Bravo reality star from Flipping Out and interior designer Jeff Lewis has confirmed that he and his longtime partner, Gage Edward, have separated after over a decade relationship. People reports that Lewis shared on his Sirius XM radio show Jeff Lewis Live that Edward moved out of the home they shared earlier this week. The two welcomed baby girl, Monroe, in 2016 via surrogate.
During the show, Lewis shared:
This has been a long time coming. We were in separate rooms a significant portion of last year, so it was kind of like a roommate situation.
I think the reason we hadn’t ripped the Band-Aid off and separated is because a) we had the baby and neither one of us want to leave the baby and then b) financially, it wasn’t the best time because I have four properties right now — three of which are in construction and one of which is sellable.
The two apparently had continued to have sexual relations during the last stretch of their relationship:
We were like friends with benefits. We would still hook up, inconsistently. I was still encouraged, like, ‘There’s still something here… he’s still interested in me… But there was a real lack of intimacy because he wasn’t in my room. So I actually felt very lonely and sad and disappointed.
Ultimately, it was Lewis who apparently pulled the plug on the awkward living situation:
That arrangement doesn’t work for me. I already feel tortured by this — for months, and months, and months. I said to him, ‘I want to be very clear, I’m not throwing you out. I’m not breaking up with you. I’m here. You need time and space to get perspective.’
Lewis shared that for the last two months he noticed Edward starting to look for apartments. The two struggled with communication issues and eventually Lewis just got tired of trying to make it work:
There’s so much anger that he has lost sight of the good things. Every time we have one of these discussions, it’s so overwhelmingly negative. I have a very different perspective. Last year was hell, but I remember nine pretty solid years. We had some fun. So I said to him, ‘I encourage you to work through that resentment and focus on the positive things because there could be more to come.’
I’m hoping that the guy wakes up. I’m hoping that he sits in his hotel room, misses his family, starts focusing on the positive, and stops focusing on the negative. That’s what I’m really hoping.
Lewis acknowledges that he is not the easiest person to be in a relationship with, but asserts that he is firm in the type of partner he is and what he can give the other person:
There’s a lot of negatives with dating Jeff Lewis, but you always know where you stand with me. I dated someone who is not a good communicator. Has never been to therapy and has held things in for 33 years. It breeds a lot of resentment.
No word on what will happen with the custody of their 2-year-old daughter, but Lewis has shared:
I don’t even want to go there. I’m now a single dad ’cause the baby is with me.