I Love You

When asked what she feels is the biggest public misconception about her, The View's Sherri Shepherd nominated her reputation as being anti-gay. Sherri then goes on the defense in the new interview with Fusion's Alicia Menendez, and claims that though she doesn't agree with the "gay lifestyle" (whatever that means), she loves us. 

She explains: 

I think people don't know my heart. I think people feel I'm very judgmental. I think people feel I'm very homophobic. If they knew me, and knew my heart. You grow up being a Christian and you grow up believing homosexuality is a sin; you're going to hell if you're a homosexual. This is something that they teach in churches. So it's something that I grew up believing.


I might not agree with your lifestyle, but I love you. You may not agree with my lifestyle, but you love me. I don't say it's a choice. If you tell me, 'Sherri, I was born gay.' OK. I'm not gonna argue with you, because I can't tell you how you feel and what's going on inside. I'm trying to make it into heaven by the skin of my teeth. I don't know who I'm gonna see. So if you tell me you're born [gay], I'm not gonna argue with you. And I absolutely respect you for that. I just ask that people respect how I feel, [I] respect how you feel and we can have a great dialog.

Given her new interview, do you think Sherri's reputation as anti-gay is a misconception?




i dont need her to believe a damned thing about me or my gay brethren...i simply dont need her......or anyone like her that thinks this is a choice.....we are born this way and are created in the image of God...her bible and my bible tell me that. Too bad she is influcned by religion and not spirituality.

I've never quite understood why people think it's important as to whether one's sexuality may be a choice.  Identity certainly is, because social categories are not inborn - orientation may or may not be - it's never been an issue to me.  If it is a choice, I validate the choice.  If only because I've always found the 'I was born this way' defense problematic, and some recent right-wing ideologues have confirmed what I've been predicting for the past twenty-five years; to wit, they say 'yes, you were born that way - defective - so we will fix you or lock you up to protect you'.  I for one don't HAVE a lifestyle (I still rankle at that compound word, which barely existed thirty years ago) - I have a life, unlike Johnny Weir or Nancy Grace.

She is allowed to have an opinion, and I think she was more than respectful in sharing it.  I am so sick of gay men and woman forming these lynch mobs toward people who don't have the same beliefs you do.  She has been respectful and we should be just as respectful back.

Jesse I completely agree with u. I am a gay man and certainly believe EVERYONE should be treated equal and have equal rights. But not everyone is going to have the same beliefs and we certainly will not change everyones mind about what they think they know. I also didnt agree with how the whole Rob Roberts/duck dynasty debacle was handled either. Why people seemed shocked that those were his beliefs is what surprised me. We dont have to always "understand" each other,but we should all be equals on a hanity level. The ONLY problem I have with her statement,and its the same every time I hear her saying "I may not agree with your LIFESTYLE...." it is not a life style. That is like me turning around and saying her being black is a lifestyle. Or her being straight is a lifestyle. Its absurd and THATS WHAT HURTS.

OMG, thank you sir! THANK YOU! My response came off a bit rash, but yours... PERFECT! I do agree that people are allowed to think what they want, but, it doesn't hurt any less... Being gay isn't what makes me, but it is a part of me, and I cannot nor will not deny it. We can't change, but yet, people have a hard time understanding that. While I am still proud of who I am, doesn't mean that if I were given a chance to be straight, that I wouldn't take it... Only because of the way society thinks, is the only reason why I would change mind you, because as most of us know, it isn't easy. Once again, thank you!

oh no no noooo. I would never in a million years want to be straight. Been there done that,no thanks. I am a firm believer in reincarnation and I am always telling people I hope I come back as a gaay man in my next life. I would never have as much fun straight. Lol. Even with the struggles and teasing thru school,even tho I slept with more girls than most my guy friends to this day as adults,I was teased all thru my school years. And id do it all again. Only this time ibwould hide who ibreally was.

I'll give you that!  Lifestyle is not the correct word for her to use and I do agree with you on that.  I was starting to think I was the only person left who didn't get all up in arms about what people do and say.  She has no impact on my life.  She is a woman paid to be on television.  WTF do I care or should anybody care what she thinks. 

Exactly. Unless u r saying something directed TOWARDS ME.....ur opinions are irrelevant to me. Next please. Lol

Well, perhaps us Gay Men and Women are tired of being put on the first trip to hell by all those whom oppose us and our way of living? I have no problems with those whom live to serve God and all but, you have absolutely NO idea what we have gone through to get to where we are, between the shunning, hate, ridicule, teasing, not feeling like we belong, being alone, afraid, and then religious views, we are TIRED of it! Of course if anyone else were hated against for their race, gender, or whatnot, they COULD AND WILL come after those whom said such things, but if we defend ourselves, "Oh! It's their right to believe and say what they want, it's their opinion!" I call BULL on that remark!

As a gay man who grew up in a town of under 5,000 and came out at 14, you can be DAMN sure I know what you have gone through and I know your struggle.  It is my struggle too.  Someday you just have to learn to let what people say and believe go and just respect their stupidity.  If I let every slur, taunt, tease, and schoolyard bully get to me, I'd have been dead a long time ago.  I think collectively as a society we need to be less quick to call discrimination and more quick to educate people without being outraged.  

How are these people with their beliefs and opinions any worse than any gay man who won't date a heavy guy, is a size queen, won't hang with people of lesser socioeconomic classes.  Gay men are so hateful and mean to each other, its no wonder so many people still have a negative connotation toward us.  

If you choose to be on the first trip to hell, that is your choice.  Life is what you make it and how you handle those who are not as culturally advanced.   I  think as a people we should rise above people and their words.  As long as you continue to give their words power, we will continue to hear stories like this one.

Well Said Jesse and its a truth that does divide the LGBT community as a whole if we are going to claim ourselves as an actual race to the human race then we need to behave accordingly as one that has some sense about ourselves....

And what I love is sherri has no issue when a gay man does her weave styles her to perfection for the show I can't wait to stand in heaven as she puts it and ask her what took her so long to get here !


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