31-year-old Kelvin Hunter is going viral for being his general and authentic self.
Last month, Hunter wrote a post on Instagram about being a bisexual, Black man. He first wrote a list of misconceptions that he doesn’t align with and then a list of virtues that define him and his morals. Hunter wrote the post in the hopes of dispelling misconceptions and downright lies spread about bi men.
“I’m really just a guy, who just happens to be bi,” he wrote. “This post is more so a reflection of my journey thus far which the fluid sexuality and lovers played a part in. For years I struggled with finding myself apart from labels, whether good or bad, from straight and queer people.”
Hunter then shares that he wants to live life by his own standards and rules. He doesn’t want himself, or anybody for the matter, to be subjected to ridicule or judgment for simply embracing all factors of life and sexuality.
“Many bisexuals present one way to society due to their current partner, appearing straight or queer. However, attraction is not limited to the gender of their partner. Honestly, people don’t know what you do behind closed doors.”
Hunter then took the time to recognize the men and women who have left a chapter in his romantic book of life.
“Thank you to all the amazing women and dope dudes whose journeys helped me on my journey of love and discovery and to those that will soon come through. To future bae, my ride or die for life, whoever you are, I can’t wait to meet you!!! I’ve been preparing for you and our life together this entire time.”
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❤💜💙 I'm: *Not greedy *Not confused *Not promiscuous *Not sexually attracted to every woman or. man that walks by *Not lost *Not raised by "bad parents" *Not without religion/spirituality *Not on the Down Low *Not trying to have a threesome with you and your significant other *Not lusting for other gender when I exclusively date I am: *Giving *True to Myself *Spiritual *Hardworking *Loyal *Passionate *Open *Sunshine and happiness on your cloudy day *An Inifinite being having a human experience I'm really just a guy, who just happens to be bi. This post is more so a reflection of my journey thus far which the fluid sexuality and lovers played a part in. For years I struggled with finding myself apart from labels, whether good or bad, from straight and queer people. I wanted to define myself, not someone else. With relationships and sexual expression, it's more about finding yourself in the process, which is what life is about anyway. We are infinite beings having a human experience. Going back to sexuality, we all have an energy and vibe that we emitt, which attracts people toward us. I see sexuality as a spectrum and not in absolutes, which allows for the gray area of attraction or fluidity. Many bisexuals present one way to society due to their current partner, appearing straight or queer. However attraction is not limited to the gender of their partner. Honestly, people don't know what you do behind closed doors. We stress ourselves out to conform to what society wants us to be. And for what!?!? At the end of the day, when we are preparing to transition to the afterlife on our death beds, status, job, money, society's label for us, past sexual partners, gender roles, etc dont matter. What matters is being connected with those who truly enjoy your presence on this plane of existence. What matters is love. Thank you to all the amazing women and dope dudes whose journeys helped me on my journey of love and discovery and to those that will soon come through. To future bae, my ride or die for life, whoever you are, I can't wait to meet you!!! I've been preparing for you and our life together this entire time 😘❤💜💙 #bisexual #bisexuality #lgbt
After his post got some attention online, BET connected with Hunter to further discuss the current existence of bisexual, Black men. In this conversation, Hunter noted how the Black community’s obsession with masculinity has made for uncomfortable situations in his dating life.
“Especially dealing with women, if you’re going to be a very bouncy, giddy guy, if they’re looking for a mate, in the black culture or just women in general, they’re taught to go after a ‘strong’ male that’s going to be a provider and such,” Hunter explained.
“And if you don’t exhibit those traits in your personality, then they’re not necessarily going to find you attractive. You’ll be friend-zoned.”
That said, Hunter notes how there’s a shift in the Black community, especially when it comes to younger people. But no matter what, Hunter assured bisexual, Black men that being open about sexuality, on top of all other factors of life, opens up a happier and healthier state in life.
“There’s going to be a lot of people who are going to be opposed to that. And the most important thing for you, is to be sure of yourself. So if this is how you feel and this is your truth, then I support you.”