Have you dabbled in the friends pool for sexual partners? How has that worked out or you? the friendship? I don't think this is the friends-with-benefits relationship people look for oh hook-up sites, but more so your closer friends, the ones you hang out with daily, on weekends, travel with. If you want to dabble in the friends' pool to find your next sex partner, one recent study has your back.
Can your friendship still go on after you’ve seen each other naked, or is it doomed forever?
That was the question posed to sex researcher Dr. Damon Jackson who conducted research on the behavior of gay male friends with surprising results. According to Jackson, your friendship has a fighting chance, but it’s up to you to make it work.
In his response, Dr. Jackson noted a study published in the Sex Patterns that asked 500 gay men, about their relationships with previous friends with benefits (FWB).
According to the responses, FWBs have about a 50/50 shot at surviving after the sex stops.
According to Dr. Jackson:
Specifically, just 18.5 percent said that they were no longer friends at all, 31.5 percent remained friends but were less close than they used to be, 35.4 percent remained friends and were just as close as they were before they started having sex, while 14.6 percent remained friends and were even closer than before.
Those who reported they were no longer friendly with their FWBs also reported higher levels of feeling deceived and higher levels of loneliness and psychological distress.
So how can you make it work after the deed is done? As Dr. Jackson suggests, it’s all about good communication. He wrote,
I found that FWBs who had better communication were more likely to maintain a relationship of some sort with their partner in the future.
So go ahead and go for it if you want — just make sure you and your friend are on the same page about what you both expect to get out of a physical relationship. – post.aazah.com
Of course this story was submitted by a guy named Dick Kannon so I am not sure of its validity.
Have you had sex with a very good friend? Still have him as a friend? Is he now your partner?
Or is the subject too taboo or you?
For the most part, it’s been
For the most part, it's been a great experience. As long as both are emotionally mature enough and its understood that, while you're being intimate, it is just sex. Some of my friends haven't handled it well and became distant afterward.
I am still best of friends
I am still best of friends with my FWB after 30 years. There's only been one. I an now in a 25 year relationship and recently married to another man. While I think me and my FWB would be OK with the sex, I don't think I could do it morally now that I am married.
I’ve had several FWB, never
I’ve had several FWB, never had a problem. I’ve even woke up to a few ‘straight’ friend’s who were curious. A few were a one time thing, others continued just great. Even as old as i am, i still have FWB. It’s very cool,going on seven years another five years. During College, i had two FWB. They turned out to be lovers in an open relationship. After a year of festivities, we discovered our triangle and truly took full advantage.
Friends, sure. Best friends,
Friends, sure. Best friends, no, not for me. When I was single, I couldn't imagine hooking up with my best friend. He was straight and very attractive, but there was no sexual connection with him. I can't explain it, but it would have been like hooking up with a brother. However I did hook up with a bunch of my gay friends up through my mid-30s. It was a lot of fun, but wasn't without some weirdness at times. But through all of it, we remained good friends.
I have a buddy of mine we
I have a buddy of mine we have been friends for awhile. I went to his house I Sucked him off it was amazing. Then time went past he did not talk to me awhile. Then one day about few months ago he was horny and I have never bottom before so I went over to his house we watched some porn jacked eachother off then he was ready to to fuck. So after we fucked we hung out a little more went home never herd from him since. Not sure what to think. Can you give some advice?
I think it’s OK when you’re
I think it's OK when you're younger and just horny all the time. You get each other off, with no impact on the friendship. When I was in college in my early twenties I probably did most of my friends at some point. We were literally a circle of fuck buddies. Can't recall how many texts I got 'RUDTF?' or just 3<=8? I even had some friends who I didn't find particularly attractive, but I'd let them fuck me because I didn't want to hurt their feelings.
Running into a friend on GRINDR is always a hoot!
I been having sex with almost
I been having sex with almost all my male friends and it hadn't ruin anything, but I just have sex with those who really wanted sex and nothing else. I learned how to separated very well the love, the friendship and the sex, you can make them work out very well if you're not are an emotional person and knows well how to act mature.
I recently revealed to my
I recently revealed to my best friend that I had feelings for him and he cut off all communication with me and it was the worst thing I did telling him. I say leave Pandora's Box or in this case your legs close
I agree. Why risk loosing a
I agree. Why risk loosing a good friend and try something you and/or he may regret for a few moments of pleasure. If there isn't mutual sexual attraction mentally AND physically, it's not worth risking the friendship. Good friends are hard to come by. Don't blow it.
I’m sure it’s all ok for the
I'm sure it's all ok for the friendship, but it will make things weird if future boyfriends find out about it. Not everyone is comfortable with their significant other chilling with someone they banged as recent as the night before you met.
I lost my virginity to my
I lost my virginity to my best friend and we regularly had sex for a couple of years after. We are now both in happy relationships and are just as close now as we have always been.
Some of the absolutely most
Some of the absolutely most fulfilling friendships I have had have been with my FWB's. The barriers have been dropped and there is nothing to hide. Communication is key, and having them there during different periods in my life have made things so much easier.
I’ve slept with almost all my
I've slept with almost all my male friends at some point or another. Maybe we drink too much, but it's how I met some of them.
I slept with a married friend
I slept with a married friend of mine who's wife gave him a sort of free pass! We hooked up sexually that once, and are much better and closer now than before!
Actually I’ve never slept
Actually I've never slept with a real friend. To me, the feeling of friendship doesn't involve a sexual healing! But, God, it can happen! We are humans! I believe what it comes next depends on different things such as how strong you are and how lonely you feel!
Done it and it worked fine
Done it and it worked fine for us, we didn't make it into a big deal and carried on being friends afterwards and have/had relationships since… I'm sure it's not for everybody and I wouldn't do it with any friend but for me & this friend, it worked…
Don’t do it. It never works
Don’t do it. It never works out. Why take the chance of losing a friendship just to have sex?
I am currently in this same
I am currently in this same situation. We became fast friends and the sex/feelings just happened. It was what either was looking for but it happened. Currently trying to figure out what to do but he's my best friend…