When you are a writer, journalist, blogger, or whatever you call yourself, sometimes you have a hard time distinguishing your in real life experiences compared to the ones that are only on the internet.
We have a way of being able to write about topics without ever having to deal with who we are discussing in real life, and when we do, your mindset can change completely and make you rethink about the words you typed in the first place.
I was lucky enough to attend the RuPaul's Drag Race crowning on Thursday night in New York City, where I got to once again talk to the three finalists: Asia O'Hara, Kameron Michaels and Eureka, as well as the season 10 winner Aquaria. I originally spoke with them a couple of months back before the show premiered in March.
Asia and Kameron were two queens who I never really wrote anything bad or too negative about when it came to my reviews of the show each week on Instinct. However, I will fully admit that what I wrote about Eureka and Aquaria was particularly rough, but my focus here is strictly on the "elephant queen" herself in terms of one particular piece that was published back in May.
The article focused on if she was being force-fed for us to like, which I noticed many people took that comment as a way of fat-shaming, which is 110 percent not true. I look back on what I wrote and realized what a horrible mistake it was to judge someone that harshly when they are out there living their authentic life and putting themselves out there on such a major platform like RPDR while I was simply sitting in my room and judging on a level that wasn't necessary.
I came to this conclusion for a couple of reasons. When I saw Eureka again on Thursday night, she couldn't have been more kind, sweet, and an overall blast to be around. Her passion for drag and her fans is quite evident from the moment she opens her mouth, and she has a tenacity about herself that most people in our community wish they had. It was here where I realized that what I said a month ago was really wrong, and for that, Eureka, I do apologize.
I also spoke with Asia right before the finale aired, and saw the downfall of her lip sync performance along with millions of other people. Since Thursday, my social media has nothing but butterfly memes that poke fun at Asia (whether people want to see it that way or not), and it actually made me physically ill.
Perhaps I'm being a bit dramatic in my approach here, but it took both situations for me to realize that what I wrote wasn't cool. Even though Pride Month is over, being kind to one another isn't.
This was created by one of our Contributing Writers and does not reflect the opinion of Instinct Magazine or the other Contributing Writers when it comes to this subject.