The latest short film from funnyman Michael Henry explores the sexual preference of being a “side” and what that constitutes.
When McDonald and Henry joke about how worn his ‘bits’ must be, Fariss clarifies that he doesn’t bottom or top: “I’m a side.”
Fariss explains: “When it comes to sex, I do everything but butt. A side is a gay man who doesn’t like to do top or bottom. Some still do sometimes, but most sides like to do all the other sexual stuff.”
McDonald (rocking a sexy porn stache) chimes in: “Yeah, like kissing, oral, massage, mutual jerking…”
Henry: “That sounds disgusting…”
McDonald: “It’s not – it’s just like dry humping or heavy petting but it usually doesn’t end in penetration.”
The discussion shifts to needing – or not needing – penetration to make sex “sex,” and what would lead someone down this “side” street. This is includes a graphic demonstration of Henry’s white-knuckle reaction to taking a trip to Pound Town.
On the clip’s YouTube page, there were many comments praising Henry for taking on the subject. Just a sample:
• “Thanks for covering this topic. Dan Savage said 25% of gay men do not like anal sex. I am a side and there are men who appreciate my other skills. Yes, it is a deal breaker with some men but I have now a boyfriend who cannot wait to get home from work for some expert oral attention. And yes, oral sex IS sex!”
• “Finally! The concept of anal sex not being the end-all be-all for gay men needs to be more widely embraced.”
• “I feel seen. I identify as a side. Thanks Michael for not making it seem weird or making mockery of it.”
• “Thank you SO MUCH for making a video about this. I came across the term side at a sexual health clinic because I genuinely thought there was something wrong with me for not enjoying anal sex. That’s how unknown this term had been for me at one point. After finding that out, I put a basic definition of what a side is on my Grindr profile and it ended up helping a lot of guys learn about the term, or even discover that they’re one themselves.”
To be honest, the term “side” was a new one for this writer. Readers – is this a common term in your local community?
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