Does The Gay Community Normalize ChemSex?
Do You PNP?
#INSTINCTAFTERDARK! In yet another article in my long line of topics not appropriate for work – or the day time – I want to touch base on this not-so-hidden world of ChemSex. ChemSex, or more commonly referred to as PNP (Party aNd Play) is honestly a topic this gay Millennial finds so common with the hook up culture.
One time, I inadvertently wound up at a gay sex party. Basically, after months of convincing, I met this guy off a dating app and we went over to his place. He was up front his roommates would be there, but wasn’t so honest about what his roommates would be doing. Yeah, his roommates were having a full-on, about fifteen person orgy in their living room. There were a lot of towels, and a handful of guys around my age at the time- early 20s. At first, I participated in this so called party. It began with some drinking and smoking marijuana in underwear in one of the best homes I’ve ever been in. Why would I say no? Well, before I knew it, many of the guys were taking shots of GHB. I politely declined with judging eyes; there was a time and a place to try that, for me it was called college. Soon after, a new pipe and smell clogged my nose: The wicked scent of lust – or PNP. Uncomfortable, I put on my clothes and stepped on a balcony to chain smoke and text a friend. I went back inside hoping my online hookup would be a knight in shining armor, not partaking. His lips told a separate story from his actions. I left with some blue balls and one hell of a story.
After years to think and plenty more experience in gay culture, I’ve came across a variety of men who PNP regularly. I’ve even had an attempt to be convinced it’s healthier for you than alcohol. On dating profiles, it’s publicly advertised…and partially accepted.
Are we normalizing ChemSex culture? Is there something that may be done to prevent this from becoming the new normal?
This post is the opinion of this contributing writer to Instinct Magazine. Opinion pieces do not always reflect the stance of the magazine or the other contributing writers.
This article was originally inspired by VICE.
I’m a hung top in San
I'm a hung top in San Francisco. For the last 10 years PnP has pretty much been on the down low in SF. Hot guys I have sex with, will say they don't do it, but I can tell they did a booty bump when I eat them to start. Ten years before they openly admitted they partied, but with the increasing evidence of the negative affects, they have mostly gone down low about it. I have seen many lives fall apart from meth, it's a horrible trap to get into.
The description of your
The description of your sordid affairs with men doing drugs seems most inappropriate. The question is, why do you keep doing it with these poor souls, knowing that they are addicted to this harmful substance?
I’m a hung top in San
I'm a hung top in San Francisco. For the last 10 years PnP has pretty much been on the down low in SF. Hot guys I have sex with, will say they don't do it, but I can tell they did a booty bump when I eat them to start. Ten years before they openly admitted they partied, but with the increasing evidence of the negative affects, they have mostly gone down low about it. I have seen many lives fall apart from meth, it's a horrible trap to get into.
These types of drug sex
These drug fueled sex parties are exceedingly hazardous and should not tolerated by the law enforcement or normal gay folks. Druggies who engage in such reckless depraved behaviors need to accept mandatory treatments or risk being sent to jail. The addicts need to be shown the cold hard reality of nasty, some even fatal, diseases, nervous breakdowns, and getting old poor when their money is wasted on drugs.
Chemsex (Meth, Tina, Crystal,
Chemsex (Meth, Tina, Crystal, Clear etc) is not a new phenomenon, PNP has been popular as long as I have been out (1982), and I'm certain it was equally as popular before then as well. Making it, if anything, an old norm as opposed to a new norm.
It is disheartening that you
It is disheartening that you have such a liberal view of a serious and alarming drug problem in our society. Drugs are destroying a lot of people's lives and you don't seem to mind a bit.
I simply point out that PNP
I simply point out that PNP/Chemsex has been around for quite a long time. The author's assertion that it's becoming a new norm is ludicrous and I feel this topic was deserving of more. Crystal Meth is an issue that has plagued the gay community for decades and it has tragically contributed to the untimely deaths of many – friends and loved ones included.
I am at a loss to know how you derive my comment to be an uncaring 'liberal viewpoint' but I apologize nonetheless. I care more than most about this issue and the people entangled in it's nasty web. What these people need most is love, understanding, and maybe a shoulder to cry on… and certainly not forced incarceration.
There is a problem with
There is a problem with insisting on referring to homosexual people as "gay community" because you are presenting a diverse type of people as a monolith and you end up not seeing them as a diverse type of people whose only shared trait is their attraction to the same sex while ignoring all the other differences that make them individuals different from each other.