Brooke Blurton, a contestant from The Bachelor, has recently come out as pansexual and Blake Colman from Bachelor in Paradise has some things to say. Blurton came out in a recent episode and since then, Colman revealed that he used to date the 23-year-old until she turned “full lesbian.” He said:
“Is now the right time to let you know that I was dating Brooke during the exact moment she decided to turn full lesbian? I literally have no hope with women. Just for the record, she is a dope chick and a really good human. But you guys have not felt pain and confusion until a girl leaves you for a girl.”
The problem with his remarks is his lack of an understanding for the meaning of pansexuality. Merriam-Webster defines "pansexual" as:
“Of, relating to, or characterized by sexual desire or attraction that is not limited to people of a particular gender identity or sexual orientation.”
After Colman received the backlash for his comments, he released another statement that said:
“The amount of reporters Dm’ing me about this is, only to focus on me saying she was a lesbian is alarming. At the point in time when me and her were dating, she decided to turn gay, at that point in time she obviously was figuring things out as any woman or man should at that age. Many years later she actually started dating another guy, so therefore there is no need for everyone to focus on ‘what sexuality she is’. In our society in the present day it’s a joke when everyone is trying to pinpoint someone’s sexuality like Brooke’s.”
Rather than stop there, he continued to speak for her and said:
“She is bi, everyone should get over it. I have soo (sic) many friends in the gay community it’s not even funny, hence why my comments are not a big deal.”
This statement opens up a whole other can of worms. His belief that she decided to “turn” gay rather than be born gay is problematic enough but in speaking for her and saying she is bisexual, he is disregarding her own statement of being a pansexual woman. Blurton herself came out as pansexual and needs no one to speak for her. Towards the end of his statement, Colman sounds as if he can do no wrong because he has “friends in the gay community,” but in the end it seems as if those very friends deserve their own apology.
Pansexuality is its own sexual orientation and deserves to be acknowledged. Celebrities who identify as pansexual include Janelle Monaé, Miley Cyrus, and Kesha.