It happened: you fell in love with the Flatiron sex position. It makes sense, really. The Flatiron anal sex position has a lot of awesome benefits.
For the bottom, the Flatiron gay sex position sends your partner’s shaft directly into that spot that drives you wild. While you’re lying down, having a great time, your top’s body weight presses you into the mattress, fulfilling all of those primal desires. Plus, for those of you who tend to find partners with hung sausages, closing (or opening) your legs helps you control how deeply your top can slide inside.
For the top, the Flatiron gives you all of those feelings of control. Slipping inside from behind gives you some of the hottest visuals, while the position naturally encourages you to become fluent in dirty talk. For tops who want to go the distance, if your bottom can support it, the Flatiron allows you to, quite literally, lie on top of them with your full weight, taking your own quaking muscles out of the equation. No holding a plank here!
Not quite sure what we’re talking about? Let’s do a quick overview, just so we’re all on the same page.
What is the Flatiron Sex Position?
It’s easiest to think of the Flatiron gay sex position as the Spooning position – except you’re lying on top of one another.
- The bottom lies on their stomach. If they have the flexibility to do so, they can gently raise their hips towards the ceiling.
- The top climbs on top, face-down, lying on top of the bottom, sliding inside.
- The top can hold up some of their body weight with their own body, or they can fully lie on top of the bottom.
Of course, those are only the basic instructions for this alluring sex position! Now, we’re going to heat it up even more with a round-up of some of our favorite variations on the Flatiron gay sex position.
First, one of our favorites:
Pillow Grinding Flatiron Sex Position
If your bottom is one of those lucky fellas who can get off by grinding, this Flatiron gay sex position variation is probably for you. Simply add a pillow or grinding sex toy underneath both of you, perfectly positioning your bottom to rest on top of it. While you can stay prone like in the traditional Flatiron, some couples may find that they prefer this elevated chest position instead. In traditional Flatiron, all of the weight on top of the bottom may make it difficult to get forward and backward movement, but this chest-up variation helps solve that.
A Quick Tip: Experiment with the grinding surface if at first you don’t succeed. Some pillows may be too firm or too soft, and having a partner’s hips pressing the bottom into the pillow may change how even their “favorite” grinding surface feels.
Off-the-Table Flatiron Sex Position Variation
Now that you’ve learned what the Flatiron sex position is, this can be a really simple, yet fun, twist on the position. To do it, simply find a very sturdy table that can support your combined body weight and a lot of movement! Once there, take your Flatiron gay sex position onto the table, letting the bottom’s head hang off the table. This inverted position can make the blood rush into the head, upping the intensity of everything that’s happening on the table.
A Quick Tip: We mean it: make sure that table is sturdy! You’re going to have a great time, and with the bottom’s head hanging off the side, we want to ensure that the surface doesn’t collapse on you. Think about furniture that’s heavy enough that it requires 3 or 4 people to move it around your home. As always, safety first!
Elevated Hips Flatiron Sex Position Variation
If you’re aiming for simultaneous orgasms or just trying to overwhelm the bottom with a night they won’t forget, consider this hips-up variation. In it, the bottom gets into their standard Flatiron sex position but elevates the hips instead, picking their hips into the air while leaving their knees and chest on the ground. This provides space underneath both of your bodies, making it possible for the top (or bottom) to hold a penis stroker or penis vibrator on the receiver’s shaft. This change in angles can also offer deeper penetration, making for a cocktail of pleasure you’ll want to visit again next week. 😉
A Quick Tip: Choose your sex toy carefully here. Large, bulky toys may be difficult to fit into the space underneath your bottom. Smaller, hand-sized options are going to be easiest.
Plank on Top Flatiron Gay Sex Position Variation
Fucking that doubles as a workout? If that gets your top’s blood flowing, welcome to the perfect way to show off: the Plank on Top position. Instead of simply resting their weight on top of the bottom, this position has the Top maintaining a plank while sliding inside. Yes, it’s exactly as exhausting as it sounds.
The bottom can lie flat on the ground, or they can come onto their forearms, depending on the angles you both want. If the bottom ends up on their forearms, the top can place one (or both) of their hands on the bottom’s shoulders, making the bottom join the workout as they hold up some of the top’s body weight. Oh, this one can be fun. 😉
A Quick Tip: As the name would imply, “Plank on Top” isn’t exactly a walk in the park. This won’t be a marathon sex position for many, so slip this into other Flatiron gay sex position variations to make sure everybody can relax enough to cum in the end.
Flatiron Gay Sex Position – But With Bondage!
Add some bondage to the Flatiron with this variation. Binding the bottom’s wrists and ankles can make this feel very submissive as the top “has their way with them”. This position also lends itself well to massages, food play, or impact play on the bottom’s back as they’re “forced” to enjoy it with the feel of the cuffs around their wrists.
