Open relationships are great! Open relationships are not for everyone. Open relationships are giving up on love. Monogamous relationships are you conforming to heteronormative culture. Being monogamous is not what males do. Most species do not practice monogamy.
Yep, we've heard it all before. Which argument is right? We shared a video last week, Don't Ask A Person In An Open Relationship These Questions…, so it's only fair to share one from the opposing side. Enter Our Swirl Life, Jack and Ben and their YouTube response.
What do you think? Hopeless? Hopeless romantics? Denying their male urges?
It's all up to personal preferences, dontcha think?
h/t: Our Swirl Life,
We're Jack and Ben! We've been together since 2014 and moved in together the day after we met... In Summer 2016, we started to share our lives with you beautiful people. Every Wednesday you'll find a new video about us, our interracial gay relationship, a juicy topic, or something cool we've done.
Adults should do what they
Adults should do what they think is best for themselves and their relationships without comment or judgment from others. As long as all parties are in agreement and honest with themselves and their partners about what they want out of a relationship, things usually work better. From experience, I can say it's the worst situation if one partner is not being true to himself by agreeing to a type of relationship that is not consistent with what he wants, just to go along with a partner's wishes.
For me, at age 56, monogamous relationships work better. I've done most of it. I've been in a "monogamous" relationship where I've cheated. I've been in a "monogamous" relationship where the other person cheated. I've been in an open relationship with rules. I've been in an open relationship without rules. Now, I'm in a three-year monogamous relationship where I'm pretty damn sure we're both faithful. I have a wonderful sense of security and partnership that I didn't have in some of the other relationships. But BIG CAVEAT! At least for me, being monogamous became A LOT EASIER as I got older (beyond 50). There comes a time when the hormones pull back, and it's really not such a bad thing. Monogamy is understandably tough for most younger guys, especially considering the gay world out there that can be hyper-sexed at times.
One last point . . . Why is this article titled "Interracial Couple Discusses the Open Relationship"? The interracial aspect of this couple's relationship seems irrelevant to the conversation.
Good luck to all!