Why Don’t Gay Men Smile In Photos?

Why don't gay men smile in photos?

Why don’t gay men smile in photos? That’s the question Michael Henry poses in his latest light-hearted short film exploring the ins and outs of gay culture.


Hanging with friends Clint Keller and Ty Chen in the park, Henry queries the guys on the lack of smiles on social media.

Keller and Chen don’t hesitate answering with a list of reasons why not to smile:

“Well, gay men want to look f*ckable at all times.”
“And mysterious.”
“And tough.”
“And more masculine than they really are.”

Clint Keller and Ty Chen don't believe smiling in photos makes a gay man "fuckable"
L-R Clint Keller, Ty Chen do not believe in smiling for the camera (screen capture)

Henry comes back with the obvious: “So, smiling makes you look fem?”

“Well, it makes you look happy,” replies Keller before Chen adds, “And that’s not tough.”

So, wait a minute. Looking happy makes a guy look fem?

“All I’m saying is: obvious signs of happiness are a turn-off,” says Keller. “I don’t want to f*ck a happy person.”


Chen shares his penchant for guys who look like they’re “about to fight someone.”

Cue to long admiring “oooooooooooohs” from the group.

In fact, the guys promise Henry that he’ll “double the amount of d*ck” he gets if he stops smiling in online photos. So, Henry gives it a try, doing a reset shake-off before settling into a rather stoic expression. 

Michael Henry wonders why gay men don't smile in photos
Michael Henry sans smile (screen capture)

And just like that…along comes BJ (BJ Bingham) who spotted our hero’s dispassionate demeanor from across the park and felt drawn to Henry’s “tough” look. Success!

Some folks in the comment section of the YouTube page noted that lots of guys on dating apps don’t smile, and that may be because they think it’s more masculine-appearing.

Others said a lack of a smile can suggest a lack of a sense of humor.

One person boiled it down to tops wanting their bottoms to look “fun and happy,” while bottoms want their tops to look “gruff and moody.”


Funniest response: “My face has so much botox I haven’t smiled since I was 26.”

What do you think, readers? Do you avoid smiling in pics? If so, is it for a particular reason? Or are you good with a smile? Let us know in the comments section.

(top photos via Depositphotos, Unsplash)

2 thoughts on “Why Don’t Gay Men Smile In Photos?”

  1. Michael is the gay voice of a generation and hopefully he’s writing for a major movie or tv show soon. His videos are spot on!


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