A Quick Tip: You can change up how “bound” this feels by simply adjusting how tight the cuffs pull on the bottom. If you really want your bottom to feel “stuck”, ensure all of the cuffs are just tight enough to place light tension on your bottom’s skin. If you want to make sure they’re comfortable, give them lots of slack, allowing your bottom to reposition as limbs desire.
Sphinx Sex Position
This Flatiron gay sex position variation changes up the bottom’s position. Instead of lying flat, the bottom comes onto their forearms and bends their knees, spreading them wide. This allows for much more penetration, sliding the top’s shaft as deep as possible. Simple, effective, and to the point.
A Quick Tip: This sex position really lets the bottom show off their flexibility. With the top’s body weight pressed into them, be careful with the back and inner thighs as both areas will likely be stretched out to the max to maintain this position. For even better results, have the bottom stretch out ahead of time. Consider it your own private yoga porno. 😉
Magic Mountain Sex Position
We love this Flatiron sex position variation for its accessibility. The top doesn’t need to support most of their body weight, and the bottom doesn’t need to have all of the top’s body weight resting on top of them. Instead, in Magic Mountain, you both utilize a nearby ottoman to support some of your weight. Your knees take the majority of your combined body weight while you still get to enjoy full skin-on-skin pleasure like in the Flatiron.
A Quick Tip: Never had a reason to own a fancy-ass ottoman? This position can also be done up on the edge of a couch or low-height bed. For bonus stimulation, make your straddled furniture something soft that the bottom can grind into if you’re trying to shoot at the same time.
Grand Slam Sex Position
If, for any reason, the top doesn’t or can’t lean forward or lie down, the Grand Slam is a great variation. While it doesn’t “quite” fit our definition of “what is the Flatiron sex position”, it comes pretty close, only changing up the top’s position. In it, the top kneels, straddling the bottom’s bum, while staying in an upright position. Not only does this change up the penetration angle, but it also keeps the top’s spine in a more neutral position and takes upper body strength out of the equation, making this easier for some bodies to hold. Marathon session anyone? 😉
A Quick Tip: The Grand Slam can be done pretty much anywhere. A soft bed is a reader favorite as the soft surface allows the top’s weight to really “press” the bottom into the bed, offering that perfect headspace for feeling “taken”.
Anal Bumper Cars Position
Ready to get a bit adventurous? The Anal Bumper Cars is definitely the most unique take we’ve ever seen on the Flatiron, but we’re here for it. Instead of lying directly on top of the bottom, the top should lie butt-to-butt with their partner, with both of you lying face down. This one isn’t going to win any awards for p-spot pleasure or intimacy, but if you want to take a video on your phone, it definitely hits the “You won’t believe how I fucked last night!” award.
A Quick Tip: This variation on the Flatiron sex position requires a lot of flexibility from the top’s penis. If the top’s shaft isn’t able to press backwards, between their thighs, without discomfort, this position isn’t for you; you risk injuring your top. If you still want to pull off this position, get creative with some sex toys or strap-on options… or get super kinky and just share a double-ended dildo if you’re both versed like that. 😉
Other Tips for the Flatiron Gay Sex Positions
- Talk about the top’s pressure ahead of time. Some bottoms will fall in love with how the top’s body weight will “force” them into the surface like a sexy weighted blanket while it will be panic attack-inducing for others. However, this has to be balanced with the top’s ability to hold their own weight as well, as the Flatiron sex position can be exhausting when it, essentially, is turned into a plank. Have an honest conversation if those needs are misaligning, pivoting to another position if need be.
- Ensure your conversation involves the location. Feeling an erection pressed into a concrete floor with two people’s body weight is pretty unpleasant. Softer surfaces are going to be more forgiving for the Flatiron sex position. Still, that “gotta have it now” energy can more than make up for it, so if concrete is your only choice, see that the top holds more of their own body weight.
- Control depth with the bottom’s legs. Experiment with the bottom’s legs to get the perfect penetration depth. If you’re bottoming out, have the bottom close their legs tighter. The friction of those cheeks will still feel fantastic to the top while reducing how many inches make it inside. If you’d like more depth, the bottom can spread their legs, allowing the top to kneel between the legs instead.
- Experiment to find “the spot“. The top’s shaft and the bottom’s prostate location can find true love in this sex position, but it might take a bit of experimentation depending on your anatomy. The top can slide further up (or down) the bottom’s body to change exactly where the penis hits inside. For those blessed with those curved shafts, the top can twist on top of the bottom, aligning their chest to the left (or right) of the bottom to help that shaft go where you both want it.Â
If you like positions that offer strong rear-entry angles, you might also enjoy our doggystyle guide, which covers prostate access, comfort tips, and deeper thrusting variations.