A Father Is Refusing To Remove A Tattoo Of His Transgender Daughter’s Birth Name
Chances are if you’re a member of the LGBTQ community, you’ve empathized with one of our transgender brothers and sisters. Some of us are unable to understand the pain that comes with coming to terms with gender identity. While we can realize the struggle the transgender community faces, occasionally the loved ones of someone’s life may become ignored. While one essentially gains a new life, it becomes difficult to not remember the life of a transgender loved one before their transition. A new Reddit thread showcases just this situation.
According to PinkNews, an inked father is asking if he is in the wrong for not wanting to remove his transgender daughter’s birth name from his arm. The father tells that he has the names of all three of his children tattooed on him and his oldest son has recently transitioned into a transgender woman and is asking for him to remove her birth – or dead – name from his body. The man’s wife is in support of the removal. The man states his entire family supports his transgender daughter and he is making the appropriate changes to address her correctly. However, the father doesn’t want to remove the tattoo and feels his transdaughter is making a bigger deal out of this than it should be.
The Reddit thread has thousands of comments in support of both parties. Some are arguing that deadnames are detrimental to transgender people and he should remove the tattoo. On the flip side, others are claiming his transgender daughter is a hypocrite and is telling him what to do with his body.
In this situation, do you believe the father should remove the tattoo? Does removing the tattoo essentially erase the memories and love he shared with his son prior to transitioning? What would you tell him?
Writer’s Note: This is the opinion of one Instinct Magazine contributor and does not reflect the views of Instinct Magazine itself or fellow contributors.