Why do people use gay dating / hook up apps? The reasons vary from finding a quickie, a possible date, to keep up with friends, and so on. I am sure some use it as an emotional boost putting their pics out there and getting tons of messages, building their confidence and ego, which is not a bad thing. Others use it to make money, and I'll get to that later.
I sign on to Grindr often. Right now at 3 PM on a Saturday, with the maximum guys loaded with a paid subscription to the service, I can reach out just two miles while just showing the guys that are currently signed on and looking. On any given Saturday night when Wilton Manors is teeming with activity, I barely break a mile.
Great odds right? Someone may say hello and a conversation could begin. I drop a couple of messages and wait for a response. Now granted, I don't expect much from the app. I don't have a chest pic on there, nor am I a size 32 or under waist. I'm not mr. muscles so I mainly go on there in the hopes that opposites attract. I'm a bigger beefy hairy guy and I do look for the opposite.
I won't get many messages from real options on Grindr and I have come to accept that. More people talk to me on Growlr and some say hello on Scruff. But more guys seem to be using Grindr so I go back and foolishly pay. Go where the boys are, right? Why is it foolish? Because there are little to no rewards. I feel I need to pay to be able to reach out more than 3 blocks from my home for there might be someone 4000 feet away that is a good match. It's the hope that someone might be out there.
Now, yes, that sounds pretty pathetic to many of you, hoping to find someone out there through a dating / hook up site. I go out as well, meet people in public, but sometimes it is just easier on an app. And it also sounds like I'm blaming Grindr for my lack of matches which I am not. What is more so driving me to not pay for Grindr again is the bots, fakes, spammers that are out there. Most days, those are the only messages I get. "this app is draining my battery" and "I'm new on here. how long have you been here?" are most of the messages I receive usually followed by a request to text. So yes, people do use Grindr to make money, scamming people through chat. There's even a tumblr page dedicated to reporting fakes from Grindr, grindrfakes.tumblr.com/. Some of the pics there are NSFW. I think this page is more so for reporting pic collector, but I am sure spammers are present, too.
Why does Grinder and no other apps have these issues? I've run into some issues with Jack'd on occasion but that was a while ago and nothing recent. So why Grindr? It might be because Grindr is to IBM computers as all the other apps are to Apple Computers. Mac computers rarely get viruses because virus writers are too busy writing their weapons for IBM computers and don't spend the time on writing for Macs. Bots, spammers, schemers are focusing their attention on the the popular kid and that is Grindr.
So Grindr, it may seem that your biggest problem, spammers, may be due to your size. But don't worry! If you don't solve the spamming issue, you will have less users for it's getting rather annoying. I am sure I am not along and this is not an empty threat. Spam and viruses is why I own a Mac and never once considered an IBM.
And let's do something about the empty profiles on there as well.