Before I Do hasn’t even dropped a trailer yet, and somehow it’s already radiating the kind of queer sexual tension that makes you sit up straighter and re-evaluate your own “best friendships.” Variety just exclusively revealed the cast of the upcoming LGBTQ rom-com Before I Do, and if you love hot people, unresolved feelings, and a wedding that absolutely should not be happening—congrats, this one’s for you.
At its core, Before I Do understands a universal gay truth: nothing is more dangerous than a group of attractive men with history, alcohol, and one very poorly timed bachelor party.
What Is Before I Do About? (Emotionally Unsafe, Thanks for Asking)
The premise of Before I Do is simple but lethal. A groom gathers his closest college friends for a lakeside bachelor party getaway. It’s meant to be chill. Nostalgic. Maybe a little (or a lot) shirtless.
Instead, old feelings between the groom and his best man resurface—because of course they do. Suddenly, Before I Do turns into a slow-burn spiral of lingering glances, unfinished sentences, and the kind of tension that makes everyone else in the house deeply uncomfortable.
There’s also the groom’s ambiguously straight best friend, which—let’s be real—is never just a detail. Before I Do thrives in that gray area where attraction, jealousy, and denial all crash into each other right before someone is supposed to say “I do.”
Meet the Cast of Before I Do (Hotness, Ranked Emotionally)
Cole Doman
If you’ve spent any time in indie queer cinema, you already know Cole Doman. He made an indelible impression in Henry Gamble’s Birthday Party, a film that practically invented the art of quiet gay longing, and later appeared in Uncle Frank, the Sundance-favored family drama starring Paul Bettany. Doman has built a career playing characters whose inner turmoil is always simmering just beneath the surface.
In Before I Do, that skill set is lethal. He feels perfectly cast as someone who’s been sitting on feelings for years, fully aware that the window has closed—and still unable to stop looking back.
Michael Hsu Rosen
Michael Hsu Rosen has a résumé that screams “emotionally devastating but make it charming.” Most viewers will recognize him from Netflix’s Tiny Pretty Things and Glamorous where his portrayal of Nabil balanced sensitivity, restraint, and vulnerability. He also appeared in Pretty Smart and The Sex Lives of College Girls, quietly establishing himself as someone who can handle humor without losing emotional weight.
That warmth is exactly what makes him dangerous here. In a story like Before I Do, Rosen plays the kind of guy everyone feels safe around—until they realize they’re in too deep.
happy 4th to those who celebrate, and to those who feel more like Michael Hsu Rosen in Glamorous, we see you too 😉
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— Golden (@netflixgolden) July 4, 2023
Nico Greetham
Let’s be honest: Nico Greetham showing up in this cast feels intentional. Between Love, Victor, American Horror Story: Double Feature, and his turn as the Yellow Ranger on Power Rangers Ninja Steel, Greetham has mastered the art of being charming, physical, and slightly disruptive. He carries himself like someone who knows exactly what effect he has on a room.
Whether he’s stirring the pot or just standing too close for too long, Greetham brings a flirtatious unpredictability that guarantees tension. The man does not read as neutral, and Before I Do knows it.
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Robin de Jesús
Every ensemble needs a scene-stealer, and Before I Do wisely cast Robin de Jesús. A Tony nominee for In the Heights and The Boys in the Band, and a standout in Netflix’s tick, tick… BOOM!, de Jesús brings sharp humor and emotional authority in equal measure.
Jared Reinfeldt
Jared Reinfeldt rounds out the cast with quiet confidence. You may recognize him from Feud: Capote vs. The Swans, the Gossip Girl reboot, or The Flight Attendant. His work often leans understated, which makes him a perfect slow-burn presence in a story full of louder emotions.
Why Before I Do Feels So Gay It Hurts
What makes this especially delicious is how accurately it captures queer emotional chaos. These aren’t strangers—they’re people who know each other’s bodies, habits, and emotional weak spots. The tension isn’t loud; it’s simmering.
The movie understands that desire doesn’t disappear just because someone picked a wedding date. It lingers. It looks. It waits for a moment when everyone’s a little drunk and standing too close by the dock.
And yes, it’s funny—but it’s also horny in that quiet, devastating way that queer stories do best.
Before I Do Is About to Be a Problem…In a Good Way
Between its stacked, very attractive cast, emotionally reckless premise, and unapologetically queer lens, Before I Doalready feels like a show that’s going to ruin friendships, weddings, and group chats.
If you love slow burns, bad decisions, lakeside longing, and men who absolutely should talk but won’t—Before I Do is coming for you.
And honestly?
We’re not resisting.