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You'll Love This Advice Columnist's Response To A Mother Who Wants Her Teen Son To "Stop Being Gay"

Renowned syndicated advice columnist Amy Dickinson has penned the perfect response to a mother who just doesn't understand why her teen son refuses to stop being gay on her command. As punishment, the inquiring mother has withheld her son's birthday celebrations for three years straight. 

Amy lets her have it. 


Dear Amy:

I recently discovered that my son, who is 17, is a homosexual.

We are part of a church group and I fear that if people in that group find out they will make fun of me for having a gay child.

He won’t listen to reason, and he will not stop being gay. I feel as if he is doing this just to get back at me for forgetting his birthday for the past three years - I have a busy work schedule.

Please help him make the right choice in life by not being gay. He won’t listen to me, so maybe he will listen to you.

- Feeling Betrayed

Dear Betrayed:

You could teach your son an important lesson by changing your sexuality to show him how easy it is.

Try it for the next year or so: Stop being a heterosexual to demonstrate to your son that a person’s sexuality is a matter of choice – to be dictated by one’s parents, the parents’ church and social pressure.

I assume that my suggestion will evoke a reaction that your sexuality is at the core of who you are. The same is true for your son. He has a right to be accepted by his parents for being exactly who he is.

When you ‘forget’ a child’s birthday, you are basically negating him as a person. It is as if you are saying that you have forgotten his presence in the world. How very sad for him.

Pressuring your son to change his sexuality is wrong.

If you cannot learn to accept him as he is, it might be safest for him to live elsewhere.

A group that could help you and your family figure out how to navigate this is This organization is founded for parents, families, friends and allies of LGBT people, and has helped countless families through this challenge. Please research and connect with a local chapter.

- Amy

(Via Gay Star News)


First of all, why is it so important what parent wrote it? Really? Secondly, what straight father do you know that has ever written to a female advice columnist about his interpersonal family dealings? And one is trying to make the other look stupid. Absolutely infuriating that we are achieving rights and it comes down to crumbs sometimes. I for one am glad to see the question and response. So others may learn from it!

I get the feeling this letter isn't real but something designed to get attention. That said, still a great reply even if the letter may be a fake

awesome letter to the parent wow   Very true  

Same difference for a father to do it - or not do it - as a mother.

If you read the other facebook postings on this article earlier today from other sources, you will see that they stated it was a letter from a parent.  No where in the letter does it state the letter is from the mother.  Did more news come out that it was from a mother or did we jump to conclusions?

Being that the letter from the person started "my son" I would guess it was from his mother...

yeah, you got me there, because a father would have said ...?

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