Ever wish you could retreat into the woods and be one with nature? Or maybe trade in the hustle and bustle of the busy city for the peace and quiet of being in the wild? Well, this week’s Instinct Hottie did just that–which is just one of the things that makes him so sexy. Lorenzo Buffa is your dream mountain man, a 35-year-old lumberjack living out his queer wilderness dreams in Pennsylvania. Known to those who follow him as Cabinfruit, Buffa creates content that captures his daily life as he chops, builds, and creates the ultimate haven for a hermit on the hill. He has amassed almost 1 million followers on TikTok with his entertaining DIY posts and reflections on cabin life.
Buffa isn’t just a scruffy dreamboat doing DIY in the outdoors, he’s also an advocate for mental health awareness as he himself is open and honest about doing the work on his own mental health.
It’s Buffa’s adorable face and ability to fill a hole that make him this week’s Instinct Hottie. His candidness with his emotions helps a little, too!
Let’s get to know Lorenzo Buffa (Cabinfruit) a little more:
INSTINCT: Why did you decide to move to the woods?
LORENZO BUFFA: I hit the lowest point in my life and I realized I needed a big change so I could experience big change. The long and short of it – I never processed a lot of things throughout my life, often putting energy into being a workaholic, which leads to both burn out but the potential for compounded grief and trauma. Just before the pandemic a life I loved and built up over many many years just crumbled. Then, the pandemic and solitude made everything more intense. I am here to save myself through hard work, internal and external. A mental health journey of sorts where only recently I decided 450+ days in… that I’m going to let go of pressure to triumph, heal, win… and instead sit with and be fine with being just fine.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CdOUvVWA26x/
INSTINCT: How did you learn to do so much manual labor?
LB: I’ve always been interested in building and making. Eventually I studied product design and got used to equipment to make prototypes, experiments, etc. Really tho, I just love learning and throwing myself into whatever I envision. There’s also a YouTube for basically everything ever, and I promise you I watched chainsaw safety videos over and over!
https://www.instagram.com/p/ChoJbFluSj7/
INSTINCT: What has been the biggest challenge since moving to the woods?
LB: Probably, honestly, not beating myself up for not being where I want to be yet emotionally and relationally with others. I’ve always known a lot of people, but kept few people close, so visitors have been very rare. It’s very lonely but also amazing. Hard but soft.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CeU3uitOto_/
INSTINCT: Do you ever get lonely? If so, what do you do?
LB: I do get lonely. All the time. Maybe that’s why posting videos online or documenting this has felt natural for me. Aside from always being a documentarian in my life in general, I think I feel a bit more connected to the world and others this way. I have some trust issues and self love I need to work through before I can really focus on connecting with others again.
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INSTINCT: What brings you joy?
LB: My animals! I have a dog and two cats and just recently a sick cat showed up and I’ve been taking care of him. He follows me around outside!
INSTINCT: What do you think is the most attractive part about yourself?
LB: I’d have to say charisma, but that’s also what gets me in trouble!
https://www.instagram.com/p/CfXyD2XgJUp/
INSTINCT: What do you find you are complimented on the most?
LB: I’d have to say my creativity and design. It’s a compulsion really.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CcY2tM7Aw86/
INSTINCT: What, to you, defines sexy?
LB: I really like dichotomies in a person. Butch and femme, strong but soft, proud but modest. I’ve always been attracted to Woody Harrelson – he’s both rugged & playful. Him having no hair and that gap in his teeth…
https://www.instagram.com/p/Chc0kBBumKY/
INSTINCT: What is your proudest moment in your life thus far?
LB: A number of years ago I had a whole life as a product designer. I designed watches and the day I got confirmation from MoMA Design Store they would introduce my very first solo product, a wooden watch. I’d have to say my professional and design dreams came true. I will always be proud of that because my work has always aimed to incorporate nature into the everyday and my aesthetic heavily relies on letting natural material shine.
https://www.instagram.com/p/Cf1jiGagWqg/
INSTINCT: What haven’t you accomplished, personally or professionally, that you are wanting to do in the next 2-3 years?
LB: Professionally I’d like to evolve Cabinfruit into something with more impact. Some things are in the works but I am moving slow. Personally, I’d like to get on track in terms of getting my self esteem and anxiety in check so I can try to get back on track when it comes to dating, future family goals, etc. I’ve always wanted to be a dad but if that were to ever happen for me I’d need an actual dating life! It’s rough out here!
https://www.instagram.com/p/ChX5lrpupT5/
INSTINCT: Have you found love? If so, what is the best part of your relationship and what do you love most in your partner(s)?
LB: I have found love in my life and I’ve found the loss that comes with it. I’ve never been a serial relationship type guy, but I do shine best when I have close relationships and exist in a way that is interdependent with others.
https://www.instagram.com/p/ChINxrNuN8r/
Rapid fire question time:
- What is your all-time favorite movie?
- Best in Show
- Who is your biggest celebrity crush?
- Post Malone
- Post Malone
- What is your favorite cheat meal or snack?
- Nutella
- Favorite position?
- Back left of dance floor with enough room to actually dance freely
- If you were stuck on an island for eternity, what music album would you want to have with you?
- Dolly Parton’s Greatest Hits
https://www.instagram.com/p/CgFNPdrOZb4/
INSTINCT: What does it mean to be featured as our Instinct Hottie?
LB: One step closer to the lumberJack of my dreams throwing me over his shoulder and running me deeper into the woods.
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INSTINCT: Anything else you’d like to share with the Instinct readers?
LB: I just want anyone reading this to know that they are valuable and important. If you are having a hard time I want you to know that intense emotional energy is something we channel. Subconsciously we so often use it poorly, but with some intention we can try to leverage it to improve ourselves or our situation. You owe it to yourself to at least try. Xo
Follow Lorenzo Buffa (Cabinfruit) on Instagram and TikTok for your daily dose of mountain man wood and ethereal wilderness energy.
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